How do you get over the fact that girl's you met over your life time would rather fuck your friends and not you?

It happened like 3 times. I known 3 girls who were after my friends but they never wanted to have sex with me? Like am I not attracted enough or good enough for a one night stand. I guess because they knew I was a virgin and can't get any dates or something? When I told them what about me they look away or had look of disapproval. 🥺🥺🥺

So, can you blame me if I have self confidence issues because that's how it started. I tried flirting with them or if not just talking but nothing ever happened, they ignored me or just say you will find someone. But why was I the only one outed from having sex for once in my life.
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  • If you're having self-confidence issues, one-night stands are going to be very difficult for you. That's a game for confident guys who dress well and know how to dance.

    You might have a better shot with a relationship, provided you are willing to work on getting over your insecurities. Dating for a relationship gives a girl a much better opportunity to decide if she likes you as a person - it's not based on a split second decision about how you walk on across a dance floor or something like that. She is also likely going to be more supportive to you, because she is in it for the long term. On the flip side, because she wants a relationship she will have high standards across the board - but if you are a decent person who is working hard to make it in life, you will find someone eventually.

    You might want to seek therapy first to address your insecurities. Being a virgin is ok, but if you wear it as a chip on your shoulder that's going to turn people off. Same goes for how you look - anyone with the right clothes and confidence can look handsome, but you need a minimum level of self-esteem to pull it off.

    • But a i already went to therapy and other things

    • Fair enough, I just think you need to get to a place where you are reasonably comfortable in your own skin before you can date people, and this is doubly true for one-night stands.

    • Also get better friends - it was a dick move of your friends to tell those girle about your virginity.

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  • Try to fly solo more in that case if your friends end up taking all the attention. In that case, you want to split from the group more. You don't necessarily have to avoid going out with them, but when you do, try to split away from them and do your own thing and talk to girls on your own away from the group.

    You also don't need to broadcast your virginity. That tends to somewhat make the conversation about sex rather prematurely which can be off-putting to girls. You can mention that when things start heating up with a girl or if she asks.

    • I don't mention my virginity out loud, either new before hand because they were talking with my friends or they find out through other means. That's when they decide that they won't sleep with me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • why do you base your self confidence on the approval of other people?

    • Well, you're not 🥺

  • It doesn’t sound like they were serious about finding a relationship

    • Well, yeah I know that but why was I ostracized and they weren't was I just not good enough 😕

    • I’m sorry. I guess some people are just prejudiced against virgins.

    • Yeah, this is why I'm a virgin because girls who are willing to have sex don't want me but they like my friends

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  • I just do not try to fuck my friends, at all... simple

  • It’s impossible not to feel bad, but it’s not very important. Focus on building your life.

    • I am trying I just felt bad because I found out that another girl had sex with my friend but she didn't want me at all

    • It might seem hard to believe this now, but it’s not something you should feel bad about. There is someone out there for you.

  • I look at the numbers. There are 3 billion women in the world and I have had sex with about 10 of them. So of course women are having sex with men other than me. That doesn't bother me.

    • No, the issue is why did they have sex with my friends but not me?

    • @poneglyphs Personal preference... you can't win them all

  • How is it that these women found out you were a virgin and can’t get dates? I mean, did they ask? Did you volunteer it? Don’t say simply “I’m a virgin,” or anything like “women don’t want me.” That will drive women away. If you have to discuss virginity, say “I haven’t found the right woman yet.” Make it sound like you respect yourself and you are being selective. Never admit to being unable to get dates or to get a girlfriend if you’re talking to a woman that you want to date. It will be an instant turn-off. If pressed, you can always answer that you haven’t found the right woman yet, or something like that.

    • Because they already knew Because my friends told them when they were drunk 🥴.

    • Well, that sucks. Good news is there are other women!

  • Obviously, they don't have good taste!

  • My best friend is a lot better looking than me and he always had lots of girlfriends. It really used to bother me. I got over it when I went away to college and got a girlfriend.

    • Oh, well that hasn't happened to me I just been ostracized by women and ignored most of my life. Like what's wrong with me 🥺🥺🥺

  • by getting some ugly ass friends, i guess :D

  • I let them fuck my friends. They just won't fuck me. If I can't keep a woman satisfied then she needs to be with someone else.

    • Well the problem is that they all decided to fuck my friends but not me

    • Then they aren't someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. I don't share and you shouldn't either.

  • You shod start working out

    • That's what I'm doing

  • Sir I experienced something similar that you do. It doesn't get any better unless you love yourself first. I don't personally and I struggle like a mf. Sometimes women are ice cold monsters! You got to just take it day by day and let it roll off your shoulders because dude you're a man. We all feel like this, the problem is nobody cares enough to give a crap so we all sit there silently. We're the only ones who aren't loved unconditionally, to our wives and our kids we have to provide something and if we provide nothing to them they want us gone. Life's a bitch then you die my friend. That's why it's bros before hoes.

  • Good riddance. She did you a favour. Move on. Better is yet to come

  • Threesomes.

    • Uhh, nope just different girls at three times in our lives. Maybe they had a threesome 🤔

    • No, I was suggesting it.

    • Oh, well maybe for them but not for me 🥺

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