How do I stop women leaving me when they found out my secret?

i’m a 22 year old man who only wears panties thongs knickers etc, however it’s been impossible to date because of thei how do i go about telling a women this? and any women can they share there thoughts on the fact that if you was talking to a guy and found out he was wearing women’s panties how would you react and would it bother you? thank you in advance

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  • You have to show them that your weird fetish is not your entire identity. If all you do is talk about your fetish and present it to her awkwardly, she is not going to know how she feels about it. It's like being vegan and having your entire identity be you being a vegan and there is nothing else to your personality or identity. But then you meet a vegan who is kind of cool and they are into tennis and they have other hobbies or something and then you don't mind their preferences for being a vegan because you know it's not their entire identity and they are pleasant to be around.

    But if you have your fetish on all the time and act disturbingly she is going to not want to deal with it. And you are ready present it to hear don't put it in her face just tell her about let her know that is something you are into. And don't present it awkwardly like "Hey, I am into this weird thing... and it's kind awkward" she is just going to think "If this is how he feels about it then I don't know how I feel about it" and then she is going to leave you. So make sure you don't shit on yourself when you tell her. Just tell her normally and again show that you are more than just your fetish that is the most important part.

    • i understand what your saying and not being rude but it’s not a wired fetish it’s literally just clothing

    • I get it, a lot of guys like to wear lingerie because they love women and the way they look, but some people don't see it that way. Like the girls in the chat think you are transgender. I understand you just love femininity and women that is why you want to try on lingerie, but the girl might not be able to process it right away and might be afraid of you being transgender or maybe you are not the man she thought you were. Because a lot of break women's hearts when they go trans and they don't want to experience that. Again I get it's just cross-dressing or whatever you call it and you are not trans, but a lot of girls are going to be confused when they see it. But I don't think it's impossible for someone to like you because you seem like reasonable person.

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  • Dude. You’re either taking the piss or just plain ignorant. You KNOW why women leave that kind of man - because it’s feminine and weird and a major turn off. Women (almost always) like men who are manly. This may not necessarily be tipped with muscle but it at least means not embodying weird female behavior.


    You want a conventional woman you’re going to need to be a conventional man. If you can’t then accept that your talent pool for eligible AND interested women plummets to a small and obscure fraction of the female population.


    This is just the reality of life.

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  • It’s cause that shit is g.
    Girls who date men want to date men and what they bring to the table. Lingerie is categorized as women’s wear just like boxer briefs for men.
    You’ll either have to be extremely forthcoming with your lifestyle to the people you’re dating and hope you stumble on n a woman who doesn’t mind, or continue doing what you’re doing and face the consequences.

    For most women, men that partake in your lifestyle we find it to be an odd kink or fetish and I’m sure there are women who would like that, but most of us are a pass.

    • how the f is that gay?

  • How many men do you personally know that wear female underwear? Women want to date guys who wear boxer briefs because that's what guys usually wear. You can't expect women to be ok with this sort of lifestyle choice, because this is what women wear, not men. Accept the fact that no woman will take a man who doesn't dress like a man.

    • it’s just panties? it’s not like i’m in full drag like a freak lol 😂

    • Have you tried telling that to them? If so, how did that turn out?

    • can i message you privately don’t fancy saying this on a public thing lol

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  • I wish I could give an answer to the problem, but I can't. This is something that is so tricky. But if I'm honest if I met a guy who I later found out wore lingerie I wouldn't really care. As long as he wasn't going to borrow my undergarments, it'd be fine. He has his underwear and I have mine. 🩲 But I feel bad for the many guys like you who do love to wear women's clothing, as it's hard to find women to date when you have an interest like that. But I do hope you one day find her.

  • Why in the world you prefer wearing these stuff?

    • feels nicer

    • You are sure you not gay? I would thought that you are one.

    • no i’m definitely not gay i just like how it feel

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  • If they can't accept you for your choice of underwear, they don't deserve you. It'll take time and effort to find someone who accepts you for everything you are, panties and all, but it'll be worth the wait.

  • It reminds me of one thing: when I am on Quora and I browse stuff about women's lingerie, it's full of men wearing them and showing unsolicited pics on the web. You just want to make a research to find e. g. better materials and you suddely have a lot of guys posting sexual stuff and embarassing themselves like this. And it's not s coincidence that in these kind of threads, the male:female ratio is like 5:1 and we're talking about female underwear!

    Very creepy. Like if you can sense that these men are so horny that they get obsessed about female underwear, while for a girl it's not a big deal. It's just a way to hide panty lines.

    It's a major turn off for me and I don't need to explain why. Just make 2+2 lol. And date men if you like dressing like a girl.

    • i’m not gay

  • Best advice you’ll get. DON’T WEAR THEM THEN. Ffs 🤦‍♀️

    • what if i want to wear them? i’m just asking for your opinion

    • Then you deal with the consequences of your choices.

    • i’m just asking how you’d react? can you answer please

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  • It's a total turnoff for me, please don't do it if you are seriously interested in dating women.

    • why is it a turn off? that’s what i’m asking

    • Many people replied and they explained why. I think you know, you just can't accept it. I think you have to choose between one of the two: you either date women or wear their lingerie

  • I can’t see how women’s thong would be more comfortable for you than men’s thong. So I’d think you’re wearing it for reasons other than comfort. Everyone has their deal breakers so you can’t stop them from leaving you.

    • i wear them and it’s comfortable some how lol

  • you're sissy.

    • *a...

    • ok lmao

  • You should try not doing that. That is the kind of thing best kept to yourself. And maybe don't do it on the first date or hell any date

  • Look for a gender fluid person with a vagina. Normal women don’t like men wearing their underwear

  • Do you wear your own, or do you wear theirs?

    • If she loves you, she will do it not because it turns her on but because she knows it turns you on and makes you happy. She might also have a kink that you can indulge. There are open minded girls out there - it takes time and trust to find the right girl for you and your kink.

    • both lol

    • Do you get issues when you get a boner in her little thong?

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  • Bro keep the panties and say good bye to the ladies… get rid of them and say good bye to the ladies. Doesn’t matter if you wear the panties or not. Bottom line is you’re not a real man and never will be the will smell your pussy from a far and still want nothing to do with you!

    • i’m not a real man how? i wear panties so what i still have dick 😂

    • Having a dick does not make you a man it makes you male big difference

    • ok i didn’t know you was such a big strong man

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  • Major turn off

    • why what about it is a turn off, l? can i have context

    • Yes, your a man. It's that simple

    • i don’t understand why it’s a turn off?

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  • Women don't want men who act like women, it's that simple. Just get over yourself and wear men's underwear.

  • you could try not being a pervert.

    • not a perver but ty

    • wearing women's underwear is a sick perversion.

    • no it’s not it’s a choice i make get over it

  • There are panties designed for guys. I don't mean briefs, I mean actual panties. I would say you should try that.

    • i’ve tried looking but can’t find any have you got a link for them?

    • No. I just heard about them before

  • You should start wearing men's underwear then it will change your habit and then you will have no secret and women will not leave you.

    • why should i change?

    • It’s a habit, whether you want to change it or not it’s upto you.

    • women should just accept it i honeyslt don’t understand the issue

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  • One of those transmen thingies might be your best bet.

    • what’s that?