How do you bring up the sex conversation in a new relationship?

[Anonymous]

For a bit of context, we are both 26, in our first relationship, and we met on hinge in June 2022; we made things official in August, and things are going great for us.

We first began experimenting sexually back in mid-November, and we started with making out, hand jobs, fingering, and oral sex, and we both enjoy this.; since then, that is all we have done, as each week we try out different things but within those restrictions.
With that being said, we are both virgins, and this is our first relationship, so I do wonder when we might have "sex," but then I'm working on getting on birth control, so I do not wish to bring it up until I'm safe on my end.
My boyfriend tried a condom for the first time about a month ago and now has an idea on how to put it on, so we are good on that end of things, but I would also appreciate some advice on how to bring this up, without seeming pushy if that makes sense? Also, we began having sleepovers last month, so we are good in terms of places to do the deed as he has a home and lives alone.

Thanks!

[oddwaffle]

Okay. The basics. The best setup is to get a hotel (a clean one) so you don't have to clean up the mess afterwards. The ones with a shower is best. Don't use motel. This will save you almost all the problems especially with other people and stuff.

Get a box of condom and a bottle of lube. Take a couple extra towels from the hotel bathroom. Buy some extra with you also.

Start with showering together. Make sure you are both cleaned down there. There is nothing worse than getting turned off by the smell.

In the bed. How you do it is up to you but ideally, you should suck him up first.

If he cums while you are sucking then either shallow or spit out but remember to drain him.

Then he needs to start licking you. He needs to work at it until you are really horny and comfortable. The whole point is to get you to relax and enjoy the foreplay.

Once you guys are ready, lube up your vagina, then either let him finger you with the condom on his finger or just put his covered penis in.

Remember to have 2-3 layers of towels underneath you so any mess will not destroy the sheets and make the hotels charge you extra.

[Asker]

Thank you very much for the advice!!

[Rudon00]

Perfect opportunity to ask sex related questions on what positions you like. How your body reacts to stimulation for orgasming. What foreplay you like and how to go about it.

Don't ever ever forget to have plenty of foreplay.

[Anonymous]

That's awesome that he figured out how to put a condom on.

[Berethor]

You only technical virgins, done everything beside the main thing, so no need to act naive.

[zazzy_mazzy]

I just am open about it

[In_Trance]

Holy shit...
Wtf have you been doing for 7 months?

[Asker]

Taking things slow, so we have begun by going on a bunch of fun dates such as mini-golfing, bowling, dinner dates, movies, board game cafes etc. He then moved forward in inviting me to family functions, and then from there in November we decided to move into sexual exploration.

[Anonymous]

i assume he was the one who asked you out