How do you handle being sexually rejected from your partner?

How do you handle being sexually rejected from your partner?
I dont handle it well. It hurts so bad to get rejected from my husband. ๐Ÿ˜ฅ
Any tips on how to handle sexual rejection? If you've ever been in this situation just how do you deal with it?
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For my personal situation, attraction isn't a issue and we have discussed this multiple times. Also no cheating going on. Thank you guys for trying to help but a lot of y'all are assuming the worst about my situation.
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  • I'm honestly not sure other than asking why and explaining how he's making you feel. Hopefully there's a good explanation.

  • If a girl makes me feel rejected. Game over she's not getting any sex, the attractions gone and no matter how hard she tries she's ruined it. There are fine lines, equally girls do this to me so I'm not being unreasonable it's just how it is. In a relationship its considered emotional abuse. Your husband needs to sort his shit out or you can get sex from elsewhere.

    • I understand your update, I wanted to say something about the others responses but I just decided not to. I think what your husband is experiencing is not great, work should end but unfortunately tutors and and others are very dedicated to their work and respond to emails after work time because they care. This then sucks the life out of them. If I want sex and my partner is low on energy I'd probably bring them refreshments all through the day so theyll be bursting by the end. Fruit, B-Complex and B12 tablet lol, glasses of water, have the house smelling of winter fruits with a candle, spiced cookie 🍪 a monster energy drink (contains vitamins). What else? Brush your blow dried hair in his room, the pheromones will drive him crazy. If that all fails 😳

  • You think -- this isn't a marriage. I'm out of here.

  • Huh? They would not be a "partner" for long if it was an ongoing habit.

    Sure if they have erection issues, or mental issues, then seek medical help. But it could be other issues, in which case it's better to talk to him first, before getting counselling.

    If it's lack of attraction on your part then maybe get some better lingerie, make his favourite meals and bring on that spark that brought you both together in the fist place. But don't forget the pandemic affects people differently.

    Some people are just in a bit of an existential crisis as science and politics have failed.

  • Good question. It's been more than a year I had sex with my girlfriend. I still don't know how to handle it. It frustrates me every day. I can cope with it better now. I don't expect anything anymore, to be honest. Sometimes, I have hope. But no real expectations.

    • A year would kill me. I can barely go a few days

    • I would like it every week. I would be happy with once a month. Heck, even every two months would be fine if I knew it would be on a regular basis. The most annoying thing is that I don't even know why we don't have sex anymore, and that it's basically impossible to have a good conversation with my girlfriend about it. Every subtle initiative I try to take gets rejected. Clearly she doesn't see the problem. I wish I could help you. I have lots of experience with the subject, but no solution either. :(

    • A year holy crap, my record was 4 days

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  • Hmm, need someone new.

  • I move on

  • Spend a lot of time on gag, rack up master status, delete, repeat.

    • Thereโ€™s this myth that basically sex drive differences can always be magically resolved via communication and a good relationship unless thereโ€™s an attraction issue or someone cheating. Itโ€™s not remotely true and just makes the rejected partner feel worse.

  • Why did you marry him in the first place?

    What made him stand out from all the other guys?

    • Well he use to have lots of sex with me. Especially during the first couple years of being together

    • That's it? He had lots of sex with you so you married him?

    • Haha like a little but really that I loved him and he is a great dad and was a great partner. That great partner thing is where everything is starting to slip out of place.

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  • I wouldn't take it well. I'd be pissed, like moody, silent.
    But I take my time and try to 'read the signs' like we're home I ask him how he is, how his day went, and from the way he's talking I can see whether or not he's doing okay or not.
    If it's been a long and painful day he does this happy sigh of relief and then I'm like "oh, I'll make him some tea, give him a massage and maybe some words of encouragement" Sometimes that leads to sex, sometimes it does not, but at least he's feeling better. And when That happens, he'll return the favor and that's when the sex happens after all :)

  • Talk to em find out why and fix it.

    Communication essentially.

  • I don't know im sorry i dont handle rejection well, which is why i let him initiate most of the time

  • ask for the reason, maybe the reason is good and the rejection wouldn't hit so hard

  • how do i tell you how to deal with something that men have to deal with daily..

    Honestly the only thing i can ask you here, Have you talked to him about it?

  • I search for a relationship where my partner loves having sex with me.

  • have a conversation with him about it and remember he's feeling bad not that you are unatracctive

  • Is he ignoring/rejecting you for a long? Cause even men have mood swings so after few days sometimes months he will get back in the mood. Ok if this is not in your case and he is seriously rejecting you, you can try new tricks to turn him ON. Seduce him but also ignore him, a smart game to be played.
    For a workaround masturbate it will relieve you.

    • It's like he gives into sex sometimes or I manipulate him into doing it. Like he rarely ever wants it

    • Was he always this way or something happened with him that changed him? Choose a good time and speak with him why does he not take initiative for sex? Discussion is the best solution.

    • He wasn't always this way

  • by furious masturbation, i guess xD but if that happens more often, i'd try to see what's wrong with them and if i can't fix it, i'll leave them.

  • Have you ever rejected sex when he wanted it? If yes then you know how it feels

    • I wouldn't ever reject my hubby

    • Guys can get rejected a lot from the woman they are with as they say they are not in the mood, sometimes a guy isn't in the mood, working and stress or other things on his mind could really effect his erection prob because he's tired or other stuff, doesn't mean it's anything to do with you, don't take it personally

  • Men say no to sex?

    • Yess they definitely do😥

    • In what universe?

    • In apples universe lol

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