How do you finger a guys prostate?

I've always wanted to do this and have finally managed to convince my husband to try it out after a lot of no's. He finally said he would give it a shot if it makes me happy and it does, I want to see him get the best pleasure possible and I've heard it can be really good. I tried it last night and my husband didn't enjoy it at all, he said it hurt and didn't feel enjoyable at all. I've heard your meant to feel a walnut type thing and I never felt anything like that. I kinda just moved my finger in and out, I didn't have lube but I did wet my finger. He said it just felt very strange and somewhat painful. Have I don't something wrong? I really just want to give him as much pleasure as possible. He's said he's willing to try again as long as we have lots of lube and I look into it more as it was a spur of the moment type thing. Any advice would be great thanks
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Would something like this be okay for a first time? I don't think my fingers are long enough
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  • Okay. A little education. You need a good, thick lube. AstroGlide works very well for anal play and anal sex. I presume you either already do or intend to give up your ass to him sometime soon? You don't need a ton of it. If it starts to get a little dry, a little spit gets it good and slippery again.

    Put him on his stomach. Do you ever rim him? If not, this is a good time to start. Just the lightest possible touches around the edge, working slowly toward the center. Use your tongue to work his anus open a little.

    You do NOT need the toy. Your fingers are more than long enough to reach his prostate. I'm guessing he was really tense the whole time and the sphincter muscles might keep you from being able to reach his prostate.

    Apply a little lube to your little finger. If you have nails, put on a latex glove with a cotton ball in the fingertips to pad them. Tell him to breathe, slowly and deeply and to relax. As you start your finger in, he'll probably tense up. Keep soothing him with your voice and wait for his anus to relax. Keep light but constant pressure applied and as he relaxes, your finger will slip in. Once that finger is fully in, slide it out, ever so slowly and do it again but faster since he should be relaxed. Then use your forefinger. When it's fully in, add your middle finger. Take your time. There's no hurry. Once you're fully in, rotate them with your palm to his front. Then very, very carefully curl them while feeling for his prostate. When you touch it, be very gentle, just touching and lightly massaging it. If you're on the right track, he should gasp or otherwise let you know you're on it.

    Ask him to get up on his knees with his chest and face on the bed. Then start playing with his cock and balls while carefully slipping your fingers up his ass and work on his prostate, gradually increasing the pressure. As he starts to get close, roll him over on his back, go down on him and go back to massaging his prostate. As he gets closer and closer, go as deeply down as you can. Tell him you want to know when he's about to cum. Go down to the max, stay there while working his prostate. When he cums, mash his prostate very firmly, squeezing it as the muscles around it spasm. Swallow that sweet load, look up at him, open your mouth to show him it's all gone, and the give him you be shit eatin' grin to show him just how good it was. It's important to continue sucking and massaging until he's completely empty: 30-45 seconds.

  • Getting something in there is not an easy job for any one. I am not a fan of it but one of my ex girlfriend had a fix about putting me a finger in the ass. So we worked it out.

    The first thing about having something inserted in there without it being painful is about being relaxed and not stressed about it.

    Give him a massage, turn around the thing slowly with hands oily. you can start by just pushing a little and over and over, each time you get a little further. As you get some inside, stop moving, let him breath and relax, you will feel his mussles relax around your finger. Get a little deeper then!

    Just don't rush the thing. Having something inserted in there at first it's again our animal defense reactions. learning to stay relaxed as something will be inserted need some practice and learning.

    Lay him face down, light some candles, some massage music and relax him as you slowly get him used and confident about it.:-)

    Love, peace, happiness, hugs and cuddles :-)

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  • 1. In your position, most guys don't like the in and out penetration, for prostate stimulation, you enter palm up, but you leave your finger in there for the most part, and curl your finger up so the pad of your finger stimulates the prostate.

    2. Water is, like, the worst lubrication ever. Try oils (do some research to see what's safe to use for sex and what's not), coconut oil is a good one. And always use lots and lots of lube for anything butt related.

    3. When doing butt stuff, everyone needs to be relaxed, especially when it's their first time. I don't know if this is what you were already trying, but try a lubed up handjob and then introducing the prostate stimulation.

    • You are way more knowledgeable on the subject than an 18 year old should be.

    • @Regulatus I'll take it as a good thing

  • There are tons of aricles you can read! I think it can be hard to describe, but there should be tips on Reddit too.

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  • Here is a link to a prostate massage guide
    www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm

  • Lube, for sure.

    My girlfriend (has short fingers) so it didn't do much for me.

  • Very carefully, duh.

  • When your finger is inside, point it in an upwards direction towards yourself (if he is lying face down, do the opposite). Prostate is walnut shaped, but completely buried under flesh. You won't be feeling a walnut. LOL

  • Definitely need more lube, and probably need to massage his asshole a bit and make sure he has a persistent erection before you stick your finger in. And it's less about moving in and out and more like finding the prostate and manipulating it so definitely do some research about how to reach it.

  • give him a massage prior to the prostate stimulation, and use a good lube too. the prostate is sensitive so you need to massage it softly and no pressing or prodding or whatever make kind of like come here motions with your finger or circular motions the prostate should be 2 knuckles deep. good luck.

  • Go easy and take your time.
    One or two fingers , maybe three
    Curve them upwards towards you (the opposite if face down)
    Nice and gentle with the pressure being applied
    You can make it last however long you like until orgasm

  • Or you just don't

  • Definitely use lots of lube. It will likely be at the tip of your finger when finger is fully inserted. towards the front of his body. You should easily find it.