How do you not feel uncomfortable or weird around male family members when you know men can get hard at any time for no reason?

How do you not feel weird around male family members when you know they can get hard if they are cold, turned on, or for no reason around you? I thought men had more control over their boners but finding out they do not makes me feel weird about being around them.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You said it yourself; boners can happen for a multitude of reasons, and only one of those has anything to do with a person.

    Just because a guy gets hard, it doesn't mean that he's thinking about sex, or even about a person, at all. No offense, but you're really overreacting, here.

    It doesn't happen nearly as often as you think, and I promise you that it doesn't mean they're fantasizing about you. Besides, most men that aren't teenagers have better control over it than that, anyway.

  • I don't know who has been lying to you, but a REAL MAN can control that impulse. But what family member has that 'feeling' for another of the family? That's kind of fcked up!!
    But, in contrast, women can get ERECT NIPPLES at any time, and nobody cares!!
    How is that different?
    You don't really know, and seem to be relying on some that at are lying to you!!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Why would you even be thinking about that where your family is concerned?
    It happens to males all the time. You wouldn’t notice, and they would make sure you didn’t know.
    What makes you think they would then come up and hug you?

  • This is a strange question, they r ur family members so generally r not attracted to u, not to mention women can get randomly wet and aroused as well

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  • I mean I'm not constantly thinking about people having boners, especially in my family. That's just weird.

  • Just because a family member gets hard, doesn't mean he has any intent towards a family member. In fact, just because a guy gets hard, doesn't mean he has any intent toward anyone. It's a natural biological occurrence, which may, or may not, have sexual intent, depending on the circumstances.

    • Oh okay. I asked because certain males in my family make sexual remarks towards me and it makes me uncomfortable but no one believes me nor cares.

    • Why didn't you say that in the first place. If males are making sexual comments to you, that is a problem. It also depends on what kind of comments they are making, and under what circumstances.

  • Do u sneeze? Is a biological function!

  • Young guys can get a hard on from a cool breeze ! Even a warm breeze. No breeze. Seeing your covered ass, in loose pants. Seeing the lines of your bikini's or thong. Just THINKING about your bikini or thing lines. I suppose that applies to young family members too.

  • The fact it happens for no reason ought to tell you that even if it does happen; it doesn't mean anything.

  • This is dumb as fuck. We don't get boners for family members.

  • Just because a guy has a boner doesn't mean he is horny or even thinking about sex. Females can get wet by you without being able to control it as well you know.

  • You don’t think about it. And unless a male has an anaconda in his pants you aren’t going to notice it.


    You’re around family though. That thought shouldn’t even enter your mind by chance?

    • Ah I see. And it shouldn't but some family members my step dad especially make strange sexual remarks towards me. I don't know if in his case its because I always dress really feminine and mature and my mom doesn't that he does this or what but it makes me feel very uncomfortable but he won't stop.

    • If no one believes you then record it or have a witness around. Confront them loudly when they do it again, ir beforehand

    • Of course. What was I thinking. Stepdad. You guys aren’t blood. I apologize. You tell your mom or him that you don’t like it that it seriously makes you feel uncomfortable? If he truly loves your mom, he will stop. Even if he doesn’t think it’s appropriate or not he should still respect your wishes.

  • This is the most ridiculous question I've seen all week. Rationalizing this is the same as men saying how can they be around women knowing they get wet.

  • you shouldn’t worry about it
    we can get boners but it doesn’t mean anything, it’s as innocent and uncontrollable as getting an itch and it has nothing to do with being turned on

  • What options do you or we have? Penises are the same with non family members too... I’m confused

  • What makes me uncomfortable is that there are women like you who obsess over something like this. That's not normal. I'd suggest you talk with someone about your problem and see of they can help you. Definitely not healthy.

  • I think you are thinking of it too personally. Remember that YOU aren't the cause of it and it's not directed at you. It's like anything that might happen naturally with a woman's body that she has no control over, should we guys feel weird around you? It's the same thing reversed. Just don't think about it. And it's likely extremely rare this happens, and if so, you are likely to NEVER know it, so why think about it?

  • Why does it bother you if a guy has a boner or not? You won’t even notice when he has one.

    • Because if its a family member, I dont want to be too close to them and end up being something they fantasize about or give them a hug or whatever whilebthey have a boner it'll probably make them feel weird so i iust avoid them but they think im being rude.