How do I tell if I am gay?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been married to a man for almost 6 years. I love him so must and he is my best friend. He’s so good to me and I appreciate him so much, but when it comes to sexual intimacy things are really difficult. Sex with him hurts, and I know what you’re going to say. Yes, I’ve seen several doctors about the pain and all of them alway circle back to being able to get aroused, so I am convinced that is the issue.

I’ve never had sex with a woman, I’ve kissed one and I’ve enjoyed it. I’ve also kissed men and enjoyed it. So I don’t know….

When I watch porn, I watch it for the women… let’s be honest, isn’t that why everyone watches porn? But I don’t know if that’s just a pornography thing or just what porn is centered around.

[Aerolyn]

Imma tell you this.

I low-key watch gay porn and I like it.

At some point I tried hooking up with a guy and it didn't go well.

Then I tried again with someone that looked more feminine, but was still a guy.

Still didn't go well, I concluded that I'm just not into guys and I just like the porn stuff.

That could be the case with you, you might just find the porn hot, but you may not like it when you actually do it.

Again, I could be wrong.

The only way to tell for sure is if you actually go and have sex with a woman, but I ain't finna recommend that since your married and all.

But who knows, these days people get thier partner on board will all sorts of things, wouldn't be surprised if you were able to convince him to be okay with you hooking up with some chick.

[Kabluie]

I have a shirt that says "If you know, you know" with different pride flags spelling it out.

You could be bi or even pansexual, can like anyone regardless of sex or gender. I still think if you have to ask, it's probably not entirely there

[Laura131]

It doesn't mean your gay. More like bi or bi interested at least.

[Laura131]

This is my fault I miss read the titel lmao. But reading from yours story it dose sound like your bi or at least bi interested

[summiter]

Does he give you orgasms from oral sex? Use lube every time. Maybe you are bi... who cares. How often are you two having sex currently?

[Berethor]

You kissed a woman and enjoyed it, you clearly a queer, might be asexual as well.

[Staximus]

Tell him to eat that pussy

[Asker]

I have… and he has

[Staximus]

And you do not get aroused after that?

[Staximus]

It should not hurt after that if you're wet

[Asker]

I don’t really get wet…:

[Staximus]

Do you have some kind of psychological block from childhood trauma or something? Have you talked to a psychologist or sex therapist about this?

[Asker]

I’ve been to therapists and doctors

[Staximus]

Well he shouldn't be sticking it in dry. If you don't get wet, he should use some lube at least

[Asker]

Lube doesn’t make up for not being aroused… that’s like saying… oh your not hard, just put a condom on…

[Staximus]

You can try fooling around with women but if you don't get aroused, then you have a psychological block you have to work past

[Caliguy88]

The girl I kinda see was in your same boat. She recently just went down on two girls and decided she likes guys more. Lol. But being married kinda makes that difficult.

[Djaay]

Ur Not , ur just wishing things would be more subtle with a gay woman. But guess what, that harness she wears will tear ur ass up even more tho. Lmao.

[Asker]

Harnesses are gross and turn me off

[Djaay]

Then don't go gay. Sounds to me u have a mental block concerning men and being open towards men for some unfortunate reason. For God's sake , sex isn't punishment , its more than that u know.

[Asker]

Then it shouldn’t be a painful experience every time I try

[Djaay]

Right , although ur closing up bc of something ur not being true to.

[Asker]

That’s quite the assumption

[Anonymous]

A woman that's queer. Wow, big fucking surprise. Are there any heterosexual women left anywhere?

[Asker]

Ask your mom

[Anonymous]

Do you get aroused and orgasm when you masturbate?

If you weren't married, would you want a date with a guy or a girl

[Anonymous]

You are probably not if you have to question it.