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Any tips on how to handle sexual rejection? If you've ever been in this situation just how do you deal with it?
How do you handle being sexually rejected from your partner?
Apple1996 Master
Any tips on how to handle sexual rejection? If you've ever been in this situation just how do you deal with it?
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For my personal situation, attraction isn't a issue and we have discussed this multiple times. Also no cheating going on. Thank you guys for trying to help but a lot of y'all are assuming the worst about my situation.
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24 85Maybe he's just not in a mood or his sex drive is just getting low. Anyone should be prepared for situations like that. If you love someone, don't forget to love yourself too and tell him how you feel.
His drive is low. That is nothing new. It's just starting to hurt worse and worse everytime
And if that's the case you can't blame him. There will be times when your'e not in a mood for it too.
I'm always in the mood lol
Motivate him and let him recharge. He probably is just getting lazier because i don't know. I guess you're easy and he used up a lot of his energy on you. Men may have higher sex drive but it gets low really fast. By the way when was the last time you had sex?
Perhaps letting him exercise and do more "romantic" stuff with him. (Sorry i can't understand romance lol)
Now you know that should never happen you're absolutely beautiful and I know you know what turns him on use it to your advantage!😉
Sometimes it can be painful especially when your partner hurts your feelings
i don't either
My guess is there's other factors here. Disagreements, stresses, miscommunication... you need to figure those things out first
Weird. I can’t imagine a guy rejecting sex unless he’s getting it somewhere else. Sex is a relationship’s barometer. So if he doesn’t ever want it I’d start packing.
What are his symptoms? There maybe a underlying issue!
I would say the same thing and talking it out could help.
I'm thinking he might be dealing with depression or PTSD. 🤔 If you want more info contact me.
I dont think it's either of those. The only issue he has is with alcohol
Hmmm. How much and how often is he drinking?
He was drinking at least 3 tall boys a day. he's recently stopped. Like 5 days sober for him and now he's stuck at work for 8 days so next time I'll see him itll be about 2 weeks sober
At 6 bears per day is a lot, and could cause ED
www.livestrong.com/.../
Beers 🍻
Yeah and those are small compared to when he drinks hard alcohol. It ends up being whole bottles of jack or vodka. I've talked to him about it but it's hard for him to stay sober
Well, alcohol is DEFINITELY hurting his sex life! I promise!
And if he doesn't reform now he'll end up with a fatty liver, which will lead cirrhosis, which will lead to liver cancer and death.
Help him quit! Get him to go to AA.
I have not been in this situation but I can say that there is but one way to rightfully handle it. That is to talk about it with them. If you don't tell them how you feel how will they know? They might not know they are hurting you. I am sure that their intentions are not to hurt you and they just don't know that they are.
Talk to them and maybe they will talk to you too so that you may understand their feelings as well. There may be a reason behind their actions that they aren't saying anything about and you won't know about unless someone starts talking...
How long have you been married?
How old are you both?
Are there health concerns?
Do you want to try and save your marriage?
Are you thinking of having an affair?
Too many questions, sorry!
Been married almost 5 years 23 and 24 Nah no real health concerns besides stress and I have depression. My marriage is sexless but it just hard to convince him to have sex with me. Nah not gonna cheat
Marriage isn't* sexless lol sorry about that
Apple1996 - glad you corrected that. Sounded pretty dreary!
@Red_Arrow haha yeah I wish we could edit on here
Try going over to him with your panties in your hand with a naughty smile. Then there’s my favorite, have him lay on his back with his erection on his stomach. Straddle him back by his balls. Spread your pussy lips on either side of his cock. Slide up to the head, then back to his balls... repeat. With your clit rubbing on his cock let him play with your tits and nipples. It shouldn’t take long for you to have an orgasm. If that doesn’t get his blood pressure up, you better check for a pulse. By the way, I call that Riding the Pony
I would have to talk him into doing that or start up when he's sleeping. That's the stuff I can't even get him to agree too
I have a more active sex drive than my wife which ultimately leads to some rejection. Not gonna lie, it doesn't feel good, but I've learned not to take it personally.
Find another partner.
Something bad is going on here either in your relationship or with your husband personally. I think you better find out what it is before the situation gets worse.
I'm used to the thought of probably never experiencing anything sexual again.
All depends
I don't know what you mean really
i get very depressed and feel very hurt and unwanted
I just lay in bed hurting till i fall asleep
Yeah that is what I usually do
Find another guy u r desired for him
Have a wank
Fortunately I have never had this happen.
Wow that hard to deal with. What turns him on. Do that and try to gsin his trust
If she gave a valid reason, potentially well. I really don't know, sweet <3
I find that women are very bad at dealing with this. Probably due to it not happening very often in there lifetime. I’m sure males are much more used to it haha
I've been dealing with it for about 3 years now
I dont know how men deal with it. Litterally makes me wanna die
@apple1996 "I dont know how men deal with it. Litterally makes me wanna die " ... Female partner refusal dry spells that go on for years , even permanently , are common experiences for men , I would say the majority of marriages end up like that. And men , on average , do tend to have much higher sex drives than women. Glad that's not me anymore... no longer that interested.
@FatherJack if it was over a year it would definitely be time to break things off or ask for a side piece. I wouldn't go without that long. I don't know how guys do that.
It is mainly because finding a willing female sex partner , is much harder for a man to do , than a woman finding a male sex partner... that is easy , and there are vast numbers of willing men.
This is easy answer to why women are cheating men, women are same like flower if you don't smell them, they can find somebody else..
I just go masturbate
I'm cumming with or without you
Yeah that's what I need to do. I feel like it would pressured him into sex tho if he had to watch me
@Apple1996 So do it infront of him!!! If that doesn't help, just tell him, "Either you help me cum or you don't, no matter what Im gonna whenever I need to!"
I surely dont know im constantly rejected. So if you figu r e it out let me know.
well when i have one if she does then i will just go turn on some porn and masturbate im not gonna worry about it when i can please myself if she's not up for it
Remember that rejections are what make the relationship balances.
I guess. If he was on the same page as me we'd just spend all day fucking
Hm.. Why exactly?
I just masturbate if I get rejected sexually in a relationship. It happens. Nothing wrong.
I didn't aasume anything.
I just know that you're not a good texter.
Yeah he knows that I'm bad at texting lol
Ignoring me huh lol
Try to ask him , why is he rejecting you for sex. Ask very politly and gently and be in a joking mood at that time if he is not irrated.
Try yourself to change as what he wants:-
Basically attractiveness.
Change your attractiveness time to time.
And show him and realize him the actual feeling of sexual expression and sweet pain while making sex , which would keep him attracted toward you in your life.
He should get to know that his wife is very sexy , why to run or avoid as she is so sexy, he should have a feeling of doing sex daily and at this point you should not allow him daily... this will remain curiosity of doing sex.
And also try to know where his time and mind is diverted at his free time.
Think this would work.
Weve talked about it. That really goes no where
Hey I think it’s more simple than complex. He said he’s stressed, try to help him relax. Book him a massage or give him a massage, help him do stuff he like to relax. See if you can get someone to watch the kids and do something fun. Don’t focus on having sex when your doing this. If he’s too stressed out, try to help him relax. :) If it is a long term issue (year or so) talk about switching jobs.
I'm 15 my self, but maybe he just isn't ready... give him time, or try talking to him about it have you ever asked why he didn't want to have sex?
Male opinion. I had this happen in my relationship a few years back. It wasn't that I wasn't attracted to her, or that I wanted someone else. But at the time I had a lot on my mental plate. The desire to have sex period wasn't there. It caused a lot of fighting because instead of being genuinely curious to why I may feel that way it was met with assumptions. Because all men want is sex 24/7, right? Anyway, sit down, talk, listen, don't be over bearing learn a little more about eachother
Yeah guys get the bas stereotype of wanting it 24/7. So curious, what had to happen for you to start wanting it again? Just like clearing your head?
In short no... I wish. I just dug deep and shouldered it. I saw what it was causing and at the end of the day I would feel responsible for not providing. It's a give and take. I felt it was my responsibility so I fixed it
Ah okay hopefully my man can figure it out like you did.
Just because I did it alone doesn't mean I wanted to... help him... seriously it's an unbelievable trait that women have over men. Whether it's the mother mentality we keep from when we're kids (not the weird kind) but just the genuine support from a woman we care about is a very real provider of strength
Yess I always try supporting him when he needs me
This was good info. Thank you for your opinion. Definitely more helpful then a lot of others here
Of course... good luck
I deal with this all the time and it’s not jus one girl who sexually rejects me... every girl does, iv never been sexually accepted,
it’s very sad for me and makes me feel so unnatractive and unworthy :(
jus be glad your a girl (most likely an attractive one)
all you have to do is go out and ask any other guy to bang you and he will, it’s jus that your husband is gay, but others would still like to smash you (myself included)
so jus be your an attractive girl and not an ugly reject virgin male like me :(
I am attractive but I wouldn't cheat on my husband with a random dude. That does suck you feel rejected by everyone. I feel bad for you. I still can convince my husband to have sex with me sometimes when he declines so it's notthat bad
For me I wanna jump off a bridge n die whenever another girl rejects me lol, maybe I should give up trying lol
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easy, just deal with it. sex is just your brains selfish desire for relife and if your partner doesn't want sex then respect that, less is better
Masturbate when he's around. That will make him think about it at least.
I'm going to ask u some uncomfortable questions.
Have you gained weight? Do you look attractive? I know u have kids but still. Do u workout? Wear nice, fitted clothing? Look feminine?
Not to sound to full of myself but I'm extremely attractive. I dont think it's a attraction is the issue. Maybe other issues there but him being attracted isn't the issue. By the way I workout everyday and dress cute.
Attraction isn’t the issue. @apple1996 maybe you should add that in the update lol
@VIVANT yess I need to update this
It can be very tough.
My suggestions
* Don't wait for it... you have a right to demand it.
* You can throw yourself on him (in an aggressive way) if he gets turned on
* Explain to him that sex is a basic need, like food or water, and only one person in the world can (legally) give it to you.
* Don't take no for an answer. If you're stressed out due to a lack of sex (happens to me too) show it.
Whatever you do, don't get angry when turned down. Then you lose! (You'll be too angry to have sex, even if he changes his mind, and anger makes you less attractive.) Just swallow your pride for awhile, and think to yourself "Whatever he does, I'm not going to let him escape today." After you get the sex you need, you'll be far too relaxed to bother about this.
It feels horrible. Makes me start to feel like he's not attracted to me, or like he's getting satisfied else where. I other think everything so it starts to effect my mood, my eating, my sexual skills, our relationship, our entire future. 😥 I've lost a relationship bc i became so insecure and started acting weird. I started dieting the wrong way (to speed up the process bc i thought he was unattracted to me) and ultimately gained more weight. Then became more self conscious about that. I became very depressed. Then lost it (my mind). I had a complete Brittany Spears moment and cut all my hair off 😞 then regreted that.
Maybe Im just a hot mess, but Id like to think there are more people in this world that have felt my pain.
In the end, i had to break up with him bc I knew i had to find myself first. So im currently not having sex with anyone, not trying to be in a relationship, and I am in therapy.
Hopefully me and my ex will be reunited when I am in a better mindset.
Few chances, try to fix things, if no fix possible: drop. I have not been as consequent in past exclusive relationships and it turned out to be a bed decision to be lenient on that one.
If one partner does not want sex to happen at a reasonable frequency any more and there are no obvious reasons (medical condition / extreme workload) there is likely sth. wrong in the relationship.
I'm single, still a virgin in my late 30s, all of my loves were unrequited, I've never been on a date, never had a kiss, obviously I'm very depressed because of feeling rejected all the time.
Get a new one.
Masturbation and pornography
Realize that men are secretly gay. It’s not ur fault.
The heck? You do realize women are lesbians too so it's not men's fault
I get very sad and pessimistic, but I already got used to being rejected 😢
Yeah I feel the same at this point. I get rejected so often I'm kind of getting use to it but it still hurts
Yeah, that's true, still hurts :/
I’m definitely not the one to ask here I’ve not handled it well at all. I can totally empathize with you it hurts ans sucks to feel that way