How do you feel about your partner's sexual history?

[Anonymous]

I'm my boyfriends second girlfriend, I'm also the first girl he has had penetrative sex with. I'm not bothered by whatever he did with his ex, but before we started dating he had a few random hookups, for some reason the thought of what he did with those random girls bothers me. My boyfriend and I have a good sexual relationship and I have no reason to feel insecure or jealous. Have you experienced anything like this? How does your partner's sexual history make you feel? Do you have any advice for me to move past these feelings I'm having?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I can understand why his prior hookups may bother you a bit, and you have every right to feel the way you do. I think just acknowledging that he is with you and that he is having sex with you now is important. I don’t think there’s much advice I could give you to move on. It’s something that you have to accept about him or end the relationship of it bothers you that much.


I don’t care much about my partners sexual history, I know that he had sex with one of them but I don’t know about the other. He’s not into hookups, neither am I. I was a virgin before meeting him, but I trusted him that he was clean of STDs and didn’t hookup. It doesn’t bother me that he had sex with san ex girlfriend, because it’s normal. I just recognize that I’m with him now and he is enjoying himself. If he did hookup, it would bother me, like it bothers you, but mostly because I don’t agree with hookup culture. It might be a dealbreaker for me he still has desires to hookup.

[HighlyVolatile]

I never thought much about it. Well, the way I look at it is that I had a sexual history along with my wife before we started dating. If I can love her this much in spite of having a sexual history, then I figure she can as well.

[Berethor]

I don't like sluts, but girls tend to be more okay with guy's sexual history.

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