How do you feel emotionally psychologically physically after ‘too long without sex’ and how long, is too long, for you personally?

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I don’t care either way so it bring a problem is foreign to me.. I know it’s a huge deal to a lot of people and I’m just curious if it’s the actual sex or all the social stuff around it that makes not having sex so difficult for so many people.

So once you’ve gone a week a month half a year s year etc etc without sex, how do you start to feel. How intense do these feelings het?

I have somewhat an idea physically bc I’ve heard people talk about that often, but I’m less clear on & im wondering over all how does it make you feel. And I’m asking about how not having sex makes you feel. Not just physically.

I understand feeling undesired has an impact but be sure to answer specifically about the lack of sex. Like even if you were desired but for whatever reason couldn’t have it. Thanks!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sexual frustration is a real thing , I get sexually frustrated if I am not with the right girl , if I start to feel intimacy and affection can only be initiated by her and she denies me when I try to initiate it , she is damaging the relationship , Unless she has a valid reason as to why she isn’t in the mood , medical Reason etc but If she keeps giving me lame excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood , then she is best to move over , cuz once I get a wandering eye that’s when I know things aren’t good between her and I and I will tell her it’s best if we go our separate ways because my wants aren’t being met , I am not going to be in a one sided relationship , I made that mistake before and I sworn I will never allow myself To do that again , When sexual comparability dies in a relationship so does the relationship bottom line , Most girls think guys think with their dicks and that we are pigs , the truth is girl’s are just as bad , so to a certain extent we do , that’s how we were made , and that’s how we Express our love to her and how we wantTo be close To her , but we also want a vagina that wants our dick as much as our dick wants her vagina, A vagina and dick that stays faithful to each other , if that vagina constantly holds walls up And makes excuses constantly denying her dick , yes her dick just like it should be his vagina , then she shouldn’t be surprised when that dick enters another vagina , Same goes for a dick denying his vagina , Constantly denying your partner intimacy and affection makes you the selfish person , cuz you are only thinking of Yourself , If I communicate with her and tell her I am not being satisfied And I feel things are one sided , she has a choice to either save the relationship or move over and let me Go find someone that is more compatible with me A guy and girl for the most part, form a relationship based off of intimacy and affection , in the beginning sex isn’t even an issue when it becomes an issue that’s when things start to fade , when 1 partner is constantly denied that intimacy and affection from their so called partner they have a right to walk away and not be a sitting duck to someone that only thinks of themselves. Why I always say selfishness is the biggest relationship killer , If you can’t remove selfishness for your partner then you are best to not be in a relationship what-so ever , you will never experience true love if you only think of Yourself all the time , and you will keep continuing on a path of failed relationships. You should always make your partner your number 1 priority over everyone , over your friends over your family and over your kids , when you learn to do that , that’s where love grows , For a relationship to survive it comes down to respect for each other , understanding you can’t always be right and They are wrong , accepting each other’s flaws and removing selfishness for each other , resisting temptation for each other , when you can honestly do that for your partner that’s where love grows , if you can’t do that for your partner then admit to yourself that you are a selfish person that only cares about themselves so let them go because you are only being selfish stringing someone along for your own selfishness. No guy wants a girl that jumps from cock to cock and no girl wants a guy that jumps from vagina to vagina , if they do then they are both whores. I only want a girl that values me and wants me like I do for her that has my back like I have hers , That wants to stay under
The sheets with me not one that runs to the streets

GoodVibesS · Accepted Answer

I've gone years and not because I chose to only later did it become a chosen decision which I had chose in due part of the opportunity presented itselffor the wrong reasons but regardless it's eats away at just about any part of my life that Id otherwise use to create connection... Having to be a third wheel everyday for years on end watching the same verythings u lack when all that's needed is inclusion which nvr detracts unconditional love is inclusive not exclusive not limiting but watching those very things then u miss and want or need most go un noticed unappreciated trivialized neglected etc is extremely despicable and grotesque... I say the 99% of y'all deserve to have all stripped away for years on end against your will while we spit on all that you lack and take for granted tht which would make you at all feel at ease and rub it further and deteriorate any self esteem u had making you more n more socially awkward to then make it easy to use u as an ego boost n bully u down (women always go for the bad boy well then that's what they deserve).. then make you out to be an undesirable over time a societal outcast etc STOP BEING GREEDY NO ONE OWNS ANYONE well I'm just territorial not possessive BS!! WHAT ARE PEOPLE TERRITORIAL OF... THAT WHICH THEY FEEL ENTITLED TO THE RIGHT IF OWNERSHIP.. be protective NOT POSSESSIVE. Ya know what else is possessive.. DEMONS LOL 😂😂 But let's not get into tht 😏😝we all are free to do as we please as long as it makes us happy or is as we'd want to hv done to ourselves in the same shoes... Nothing that imposes onto another's freedom to be themselves fully not infringes on another's autonomy... If I see someone crying on the side walk I'ma cottle that person idc their relational status if some ones wants cuddles just cuz I would idc who.. cuz in those situations and shoes I know I would want the same and it doesn't cost shit nor take anything at all really to just provide tht little extra that could quiet literally add years to another's life

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I'm usually fine, no matter how long it goes... my biggest thing is I start to have trouble concentrating. Difficulty focusing if I go too long. Once I get some, I'm relaxed, laid back and easy going for awhile.

Thing is, be it a week or six months... nothing really changes how it affects me, so it happens pretty quick and then just stays that way.

DarkCarousel · Accepted Answer

It has been more than a year for me but I have been without for much longer than that. I do have the desire for it but much more than that, I have the desire for intimacy with someone I have deep feelings for— such as holding hands or wrapping arms around each other, or a really good kiss.

Lliam · Answer

I don't know if there is a standard amount of time for me. But if I don't have sex for a reasonable amount of time, I get frustrated. I also notice that I gradually become more horny and think more about sex.
Women look sexier. It's a bit like the cliche about the guy at a bar thinking that the woman next to him is getting prettier and prettier the drunker he gets.

It creeps up imperceptibly. It's like a hungry person wishing they could have a wonderful meal. It can be resisted, but there is still the desire.

Once I have sex, I'm more at peace. It's like a huge relief. The hormones have stabilized.

That's the best way I can describe it.

matchrestore · Answer

We usually have sex at least once a week, often more than that, but occasionally there's longer spells without sex. It doesn't bother me too much until its been a few weeks. We both are perfectly fine with masturbation in our marriage, so we're not missing out on sexual release or anything, but I do start to miss the physical closeness.

lightbulb27 · Answer

not sure how to answer. there were decades with no sex, but if you throw in masterbation... that was the outlet. It's a hormonal pressure and drive, but I generally avoided women for a long time.

Married, I'm fine at a week, too long like a month and can start to feel distant if there isn't closeness to make up for it.

It's really not that big of a deal as people make it.

Feel... I think for a long time it felt I wasn't worthy... and I wasn't because of how I felt about myself. Now it feels ok, as long as all needs are met and there's affection, it's not a problem.

Physically... at a young age, feel like going to blow up and it can hurt if get aroused but not satisfied. At older age, it's not a problem. Clearly, the design is to make a lot of offspring.

Testosterone!

Reece12345 · Answer

Hmmm, I don't know how long too long is, but it's been too long for me. That's life, I suppose.

Elliegirl · Answer

Since my husband and I started having sex back when we were dating, we haven’t gone more than a week without having sex. I think anything more than a month without sex would be a long time for us now, but we would probably get a little sexual frustrated and feel deprived at around the two week mark. Before, when I was single, a long time then was like more than a year.

melanieeeB · Answer

I will say over a year and personally I feel good, I ain't missing it and mostly not even thinking about sex or whatever

NathanDavis · Answer

been there since the pandemia days... and it is the longest I've had since my very first relationship, and... I just do not feel negatively in any way, lol

to me is more of a switch, either I am with someone in a relationship and all that implies is on... or not, just single and on my own so, all that goes off without a worry

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i've had sex but it doesn't mean a thing if it's not with the right person. i've met 3 right-ish people in my life. but without sex i'd still love those women. because they made me orgasm. a mental orgasm and a physical one. but maybe those same feelings weren't there? yet, i'm too old now. i must end my search. i've been without sex for 9 years.

Msputiton · Answer

I think i could go the rest my life without it and be fine

JDavid25 · Answer

I have a fairly high sex drive, so seeing girls that I think are sexy, it can get pretty frustrating.. But I went most of my life not having it so it's mostly not a huge deal.. I do wish I didn't think about it often though.. Damn testosterone.. Lmao..

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Sex isn’t like water, food and shelter. Despite what the weak and willless would suggest, we can live without sex indefinitely.
Sex is pure privilege. I can live without it, but i’d rather not. More often than not, i don’t have to. Everyone who claims they can’t get sex is ignoring at least one opportunity for sex; GUARANTEED.

Smoothing · Answer

Staying long without having sex is not a problem for me. I have been celibate before and it doesn't bother me.

I am just happy that I have never dissapointed a woman before when I got to have sex with her.

RealMarek · Answer

It depends on the circumstances. When sex was rare because the relationship was toxic, I felt trapped. When there was no sex because I was not in a relationship, I felt a sense of purpose on waiting for the right woman. No amount of time was too long because I didn’t want to end up in another bad relationship and casual sex is not for me. In my current relationship, it doesn’t take long at all before I feel a strong sense of desire to be as connected and as close to her as is humanly possible. It’s a positive longing or anticipation more than a frustration.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't have a girl to have sex with but for now I masturbate, and I haven't done it since one time in November 2022 and If I do it, It happens if not then no big deal for me <3 <3 <3

exitseven · Answer

I had major surgery last year. I had gone over 3 months without sex. I was pretty busy getting better so I mostly concentrated on that.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

You can feel something you have or experience
If you haven't had it what feeling one would get nothing according to me.

And with time you become stable , the only feeling that one would have is lust emotionaly one could just long for it and wanting to have.

They won't evolve into something else like Pokemon if they didn't have sex 🙃.

MysticDevice · Answer

I am actually pretty patient with this sort of thing. When I don't have a partner years will go by and there are days where I sit there and think "jeez I really wish I had a partner right now"

And even when I do have one I can still be patient. I waited over a year with a girl once and we broke up before we actually had sex which was pretty annoying. I'm not sure I would wait that long again. Its been so long that next time almost might as well be the first time again lol.

Jennz6 · Answer

6 months is a long time

Jamie05rhs · Answer

After a certain point, it just becomes normal. It's like, this is just the way things are.

Yes, it bothered me when I was 24 and not married yet. But that wasn't because of not getting laid. That was just because I wanted to "own" the sluts and show them how it's done (the right way).

As far as sexual desire itself, that has always been an issue, but only related to masturbation, not sex. Since I never wanted to have sex anyway.
But thankfully I think that's FINALLY starting to slow down now, since I'm turning the corner and moving into my "middle age" years. Not that it's "dead" or anything. Not by any means. It's just becoming easier to control. (I think. Fingers crossed. Lol.)

moonpie89 · Answer

My best friend is going through that right now.. She feels like a good lay would help her relax lmao. Gotta picky though

How do you feel emotionally psychologically physically after ‘too long without sex’ and how long, is too long, for you personally?

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