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How do you feel about the 90 day rule?

See and talk to a guy for 90 days before you give up the sex.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Its different for everyone. My ex and I were together for 7 years and we didn't have sex until almost 11 months in to our relationship. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years and we had sex within a week of seeing eachother and the connection I have with my boyfriend now is much larger than it ever was with my ex. It's different for everyone. Sometimes waiting works. Sometimes waiting does nothing to help the relationship and the intimacy is actually what keeps the relationship alive until you find that love in one another.

    • I really do think how the way you carry yourself is how a guy will treat you. I heard women say why dont people tell men how to treat their women? Even I say that but nobody is going to tell a man what to do. Men are supposed to work for what he wants. When a woman gives it up too early than you are done. You have no value to that man's eyes anymore. It is sad but true.

    • No, it's not true actually. As I said, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He pretty much worships the ground I walk on and treats me like gold. Not to mention that he still does things for me literally all the time without me asking him to do so. You're replied comment kind of irks me. You are basically saying that you have no faith in men. It does not matter when a girl "gives it up" because realistically if you are a woman worth keeping, you will be kept regardless of when sex happens. If your attitude is shit and you treat him like he's the lucky one to have ever stumbled upon you or like he should bow down and listen to you always, he will leave you. Stop listening to this new age bullshit. It's not rocket science. If you go into a relationship thinking you have everything all figured out, you will fail damn near instantly.

  • It’s a pretty stupid idea. Giving yourself a completely arbitrary time line rather than making the determination for yourself if you actually want to or not can’t ever benefit anyone.

Most Helpful Guys

  • 90 day rule must be a kid thing. I am not living long enough to wait 90 days to learn if we are compatible in the sack.
    If you want to wait 90 days then your just not that into me. I move on. 4 dates is the max
    I find the rule that women know in about 5 seconds if they sleep with you is true and if they aren't interested in sex from week 1 they are never going to be. Im not saying sex in a week just a clear signal your not in the friend category.

    • They do it because men lose respect for them too easily.

    • DO they? I was married for 20 years and have been with the same woman now for 2 in both cases I respect them and have long term relationship. It doesn't matter how long we waited but it wasn't long I 'll tell you that. If my ex hadn't had a meltdown and decided that at 45 she didn't want to be married we might still be married and I don't think anyone kept track of that number from 20 years ago. Sex is a minor factor in respecting my partner. Addmitedly when I was young some chick laid me I followed her around like a puppy dog so. Can't see eye to eye with that premise. But i understand that some guys have a player mentality when they look way better than me

  • Not a good one. For me it's about establishing a strong emotional connection and the associated trust. Once we have that, I have a process I use to sort of vet them. I'm pretty kinky and they need to know what they're getting into

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Some other girl would steal him by then

  • It has one major flaw.
    No one is ever garanteed 90 more days of life.
    If one of you dies 30 days in you'd have wasted a perfect opportunity to have sex assuming you wanted to but chose to wait.
    I live my life a quarter mile at a time. I'm not saying I want sex right away so that I don't waste time but if the feeling is right no matter how long we've known eachorher for I'd be down for it.

  • Not nearly long enough to be effective in weeding out men who just want casual sex.

  • I think it's dumb by principle. in my opinion it's fundamentally wrong to think of sex as something to "give up" but that's just me.

  • Doesn't work out every time.

  • Some use it, to not get hormonally manipulated (or at least I would think so?).

  • Does that mean total abstinence or does it mean walking the bases but deferring The Deed?

  • Dumb rule, but some people need that arbitrary number to rationalise away the decision to have sex. To me it's a pointless self limitation

  • bullshit. If she doesn't give up the sex afther 7 day, i don't stay

  • What a sucker.

  • its kind of old fashions, what do think about it?

  • Depends on the person

  • Never heard of it.

  • Sounds dumb to me

  • I don't believe in "waiting". All my relationships have started with early sex.

  • Pure lunacy! What are you saving it for? What does 90 days do?

  • It's a dumb rule

    • Why?

    • Well if you see each other for 90 consecutive days I think you'll be well beyond the point of thinking it's time to have sex. If it's not 90 consecutive days that could be months or years depending on lifestyles.

  • I don't like restricting myself.

  • Seems kind of Long

  • At first I thought about it as: after 90 days, you want to leave the relationship.
    My bad.

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