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How do you keep masturbation interesting and good everytime?

Like it's occasionally good and most of the time mediocre and very rarely amazing. I just don't know what to do with myself, I've brought a few extra toys but all they seem to do is help get me more horny and more frustrated.

Hell it happens loads, that I can feel my body orgasm but I don't get any of the feelings from it. And every time that happens I just want more and more. I used to be able to orgasm in around 10-20mins but now the average is anywhere from half hour to a hour. Sometimes I can go hour and a half without getting anywhere and that's just annoying as hell.

I just don't know what to do or how I sort myself out, please try and give me advice or share your experiences rather than say sexting etc
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  • Masturbation techniques cannot be generalised. What works for one, might not work for others. Some like to take their sweet time to cook up love while others might be ready-to-orgasm.


    Sometimes doing something that one is not supposed to do increases the kink factor and therefore the pleasure. Like the forbidden fruit 😉


    Try 'Edging' it makes the orgasm feel better. B ring yourself close to the brink, then stop. Repeat that several times, and then come when you can't hold it in any longer. It makes the orgasm feel so much better.



    Next, there is also the factor of mutual masturbation. This can be done virtually even. Sharing what you are doing…or watching the same porn together and cumming together also increases the pleasure.

    • Oh and yeah the fact that your body is giving you less pleasure is a signal from your body that you should do it a bit less. Try not ejaculating or masturbating for a few days, and see how if feels after. Generally if you do it every other day it will feel more pleasurable than every day. If you wait four days it will feel more pleasurable than every other day. If you wait 15 days it will feel much more pleasurable than every day.

    • I only do it once or twice a week as it is, I've waited a month before figuring at the time I do it too much, but I've always had this problem, hell I've found I don't really have as big a problem with others as I do personal, which is bloody annoying as I want to be able to help myself out

    • It's not a bad sign at all tbh, stop if you want. It could also be boredom or you're missing the warmth and closeness that comes along with intercourse.

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  • Try reading erotica and or audio porn.

    there was a question a while back on audio porn.

    it has some specifically for girls

    getting your brain fully focused on the imagination side of things really helps.

    have a think over what your fantasies and kinks are, read some stories on it.

    if you have a close girlie mate, try chatting through it with them, I’ve sat through enough conversations with girl mates talking about masturbation and tips etc lol.

    also try stuff like a nice soak in bath, body lotion, seduce yourself before you get round to playing.

    abstaining For a little bit can help as well.

    • @ pinky Anon,

      Here is the question on Audio erotica.

      My reply has a number of links for decent stuff,

      Give it a go.

      What do you think of audio erotica/porn? ↗

    • Haha I started off on audio porn before switching to actual porn it was easier in a way but it was also really hot to see the guys expression when he's aroused and cums, but yeah I might go back to it. As for erotica I started reading that when I was 14/15 and still read it now weekly if not sometimes daily 😅 so still enjoy that, but although it does help with getting horny it doesn't help loads with the letting go portion of it

    • What you put in that link is what I've always wanted a relationship to be like, so long as the guy I'm with likes to play a game. I'm a tease and I've known that for ages, it's why when I went to clubs I enjoyed the attention and probably part of the reason I have so many kinks. But I always found that guys I met don't like to play into it. I've sent innuendos with the intension of being a tease and to be teased back with hints of sex, all I got was either to not be annoying/naggy or asked to fuck then and there, no one actually plays the game and comes out top with words or descriptive imagery. So are you saying you and your misses actually do stuff like that?

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  • Might just be the way you do it. I remember a few years ago, masturbation was so boring to me, and I'd only do it once in a while to get rid of that annoying dizzy feeling. But once I got my own private bed to do it in, that changed right away and I came almost every day. It could be something as simple as that that's not working for you. I guess experiment with stuff and try and find what works best for you?

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  • Maybe you are multi orgasmic. Sounds like you just aren't satisfied by just one. Maybe try keep going after the first

    • I have thought about that as I'm rarely if ever satisfied with just the one, sometimes I give into the urge but when Im with someone it almost feels selfish to ask to keep going

    • Not selfish at all. Sex should satisfy both or all parties. Whats the most number of times you've ever cum in one session before?

    • Not many three I think, I've always wanted to be strapped down and forced to take whatevers been given to me even if I were to say it's too sensetive or anything and have a colour system in place so I can still say no 😅 cus I always stop myself and I think it's in my head as I always feel I can go farther than I have done

  • My girlfriend said the same thing. Stop, when you are frustrated and can't orgasm. Come back to it later. Do you have someone to masturbate with? My girlfriend and I masturbated together in a 69 position so we each could watch the other. She did not use toys. Finger tips only. Use Astroglide to lubricate your fingertips to keep your clitoris, smooth and your fingers moving easily.
    Maybe some of the girls can help out her on GAG

  • I did A, but either is fine.

    • What anal? I don't get what you mean

    • I answered the wrong question. Sorry.

  • Have you ever tried edging while masturbating?

    That way you are building up a sensation and then you release yourself and do it again

  • Are you on medication

    • Getting horny isn't a problem I get wet a lot more than I masturbate, I've been told that I get too wet in the past

    • Meds can block orgasms

    • Well either way the only meds I take is paracetamol once every 2-4 months

  • Get someone else to do it for you

  • I understood what youmeant to say. A friend of mine had the same issue and she did some stuff and that really helped her now. I can't tell you that here but surely feel free to text me :)
    You can do it girl :)

  • It’s hard to find better ways so I just watch porn and just edge

  • Keep it fresh by doing it at different times of day and fantasize about different people or situations. Do it it different places in your home or elsewhere. Keep buying toys until you find something that works for you. Consider a very strong vibrator, a rabbit vibrator, or a clit suction vibrator. If those don't work, look into more extreme toys including nipple suction or a Sybian. It may help to watch some porn you enjoy or a movie with your favorite actor.

    • Thinking about it the few times I got really turned on last was when I did it in another room aka the bathroom 😅 cus it's not my house it felt naughty to do it elsewhere than the bedroom. You don't think that there comes a point that there's too many toys lol, my fingers has never gotten me off so I've brought a few as I said, but it then worries me a bit if I start dating and I have tonnes of toys

    • I agree that doing it somewhere that feels naughty can be a big turn on. I wouldn't consider it a turn off if a girl I started dating had a collection of toys - quite the opposite and I'd want to enjoy them with her - but every guy is different. Of course you don't have to tell a guy about your toys until you find out what kinds of things he's into.

  • Masturbating is a chore. Like eating. Do it and get it over with to scratch the itch. I have never been excited to masturbate... ever

    • Wow that's no fun. How lame and unenthusiastic.

  • Don't do it for like 2 weeks. You will get it back

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