How do I tell my boyfriend to be rougher with me In bed?

Me and my boyfriend first had sex and lost are virginity to each other around 4 months ago. My boyfriend is very good in the bedroom and knows what I like but I still like to experiment.

Were still learning what we like and what feels good. I know I like being spanked and having my hair pulled in the bedroom. Wad very surprised at first but I enjoyed rough sex but know I just want to try more but I don't feel my boyfriend has the confidence to do that type of stuff to me in bedroom and doesn't want to hurt me so he doesn't do it very often.

Drives me crazy and makes me cum so hard when he pounds away inside me and pulls me hair and slaps me. Just wish he'd manhandle me a little more, I even want him to choke me a little but I don't know how to tell him I like that stuff without him thinking I'm weird. I'm just a kinky little bitch and sometimes enjoy getting my brains fucked out, I don't want slow and romantic sex it's not for me.
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  • You need to sit him down when it's not sexytime and have this discussion with him. Start by telling him how great he is and how fantastic things are generally, and how much you absolutely LOVE when he spanks you, pulls your hair, and fucks you nice and hard. Tell him WHY it's so amazing for you, and then say "and because I've discovered how amazing all those things are for me, I'm dying to try even more."

    Then tell him the other things you want to try, and why you trust him to do those things with you, and how incredible you think it will be. Be prepared to be very specific about what you want and more importantly, why you want it. He may ask, so you need to be able to give him those answers as best you can. You can tell him that you didn't really know this was what you would want before you had sex, but having had it, you are learning what works for you, and this is it.

    Then, shut up and listen to what HE has to say, and really listen. If he's unsure, be understanding, and maybe help reassure him. And if he has a kink or request, be open to that as well.

    This kind of open communication is how you take sex to the next level. It takes communication and trust, but if you have that, you get even closer, and sex is even better.

  • The problem with hard sex is it tends to end too soon. It is very difficult to hold back a pending ejaculation when going all out. So, the gentle stuff is usually a kind of "filler" (no pun intended) to keep her warm until I'm acclimatized. It is the wish of most men to be able to fuck hard for hours without ejaculation.

    As to that, I have a theory. I suspect that if a guy is encouraged to rush to completion every time, he will eventually gain endurance. I could be wrong, but I think of it as heavy lifting - just doing it once is going to exhaust you. But if you work at it each day, it will gradually become less of a shock to the system. So, if you want to float the idea of "sexual training" to him, in which he tries to get an average fastest time for a week and then tries to hold back without slowing down ever after that, please let me know if it works. I've had this theory for some time and have no way to test it, myself..

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  • It's might be hard for your boyfriend to believe that you are kinky little bitch considering that you was a virgin 4 months ago, he is likely think that you are weird anyway, no matter how are you going to tell him that, but at the same time it's not weird for a female to be submissive, the weird/dark part is that you want him to manhandle you, anyway you should try to appeal to your boyfriend's men are tough feelings rather than his gentleman feelings, if you want him to manhandle you, and your boyfriend might not like the idea of hitting a girl even if you are asking for it.

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  • Tell him

  • Another home schooled American?

    How do I tell my boyfriend to be rougher with me In bed?
  • Just tell him. Assure him it's not because he's doing something wrong or that you haven't enjoyed what you have done, because you have, but you've thought a lot about it, and you would love to try it that way. Once he sees that it's what pleases you most, he'll do it every time.

  • LEAVE HIM

    It's never gonna work. You're welcome

  • Talk to him... tell him you want to act out these fantasies of being forced...

  • You just... tell him. Pretty simple.

  • Tell him straight out I’m sure he’ll love it!

  • I have a good way to tell him.
    BE ROUGHER WITH ME IN BED!!!
    If he says "What?"
    Say. " FU** THE SH** OUT OF ME!!!

  • You can tell him by concocting a story where a girl gets enjoyment by rough sex. Ask your boyfriend if he likes it? Remember he is very caring and doesn't want to hurt you. Here you have to take initiative verbally or through body movement.

  • Just tell him what you like and he'll do it

  • grab his wrist and put his hand around your throat next time you fuck. He will get the hint ;)

  • You Slap his ass or face curse him he will start to do same to you

  • Tell him exactly what you want him to do.

  • Talk to him about it. Communication is everything. While you're having sex, tell him to go harder. Take his hand and put it around your throat. Odds are he'll take the hints and give you what you want. Then afterwards, tell him how much you enjoyed the rough stuff. Ask him what he thinks about it. Reassure him if he seems hesitant.

  • How did you and him first meet?

  • Face slapped?