How do I solve my sexual frustration?

[Anonymous]

I’m very sexually frustrated. Haven’t had sex in months, it maybe even be a year now. I don’t want to act like a “hoe”, or someone just trying to get sex out of people. And no one wants a relationship with me. Masturbating doesn’t fix the issue, I need real sex. Ugh... what do I do? (It’s also in the middle of a pandemic lol)

[Red_Arrow]

Probably many men you know are facing a similar dilemma. You should check with them. If someone approached me like that, I would feel honored, whether or not I would accept (which could depend on many things). I would not consider you a hoe. And you would be helping him, too.

[Asker]

Nice feedback!! Can you tell me what things you are depending on, whether or not you would accept?

[Red_Arrow]

Do I know her and trust her? I would not want to catch a disease. Do I respect her? Would she still respect me?

[Red_Arrow]

Looking at other responses, I will add that it would not diminish a friendship we had from my end, and I would not want it to be lessened on your end, either. Sex is a beautiful thing and should only bring you closer. And even if your body was not one that I would prefer, I would like it because it is yours, and would be happy to be with you for sex. You worry about an imperfect body. No body is perfect, and some of those imperfections make it even sexier for some guys.

[Asker]

This honestly helps!! Although, I’ve had one friendship end because I told him about my crush on him. It was sad, but I know not all guys are like that. But also- I’ve come across many guys that want sex with a very nice looking body. Since I don’t really have that in my opinion, I’m not quite sure if many guys will actually want to have sex with me.

[Lost_Spark]

Good words!

[Red_Arrow]

Some will, some won't. Depends on their preferences. But if it is someone you know and there are circumstances (such as these) they are more likely to agree to it. And I think you are just too worried about your body. I am betting it is fine, maybe even great.

[Asker]

Thank you so much :)

[MrTuxedo]

One night stands are always a thing. Or friends with benefits. If you are really desperate, you can ask one of your male friends if they want to have casual sex with you. I'm sure they wouldn't refuse.

[Asker]

Why do you think they wouldn’t refuse? Wouldn’t several of them not want to because it could ‘diminish’ our friendships? Or maybe they don’t even see me that way/don’t like my body? I’ve always considered those things as to why I shouldn’t try friends with benefits.

[MrTuxedo]

I think most of my female friends are attractive, and truth to be said, I wouldn't refuse casual sex with some of them. It's just sex, not a relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah... but I’ve also been told my body isn’t exactly the ideal one to be having sexual with lol. I’m not extremely overweight or anything, I just have many imperfections and I’m not super skinny.

[MrTuxedo]

Perfect bodies are rare. I think most men are aware of that.

[Asker]

Hmm you’re right. Just never had someone come up to me and said I’m hot or anything haha.

[MrTuxedo]

Don't worry about that. The thing is, if you have a close male friend, ask him. You have nothing to lose, in worst case, you can say you were joking and thats it.

[Asker]

Honestly that really helps me out. I have a couple guys in mind. Thank you!!

[Quackthulu]

Yeah, the whole pandemic thing does make it difficult. I ended up getting myself a new toy right about the time it all started which does help take the edge off. But I agree, it isn’t quite the same as having an actual partner.

[Ericalovescats]

I know how you feel girl the struggle is real. Do you have any sex toys?

[CamilaP]

By having sex?

[NerdInDenial]

There's plenty of Apps: Tinder, Bumble, Hot or Not, Match...

[Janae_]

Going out more helps it eases the stress and takes your mind of sex a lot. Hang in there the right person is coming.

[chriscdi]

get a boyfriend?

[Asker]

Again, haven’t had much luck with getting into a relationship lately. Or staying in one lol. Whether it’s the guy just not being interested anymore, cheating, etc.

[chriscdi]

friends with benefits?

[magiusX26]

find a person you like. ask them out

[RHK36]

Why doesn't anyone want a relationship with you?

[kamalravi25]

Talk to a man u want in private, tell him about ur problem.

[Gedaria]

Masturbate...

[Meatunnel69]

Wow girl just the effing club 😞 but i got an extra six years on you 😞

[Steve37]

You need to find some sort of sexual outlet

[Agem123]

Having sex doesn't make you a hoe.

Try Tinder.

[iFarted]

have you even tried to get into a relationship?
Go find yourself a friends with benefits.

[goblueCFB1996]

I’m sexually frustrated to

[SpeshalK97]

fuck someone