How do I tell my boyfriend I don't like rough sex?

He likes it but I don't. I like slow and loving sex, he does this too sometimes but other times he likes it the other way and I don't. It scares me and hurts. I can't stay aroused it kills my sexual desires. Plus later my body hurts including my boobs and private area. I am crying writing this because I love him so much but I hate this. But I also don't want to hurt his male ego.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • You need to put yourself first here. This guy is being really selfish and it shows he doesn't care about your feelings.

    It's important to set boundaries and make clear that there are limits to what you will do.

    Fuck his ego. Dump him and find someone who cares about how you feel and will be tender with you.

    Tenderness is a sign of real love and affection.

    • Thanks for the MHO!

    • you're welcome thank you too

  • Screw his male ego. It is also about your body and your pleasure and YOU deserve some great orgasms also. Just tell him that it hurts and is uncomfortable. Also consider using some lube each time it really feels better. How often are you two having sex? If you go for round 2 is it the same way?

Most Helpful Girls

  • You tell him you don’t like rough sex. If he loves you then he’ll respect that and change accordingly. If he doesn’t then he will never respect you and doesn’t really love you.

  • If he loves you he will respect you. Just think on that.

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  • Tell him what you want face-face and then he will know you are serious. He should stop without being told. If he does not then there's a good look at character and personality.

  • You speak to him. Simple as that

  • Sec is something that both of you need to enjoy. Make sure he knows that. If he’s unwilling to compromise, it’s better to know now than later. Give him an ultimatum.

  • By telling him lol that's literally the only way

  • He’s using you for sex probably and if he makes it uncomfortable for you to express that you don’t like something this is worse.

    “His male ego” lol.

  • "I don't like rough sex, get it"? If not, get lost. Simple.

  • Read out the above to him!

  • Just tell him that you don't like rough sex you want more passionate sex

  • You say "I don't like rough sex, I like slow and loving sex. rough sex scares me and hurts. I can't stay aroused and it kills my sexual desires. Plus later my body hurts including my boobs and private area"

  • “I don’t like rough sex”

  • better tell him now

  • "Baby, I don't like rough sex. I'm sad I can't make that work for you, but my hot girlfriend here loves it, so I'll just watch"