How do you know if a guy likes you or just wants to hook up?

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normalice · Accepted Answer

If there was a way to determine if a guy likes you and doesn't just want to hook up, every guy who just wants to hook up would emulate that, thinking it will expedite a hookup. I suppose the most common "rule of thumb" is to confirm he is doing something productive in life, because that's harder to do if sex is the only thing he thinks about.

You just have to be careful with the word "productive." Dont confuse it with just "has money." Like, if he is a landlord, "owning property" isn't really productive. There are ways to make it productive by showing real compassion for the living conditions of the tenants, but almost no land lord ever does that. Then you also have the opposite problem of people who try to oversell their productivity because they don't get equal respect to someone who does less work (and usually gets more pay). This is exceedingly common in male nurses who don't want anyone thinking of male doctors as their intellectual superiors. They may not be thinking of sex all the time but they are still thinking about getting something stroked (their ego). So it's not wildly better than someone who is just wanting sex. In my opinion, but I suppose some girls are into ego stroking, so..

JamieLoves · Accepted Answer

Punch him in the balls. Then you’ll know for sure.

IronLady6354 · Accepted Answer

If a guy truly wants to do things with you because he wants to be with you outside of just having sex then he really does like you. If you can tell a guy is only spending time with you because he thinks it'll lead to sex then he's not really interested in you. Of course a guy who really likes you will still really, really want sex with you, but he'll also really, really want to be with you in non-sexual ways as well.
To figure things out with him do just that: offer to spend time with him but make sure to make it clear that sex is not going to happen. If he really likes you he'll still be interested. If he doesn't then he'll have little to no interest in coming. Of course some guys who just want to hook up will go along anyways just because they think it'll still eventually lead to sex. If you're worried about this hold out for a fairly long time. If he's really interested in you he'll be willing to wait. If he just wants to hook up he'll eventually think the effort isn't worth it and will just quit trying to pursue you

Elliegirl · Accepted Answer

Keeps your legs closed and see if he still wants to be around you.

krysten02 · Answer

If he messages you only at certain times for example 1-2 in the morning and you don’t hear from him any other time. Also, he could send you sexual photos constantly trying to initiate sexting. He only wants to hang out your place or his place, he’ll never take you out on “actual date” usually. In addition, they would treat you like a buddy around other people and then go back to sexual behavior when you two are alone or not together.

Siren777 · Answer

If 95% conversation is sex, he only wants to hookup and also the times he contacts you says a lot. Only night time? You're a booty call. When a guy likes you, you will know as he will tell, show and want to do things for you.

anupamagrawal · Answer

No matter how much advise you get or follow here - One can never be assure on this things - else no relationship would have been through a tragic phase.
Though, the best thing is to notice is how he behaves. Is he extra sweet and an exceptional obedient. Guys, who just want hook-ups can go a long extent to please and get you on bed. They just want to flatter you with all the sugar talks.
Where is a person really likes you - he would argue with you too - because he has a long plan in his mind for life and he would get to know you. He would be sweet too, but only to a practical limit and will try to stop you from doing things that he thinks is not right for you.
He will truly care while the hook-up buddy will just try to impress.

razelove · Answer

Why would the two be mutually exclusive? I've liked women, hooked up with them, and for the most part if it didn't go further than that it was because they had buyer's remorse rather than my lack of interest from getting my rocks off.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

that can be tough.

A guy wanting to hook up will look you up and down constantly, compliment what you are wearing while staring at your chest or butt.

Many will buy you a few drinks, then just say, "hey babe, you are hot AF! you wanna F**k?"

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Well, if a girl doesn't hop into bed on the first or second date, the guy who just wants a hook up will probably ghost her and then she would know.

katyya_lov25 · Answer

I don’t know your situation or what boundaries you set, but for one, definitely don’t sleep with a guy until he commits to you, then you’ll definitely know what he wanted you for. The majority of guys will test females on how far they can go with them, it’s up to you to set those boundaries.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Serious ok if he calls you at 2am and wants to come by, it's a hook up if he calls you once in a while saying how much he missed you, it's a hook up, if you receive flowers unexpectedly, he's into you, while at work you get a text saying hi just thinking of you seeing how your day is going, he is into you deep, if it's a weekend and post midnight and he does up with a bother of wine it's a hook up if he shows up with roses and champagne and it's 6pm it's too take you out on the town he's gonna propose, so get ready to say I do and be careful not to swallow the ring at bottom of glass, he just poured you I can go on if you like but I think you get the idea between the two

ohshee · Answer

When he asks you out and you're out together if he's just really chilled keep the eye contact and make sure all about you he really likes you but if you could tries to control things tries to hurry things up is impatient then just want you for the hookup well it's either that or he has to go to the bathroom pretty bad

spartan55 · Answer

It's possible he wants both...

melanieeeB · Answer

Mostly there are obvious signs in their behavior towards you
(for example lack of interest, basically everytime you put too much effort and he doesn't come your way or he does just when it's convenient for him or you start to question his intentions.. you deep down just know it)
but honestly I believe at the end of the day you don't for sure.

People can always change their minds and before you realize it you're sitting their and being like "damn it was all a lie" so just mind your own business girl

jillybeanns · Answer

The main thing I learned is that if he’s serious, you will never have to question it. You will literally always know where your stand without question.

The_Maphio · Answer

A man ALWAYS wants to hook up.
Interactions during the hook up attempt makes him change his aim.
Whether turning him completely off and changing target entirely, or realizing the girl is worth more than a potential nice fuck.
Or just keep going on the original rail and try to hook up.

Jjpayne · Answer

If the conversations are meaningful and they ask for ways they can follow up with you

Avicenna · Answer

His body language might indicate impatience or his words might give it away.

Coulis · Answer

You can never know if you go the pre-marital sex route. Some guys will game a girl for months and years just to bed her then dipset. They usually have a few going at all times. Time is not a factor.

Dragonpurple · Answer

I have never just hooked up with anyone, so not helpful I know. I'd imagine if a guy is just looking to get some, he won't stick around and move on to find other options.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Make him wait till you’re sure of his intentions before you get sexual

RealMarek · Answer

There is no way to know with absolute certainty. However, a guy who shows up for multiple dates without sex and behaves consistently is more apt to truly like you than not.

Ripper_E · Answer

There is no guaranteed way of knowing but there are things you can do to weed them out. Simply letting them know what you want and expect. Also not hooking up.

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