How do I know I gave a good handjob?

Ok so this is the first time I gave my boyfriend a handjob and also his first receiving one. It was kinda awkward at first because we were standing up and our bodies were really close and I didn't have space to really stroke it. I tried but it was really slow and I told him if he could help me because I wasn't sure if I was doing so good and so he started laughing at me. I felt bad and awkward like I wasn't doing good so then I scooted back and stayed stroking at an easy not so slow pace and I twisted my hand on it abit and his eyes were closed. Then he started kissing me a lot. But he didn't make noises or move much so question is how do I know if I gave him a good hand job , was it bad? Please help
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  • Honestly, this is simply something that's going to take practice, and some guys will adjust to it quickly, and other guys will struggle more, because if he's used to anything, it's his OWN hand (and he'll be a MASTER of whatever technique he's used to, while you obviously won't be).

    If you can, using some lube (saliva if nothing else, but it will dry out quickly, forcing frequent reapplications) will make a huge difference. Even though many guys don't use lube themselves, they can adjust the pressure to make sure they don't chaff themselves (too much, anyway), and they can adjust speed and pressure in real-time to optimize how it feels. There's no way you can do that, especially not at first, so having lube will give both added sensation AND added protection, and give the girl some room for error.

    Beyond that, you have to pay attention to his responses and adjust accordingly. You'll want to start with slow strokes at first, and slowly build up in speed. If he doesn't give you any verbal feedback ("faster" "harder" "tighter"), then pay attention to his breathing, if he's bucking his hips, or any other signs that he's getting close.

    When he's getting close, you'll likely be stroking at a pretty good speed. Do everything you can to maintain a steady speed at that point until he is completely finished with his orgasm, at which point you should slow way down for a little bit (20-30 seconds) and then stop. Whatever you do, do NOT stop stroking the minute you see his first jet of cum, or you'll greatly diminish his orgasm.

    Don't expect perfection, or anything close, the first few times, but the more you do it, the better you'll be at it, and the greater the chance that you'll achieve "completion."

  • If u touch a guys penis, it feels good no matter what. You can't really give a bad handjob but u could give a handjob that isn't as good as it could be. Just start off slow, use some lotion or saliva for a little lube, stroke up and down the whole penis slowly, twist your hand as u move to the top of the head, start to go faster and faster and at the end jerk off just the head and watch him cum all over you. Also open your mouth and show him. U don't actually have to get any jizz in your mouth, but it's such a turn on when a girl has their mouth open

    • I didn't have any lube and I didn't use my mouth or saliva , it was dry , that's what worried me

    • Yeah it's twice as good with lube. Did u make him cum?

    • No it didn't get to that

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  • I do not need to read past the question.
    Are you female? If yes, is the guy straight? if yes
    You = Awesome handjob

  • If the result was come spurting from his cock, you can be assured that it's good. that said, act like you are trying to pull the come from the core of his body. Also act like you love stroking his cock and making him come. If you have too much detachment it becomes too mechanical. I like it when a woman lies down and we are skin to skin while she doing it. I love looking into a woman's eyes when I (or she) comes. Keeping your eyes open isn't a natural thing but it adds so much to see the real person at the moment she makes you come

  • We'll I'm sure he wanted to moan but was scared he would make it awkward whenever I close my eyes getting head I feel like I'm in heaven haha

  • If he had an orgasm, it was a good handjob. It's that simple. If the handjob led to a blowjob or sex, it was also a good handjob.

  • Did he ejaculate? Was he moaning? How loud or intense was his moaning? Did he ask for more?

    • No nothing , it didn't last for long either , just kept kissing me and stayed quite

  • If he squirts, it was a good HJ. If not, it wasn't.

  • You used your mouth instead.