How do I tell him to step up his abilities?

I love my b/f, and don't want to lose him or end things with him. The problem is he has a low sex drive while I have I guess, according to him, a high sex drive. Would it kill the relationship if I told him I want to see other guys, just to hook up, no feelings or emotions. If the situation was reversed and I couldn't satisfy him, then I would understand if he needed to see other girls.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Best to try to resolve it between yourselves before getting other sex partners involved. How often do you want sex? He should be good for at least once a day. I can go 3 times a day but more than that feels like overkill. If I take half a a Viagra, that steps things up greatly, but I am 50. 18 is quite young to be taking Viagra.

    Whatever you decide, definitely tell him before hooking up with someone else. And do not be surprised if that thought pushes him away.

  • You guys should break up. If you're considering seeing other people but still like him as a friend, you're not in the right relationship. Start seeing other guys who will make you far happier than he can. You owe that to yourself and to him. Every day you don't you are just wasting more of each other's time you could be both spending with your actual true loves.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It might indeed be a bad idea to tell him. But if you are this unhappy you should definitely talk to him about this. You should be able to talk to your partner about sex. He might not even know that it bothers you this much.

    • He kinda knows... and before him, sex was always kinda whateverz... meh... but with him, hard to explain but just everything came to life. I've gotten with some other guys and its good, just not as good. He knows I use my vibrator a lot, before he gets here, sometimes after we did it. I dont want to hurt him, it isn't his fault.

    • In my relationship my partner also has a lower libido. I had been very unhappy with it. He also knows that I took care of myself and everything. But it wasn’t until I actually expressed to him how much it truly harms our relationship (because I use sex as a way to express my love and I feel more connected to him), it changed. We talk about sex more often now to get on the same page as of whether we’re both happy with it or need to change things up.

  • You wanna what,,, Ohky time to get out of the closet, you a slutt

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  • One thing is for sure.. if he doesn't like it then you would have to pay a heavy price for your honesty. But it's better to be honest than to cheat anytime

  • He will NOT be happy

  • try talking him into using toys on you to suppliment his lack of libido

  • You look like a horrible person. Just ask for mmf or mff instead of cheating behind his back

  • Be honest. You deserve to find sexual pleasure with a high sex drive; either with him or with others. Don’t keep away from sex just because his drive is low.

  • women think that their orgasm is the most important thing in the world.

  • Yes, eventually it would kill the relationship... if not at that first moment. But, you should be able to feel satisfied, too, and it wouldn't be a bad thing to let him know that he's lacking.

  • So because he has a low sex drive, u want to have sex with other guys?

  • I don't know, and I don't care

  • That would definitely be bad for the relationship unless he's into being cocked sex shouldn't be that important if the sex is bad and everything else is good I don't see a problem go buy a sex toy or something

  • Talk to him would be risky seeing others

  • tell him just that, you want him to be your partner and ne can have you any time he wants, but you need more sex, and it will only be sex

  • Yeah it may kill the relationship but you can go talk to him that you are not satisfied and help him approve his sexual abilities... to improve his sex drive day him like "i might have a high sex drive but can you take your sex drive higher then me?" Just challenge his ego and boom you have your improved one

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  • Absolutely communication is key

  • ah so you want to whore yourself around like the filthy fucking piece of shit you are.

    • you must have me confused with your mom.

    • Oh so you want me to fuck you and your mom at the same time? Nah I don't think so you filthy whore

    • Nah, neither of us would be willing... we draw the line at micro-penis incels like you. Sorry... but I'm sure you can find some good gay porn to use.

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  • Do you think he might be open to that suggestion? It's a risky thing to bring up, but if you know him well enough to think he might be open to it, then try. But if you aren't looking for others specifically, just more sex, maybe you can talk and compromise on it? Or if you too different that way, maybe you just aren't sexually compatible, love him or not. It will ultimately come between you anyway, it's just a matter of when you or he has "had enough".

  • Works for some people that's what I let my girlfriend do