How do you feel about having sex in a car?

My boyfriend feels we should have sex whenever as long as we get to spend some "alone time" together even if its having sex in a car. I feel its stupid and I feel cheap. Sex should be when both want to not whats convenient at that moment. How do you feel about this?

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My boyfriend has now said he wil get back with me if we can have sex 3xs a week but he knows that wnt happen with "my celibate as$"
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  • I have only had sex with my current boyfriend, we plan to marry and so on, I know his parents and they call me their daughter-in-law and everything, so he is not using me for just sex. We do have sex in the car. It's true that mostly we do it because we don't have any other space, other people also live at our places. For losing my virginity we paid for a hotel not to feel cheap and uncomfortable and then we continued in car. Always having sex in the car is tiring, also heavily depends on car model, not all cars are similarly convenient. In general, of course I prefer a bedroom but I think it's fun to do it whenever you feel like it and there's hygiene and privacy. It's a turn off for men if both of you want it and you're not easy enough to do it at the moment. It would kill my mood if I had to wait till bedroom. I don't feel less "Queen" because of this, actually this may make him treat you with even more adoration. Also, it's not what you do in sex that determines how he sees you. You may always have very respectful bedroom sex and he may still not consider you a queen. I think you wouldn't have the issue if you felt he treats you the best outside sex too.

  • I feel that sex is sacred im not saying wait for marriage obviously too late for some of us but at least love the person enough to want to fool around in the car a little. If you treat it as degrading and whatever that is so not true. But the only thing about sex ladies is that it is a treat that you and your man enjoy together whenever wherever you want. Some people like to spice things up, remember a treat is to be enjoyed out of pure lust for each other. If it's not there... best move on before he tries out the club rats. If he is that guy that is just fixated on cumming a certain time of days or places as a weekly necessity... for me, "ha!", I'd tell him he can marry his hand. Thank you very much! 😆

    • Well said

  • I personally think the not knowing if you're gonna get caught makes sex wayyy fucking hotter. Helps me get in the mood if there's an element of "fuck me so hard i can't help screaming, but can't cuz your hands over my mouth cuz there's a distinct possibility someone might catch us in the act." I don't know I guess that makes me a whore but fuck it. I lost my virginity unwillingly in a tree. So that probably has a lot to do with the fact this is the thing I'm into. Pretty sure most non-damaged as fuck females wouldn't get off on it the same way.

    • Yes I do to

    • On a tree? you're the first I've heard this from.

  • I think that guys should treat women as they are a queen and not have sex in a car that is cheap isn't that why we have bedrooms with doors and locks

    • I agree

    • We'll sometimes a bedroom is not available and it's just a moment you get lost in it and if it happens you will remember. Be that as it may your 15 geez, plus we men suck so just be happy.

    • You'll get treated the way you treat me n it's not cheap n we have bedrooms with doors n locks for sleeping n privacy. Dipshit

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  • Ya, how about no? The penalty for being caught in sexual activity in public is rather hefty. I get the idea and it the taboo nature is what makes it seem so appealing. Though, like i already mentioned it's not the most optimal solution. I agree with another responder partly in the fact it should be something that is more so spontatius as it's more enjoyable and warranted. Once again, i can't stress enough that sex in public is a criminal offense and if you get caught having a "good time" in your car you're likely to have a record and lose your jobs. When all things considered unless you're damn well hidden with tinted windows it's best to just avoid doing so. (States vary drastically so i suggest seeing how sever the consequence of an act i in your state)

    • Its a violent pornography , choking chick and sodomy the kinda shit that you get on your tv! is what i think about it.

    • @Spacebears My god man. It's a good thing you're rich then huh? You don't have to worry about these fun things.

    • Well it was lyrics, from system of a down lol

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  • I personally don't think "alone time" is the same as Sex. Sex is something that both people need to be in the mood for. If you aren't feeling it and he won't stop, RUN. Never look back. No means NO.

    • This is bullshit!! If you're talking about rape, none in this age has the guts to rape someone because he'll go to fuckin jail!! So no don't listen to this asshole do something for him and he will do something for you that's how it goes in relationships if you're not in the mood and he is you have to give him something so that when you're in the mood he will give you something back that's gender equality in a relationship these assholes don't know what they're talking about!!

    • @derek2017 You spout about gender equality, but what I said had nothing to do with gender. If I wasn't in the mood and she was, I would back away too.

    • Im just saying that if she doesn't satisfy me don't expect me to satisfy her that's all im saying

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  • I don't necessarily believe sex in a car is "cheap" so to speak. It could be nice in a kinky kind of way if your into the thrill of doing something somewhere you could be seen. That being said however, it's all about the perspective and how you and your partner feel about it. You should both be on board. He should make you feel forced to do something just because he wants it, that's manipulative. You saying he's demanding sex in certain places and having sex a certain number of times a week sounds a little controlling to me. Sec is healthy for a relationship and a little bit of spontaneity and adventure can be good but if he's pressing you to do something you don't want to do that's not good. He's only making you more uncomfortable by pushing it on you, it should be said as an option not a demand. I personally think doing it in a just for the thrill would be nice but not if I were being pressured to do it.

  • We still have sex in the car every few weeks, I don’t feel that it cheapens the experience it just enhances the fact we want each other so much we don’t want to wait until we get home. As well there is a certain excitement over potentially getting caught (though we’re pretty careful where to pull over).
    Neither of us share the opinion of doing it wherever it’s convenient so maybe that’s the sticking point... I could understand that thought process making it feel cheaper rather than desired

  • Sex in the car is fine as long as its private and you are both in the mood for it. Although this is true, sex shouldn't be forced or scheduled. Just go with the flow and if it feels right, go with it!

  • If he feels so, then you should opt out of this relationship. It never works.

    When it's not mutual, it's not pleasurable at all. And alone time doesn't mean sex only. Usually, alone time is spent on cozyness. In a car, it's only in the rarest times, sometimes it just happens.

    He is very much insecure and is worried about losing you. Or else he is very much secure and not worried about you at all.

  • There have been times when my boyfriend and I did do stuff in the car, not sex all the way but other stuff. My friends have done it too and they are super conservative, it's more common than one thinks. There was a time when my boyfriend and I actually had sex on a mountain, it was an incredible view! I felt like Jane from Tarzan. You feel alive! lol We love each other very much so I never felt cheap about it. We both lost our virginity to each other. I was his first kiss as well lol But we haven't done that in like two years. We are much older now and we rather just have sex on the floor, the bed isn't that comfy for us because it bounces too much! lol

    • Hey! We've been married going on three years in July, I still find it fun, naughty and just plain adventurous to have a little romp behind the wheel! It's all about making memories with your guy or gal, these are the things we will look back on when we're old and wrinkled around the edges! I know we already do! My all time favorite place is in the bed of his 4WD truck, he put a queen size air bed with nice sheets and a warm blankie. We were in the middle of a meadow like area just having a really good time, when we heard barely discernible noises. We looked up from what we were doing to see four of the most beautiful deer a mama and her two fawns and a young buck courting mama. The fawns were running around in the moon light, they knew we were there, they didn't care! The young buck came over to the truck and was sniffing around as we were back to bouncing on the air bed! Neither the deer or us paying the other much attention except for that brief moment each party noticed the other!

    • @SammyGurl somethin' about a truck.

    • @SammyGurl sounds like a great memorable experience

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  • Sometimes a little cramped, others I get poked with more than he's trying to poke me with!! It's too much fun to pass up though! I love it in the summer, warm night clear sky with the convertible top down!! Usually have to find somewhere pretty good private to pull that one off, we have a favorite place that's just right for it!!

  • I think it’s hot, but then again, that’s one of my kinks. If you aren’t okay with it, let him know. If he doesn’t respect that, then it’s not worth it.

    • Bases on your update, your boyfriend sounds like an asshole. It sounds like he just wants sex and not you. You are better off without him

    • Based*

  • I don't see why not

  • It can be enjoyable in the heat of the moment. Not very comfortable.

  • If you two have been together for a while i think it's ok to try doing it in new places. It will bring back the excitement. But i wouldn't like it to get a habit to my boyfriend.

  • Reading your update: How magnanimous of him to allow you to get back with him IF you have sex 3x/week. How can you say no to that? LOL But you have your stance, so good on you.

    As far as sex in a vehicle. I used to feel like you do. But with my current boyfriend LOVE IT! But he never makes me feel anything different than desirable and empowered. Maybe that is the difference, is how empowering you feel getting it on in a vehicle.

  • He shouldn’t force you to do anything you’re not comfortable with.

    Aside from that, I understand how you feel with car sex. Although I think about it differently, because I’ve had car sex multiple times.

    But it ties in with my exhibitionism fetish. I like having sex in places I might get caught. Big emphasis on MIGHT. I don’t actually want to be seen by others. There’s enough thrill in the fantasy & possibility.

  • Uncomfortable but worth it

  • To each it's own.. if both parties are hot and ready then wherever can be a good place to have sex but only if both parties are wanting it. He sounds like he should definitely be and stay an ex though based on your update

  • I find it cool and adventurous tbh

  • It depends on both parties. I wouldn't do it because it would most probably be uncomfortable and for me sex is about how you feel throughout it.

  • When I was younger, I hated it because of the same reasons, however, the bed of a pickup surrounded by snow and a stary sky was cool.

    My husband and I want to because we met later in life and are both eachother’s second marriage. We sometimes pretend we’re teens and do dumb things teens would do. It’s fun and it makes us feel like we didn’t miss out on eachother.

  • No. I would hate it, sex requires a lot of room and that would not be comfortable

    • That's why owning a pickup is great. You always have a bed

  • Except for an occasional romp perhaps, I think you and he are too old to need to have sex in the car. And the bottom line is, you don't WANT to.

    I'm so OVER sex in cars. Let's just drive home or get a room like grown people.

    • You are correct. Plus if you get caught, you could have to pay etc. Why?

    • Kissing is cool in a car, sex is kind of hard.

    • I not to old to have sex, plus we still have plenty of it. All the cars I had you couldn't do it in the front or back seat. Too darn tight, now that I drive a truck we have fun now and then

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  • Only done it once. Sitting on top of him in the passanger seat it was okay nothing special

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