How do you mentally prepare to have sex with a new person?

[Anonymous]

asking myself that question as things have been getting interesting with this girl , life is so unpredictable who knows if we'll sleep together or not but i feel there is at least a realistic chance it could happen this summer

but not entirely sure i'm mentally prepared , well obviously i'd like to have sex with her , that isn't the question. not sure what to expect or what she'd expect or like. it would just be totally different to be with her and so exciting

so i want it to actually happen but realise she might view this differently , i'm sure the first time together would be at least a little awkward or less familiar with what other like or expectations sexually

[Fireguy17]

Shower up, clean sheets and bedding, clean the house, put the rope and handcuffs away, have a plan, stick to the basics, ask what she wants/likes and try to make sure she finishes first.
Hold her after if she likes that.
Be a gentleman.
Now sometimes you undress each other with your teeth as you are getting out of the car, so then all bets are off, bucket up, it's going to get good.

[Asker]

what about a hotel room? i say that cause my area is full of hotels as its a summer vacation spot , our city not that big but might be like 20 different small > big hotels here. i'm not sure what a room would cost or how hard it be to reserve as i've never stayed at one locally if i was 100 % certain it going to happen it might be a good option for the location as where i live isn't that private and she lives along way from the downtown and not even sure who she lives with there another option i though of might be camping or a tent? i have access to a couple spots where we could do that but she works at a restaurant so seem kind of rugged to spend night in a tent but it is summer

[Fireguy17]

That is also a classy move. It might set you back $150ish. More in peak season. I would save camping for much later, the possibility of something going bad is pretty high. She might not be an outdoorsy type.

[Asker]

i could also say i got the hotel so i could get drunk and not have to drive home if it was a special night instead of saying it was so we could sleep together and see how the night went if things progressed to that agree camping might be too early and could be a lot of issues as we'd be alone together in a setting she may or may not find entirely comfortable depending how well she knows me by now. my parents own some property and is some camp sites we never use was how i could have access to a spot for that , there also private surrounded by trees no other people but agree maybe too intense until were much more comfortable and perhaps already been together

[Fireguy17]

Yep, get a room with either separate rooms, or 2 beds. That way it shows you weren't expecting sex. Make sure there is some sort of entertainment in the lobby or bar.

[VanillaSalt]

A few good licks then a few good sticks… mentally prepare lol.

[moonpie89]

I think the best thing to do in your situation is to communicate this with her. Have a conversation about it. Although, it is fun to rip off of the bandage and just do it your first time together. When the mood is right , kiss her passionately and get it on. You can figure out the rest later.

[Asker]

i agree we should talk about it if it appears likely that we end up in bed together. but true it would be a thrill the first time , so much so that maybe i can't even think about it , maybe i'm obsessed but i'm still realistic and maybe it won't seem real until its like actually happening , at this point its so maybe well do that until my hands are on her body it just doesn't seem real yet

[Sorbay]

I punch myself in the dick exactly 4 times