How do women have sex without feeling like "sex objects"?

whenever you tell women or they realize that you're only interest in having sex with them they immediately get offended and super defensive. they will say whatever negativity about you that comes to their mind at the moment depending who the woman is but I always noticed that one of the things they all say is...

"I/We are not a sex objects!"


so I was wondering what exactly is the deal? how can you have sex with a woman without making her feel like a sex object? must you take them out on a date or commit to them in any way first? cause this is the only way they have sex without actually feeling like an object
How do women have sex without feeling like sex objects?
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  • It’s because women’s sexuality is different men’s sexuality. Most women don’t really understand men’s sexuality, even though they pretend to understand it.

    Women are less visual when it comes to sexual stimulation or attraction. It’s very rare for a woman to feel the same level of attraction for men, that a man feels for a woman based on physical appearance. Most women are primarily turned on by touch and sound. Many women like to get kissed on certain parts of their bodies by their partners and also like getting talked to in a dirty manner by their partners.

    When most women have sex, they are usually not aroused by how the man looks but rather what the man can do. This Seinfeld skit explains most women’s sexuality.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/a9v8hcAezkk
    • not saying I disagree but this i comedy. though yea judging by their actions most of it is true. it also seems that women are sexually turned on by things that will serve them as a convenience, hence why prostitutes have always existed.

  • women are sex objects.

    • all the way and their action speaks loud enough

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  • Those women are usually only interested in a relationship if there is sex involved. Why they get offended by someone just simply being attracted to them I will never understand, they have to realize not everyone will want to date them. But that's a different discussion. As long as there is mutual respect between myself and partners there's no feeling like an object going on. You don't have to go on dates or anything to avoid that, it's just treating the other person like a human being. It's simple really, regardless of the nature of the relationship.

    • I take it that you're not from America

    • Nah I live in the states lol

    • then you must of migrated here or probably your parents are first wave immigrants cause you think like a woman outside the west. I wouldn't be surprise if you start getting a few pink downvotes from here on now

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  • Be upfront about it from the beginning and let your intentions be known. There are women out there that are looking for a friends with benefits, but you both need to be on the same page. Women feel used when guys lead them on, acting like you want a romantic relationship when all you want is sex.

    • "Be upfront about it from the beginning and let your intentions be known." dude this is exactly when they get defensive and claim they're not sex objects. they hit used to hit me with that "oh what do you take me as? I got too much self respect!" and the list goes on "Women feel used when guys lead them on" it sounds like women actually love being used and let on as its these dudes who they always let between their legs. "acting like you want a romantic relationship when all you want is sex" definitely not me, I'm ASD therefore I'm handicapped at lying. but again I never succeeded on the world of hookups as much as my male friends and relatives who are borderline pathological liars because I always set the cards on the table. so it seems like again women love being lied and let on

    • Well apparently you don't want to listen to any women's opinions on the subject here. We're just trying to help, but clearly you just want to rant. If you want a hookup or a friends with benefits go on dating sites that cater to that. Don't take your rejection out on everyone else.

    • lol sooo many women get SUPER offended and lash out at guys who proposition them for sex in no uncertain terms. Your advice is exactly the kind you'd expect to hear from somebody who has absolutely no skin in the game and consequently no knowledge of the risks involved.

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  • I’d feel like less of an object if he and i dated longterm first and were in love

    • so to put it simple you must be in a RELATIONSHIP in order to not feel like an object, interesting.

    • Im far from simple. Being in a relationship is not enough. We’d have to have dated at least 6 months and be in love

    • oh well good luck with that. being that "far from simple" will turn off most men in 6 weeks or even days

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  • Consent and mood usually works.

    • I followed you because your name has Casanova in it. Frankly man, why are you the opposite?

    • lol.

    • Anon1903 I look up to Casanova because he was a good philosopher and I agree with almost all of his views. Not because of his Pussywhipped lifestyle. On the contrary I have a contempt on him as well for choosing that

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  • Most women actually love to feel like sex objects, but only in a context where she's not being judged for it.

    • I agree 110% with your first sentence. but trust me, as long as they're being rewarded for being a sex object "judgment" is the last thing they give a fuck about

    • I think we're saying the same thing but in a different way. If a guy judges a girl for wanting to be treated like a sex object, then she just won't be HIS sex object, she'll bounce to some other guy who doesn't judge her for it. The guy who "rewards" this behavior is NOT the guy who's judging her for it.

  • By not objectifying them. Show interest in who they are, what they do, and what makes them comfortable.

    • Hmmm, although, there are really insecure women's, who would think you view them as sexual objects, even if 90% of the time you don't even show the sexual desire they claim you show 24/7.

    • sure wish you were righ

    • Huh?

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  • They have to want to use you for sex as well. You should just screw sex workers. It's easier.

    • honestly dude support their honest business instead of the regular basic bitch racket

  • Well, the opposite of being an object is having agency. Women want the ability to have their equal say in the exchange, you know!

    However, since women are strangely averse to agency despite their better judgment, they end up rarely speaking up for themselves. Consequently, what they mean by "agency" is actually in practice just expecting the man to interpret what she wants FOR her and apply it to his own decisions without further questions or complaints!

  • Probably the same way men do