How do you know if a person will become a gay or lesbian?

How do you know if a person will become a gay or lesbian?
In their future? Do you see signs since you are young or not necessarily? Many people say or some scientists or doctors says a person can be born with some brain functions thing that makes a person becomes gay/lesbian when they are growing up others says becoming gay/lesbian is about the environment you are surrounded with as you grow up, or how you were raised by your parents and as you grow up do you had some sort of tendencies that leans more to one sex or he other one (like a little girls playing with cars and trucks and being a tomboy or a boy playing with dolls and little house , I mean thing slike that and also their surroundings or with whom they hang out as they become more mature) that you tend to start liking a person of your same sex. Based on that, can you make an assumption for the way a person dress if that person is a gay/les.
How do you know if a person will become a gay or lesbian?
Based on the photos can you tell if that lady is lesbian or not necessarily as women also dress that way? Even if they look that masculine. The person in the photo supposedly is straight and she had been straight all her life but her looks says another story.
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  • I wouldn’t say that the way your parents raise you or your environment growing up would affect your sexuality. If that was the case there wouldn’t be as many gay kids with homophobic parents who grew up in religion households. Or there are plenty of examples of gay couples raising kids who turned out to be straight.

    For me personally, I think my family knew I was going to be gay since I was a kid. I was always a bit feminine growing up. I liked to play with girls toys, I liked to sing and dance and I was a little drama king lol. my family knew I was gay before I even knew what being gay was. I didn’t realize I liked boys until I was 12 or 13 years old.

    I don’t know the exact science behind it, and to be honest I don’t really care to know either. I just think it’s something that just…happens. Sometimes it happens very early in childhood, sometimes it’s something that happens through puberty, and sometimes people don’t figure out their sexuality until their 40 years old married with 3 kids already.

    • And also I think you can 100% tell if someone is gay by how they look or dress and I’m tired of some people thinking you’re being stereotypical for assuming. Most stereotypes are based off of truth after all. If you didn’t tell me the woman in the picture was straight, I would of definitely guessed that she was gay. However that doesn’t mean I’m gonna sit here and INSIST she’s gay just off the way she dresses. If she says she’s straight then I’ll take her for her word. If anything I love when straight people dress the way they want without worrying if it comes off as gay. There are plenty of gay people who “dress straight” too

    • But the lady in the photo could be lesbian only that she has not really came out and people assume she is straight.

    • I mean that’s true as well of course. But I just don’t like the idea of thinking I know someone’s sexuality better than they do. Even if my gaydar is going off, I would never say anything if they claim to be straight.

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  • When I was in the 7th grade, I knew a guy who said that his parents were all freaked out because he liked to play with his younger sister's dolls. This guy didn't appear to me to be feminine or anything like that. And at that age I wasn't exactly wondering who was gay and who wasn't. We just didn't think of those things back then at that age. Turned out later on, he did become gay. So maybe that is a sign?

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  • As for how to know whether a person will come out as gay/lesbian, there are usually things you can pick up on throughout childhood (though these are far from a given, plenty of parents assume their kid is gay when they just aren't).

    As a lesbian myself I would definitely assume the woman in the pictures is gay, though I'm not at all attracted to her. The way she presents herself ticks all of the stereotypical butch lesbian stereotypes lol

    • Exactly that is the thing I want to give. If a stranger sees the lady in those pictures definitely they can say it is lesbian, exactly what I thought the first time I see the photos. She dresses masculine, her hair is very short and the way she presents herself ticks the lesbian stereotype like you say. But what if I tell you the lady in those photos is not gay? Will you believe it? And if she is not gay why the heck a woman who is straight has to dress that way and give the bad impression she is not straight?

    • I would believe that she was straight, though I wouldn't really understand the style choice. The general ways people present are - if you are a straight male you present masculine, if you are a straight female you present feminine, if you are a gay male you may take on feminine traits, if you are a gay woman you may take on masculine traits. I myself am only attracted to feminine women, but I know many lesbians who prefer a butch girl. They say it is a different kind of masculinity, softer than an actual man. I don't understand it, but that's neither here nor there - the only reason I could think of for a straight woman acting/dressing that way is that they simply like the style, though they have went quite far into it which is what makes me (and I assume you too) raise an eyebrow

    • When I was 23/24 (long time ago) I was dating a young lady who was around 20. We dated for over a year. After like 20 years, I looked her up on the internet and saw that she was married to another woman and they had an adopted daughter. I would not have seen that coming! She was very attracted to me, so perhaps she was bisexual? She never made any mention of being attracted to women however it wasn't talked about as much way back then. She was not butch at all but not "highly" feminine either.

  • "Supposedly is straight"? "Her looks tell another story"? Who tf are you? Are you in her sex life? If she says she's straight then she's straight creep...

    • Why could not y ou answer like a normal person like the rest of the commenters on the page and not insult me?

    • You're the one not being normal and insulting the woman in the photo.

    • Im not insulting the woman in the picture at all in any moment i said bad words about it I say about the curisosity and if you could see other commenters here never took my post as insulting, you were the one with the issue. But dont answer. If you dont have a nice thing to say dont say anything at all.

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  • A person is gay, bi or straight at birth. They don't "become" it in the future. They might not realize it until later, but they are what they are. Something Republican's and religious nutbags don't seem to grasp.

    • Some say there is no gene at birht that may indicate you wil be bi straigh tor gay in the future you becoem that due to past experiences, environment surroundings, etc.

    • Yes, those people are Republican's and religious nutbags. SCIENCE states it is set at birth.

  • It's definitely not sensorineural.

    • Environmental.

  • A small percentage of girls even from junior high you obviously can tell they would be gay. I was very surprised so many girls that were tomboys grew up to be very beautiful women and some women that were really hot in high school that actually went out with a lot of guys and had a reputation turned out to be gay so really it's almost about a 50/50 shot

  • They don't BECOME, they are born that way.

    • Soem say there is no gene gay you are born with.

    • I don't know if it's a gene, you're just born with certain likes and dislikes. Sometimes, it might take you a while to discover what they are. They're there, you just might not know it from the very start.

  • When they have boobs and go by "Chad"?

  • I don’t think there is a definitive method. Looks and/or behaviors are not a sure thing.

  • If parent becomes gay or if they are abused by same sex as a child

  • women are born bi so it's in their DNA
    some men choose to be gay/ bi

    • Im a woman and i was not born bi who told y ou that?

  • you just never know

  • Itis due to traumatic experiences in their past. Ellen DeGeneres was raped as a teenager. George Takei was raped while in a Japanese Internment camp.

    No one is born Gay, there is no gay gene even though they have been searching for one for over 20 years.