How do you not "just lie there"?

[Anonymous]

So whenever asked about how women can be good in bed you get responses such as the following:

- Enthusiasm
- Not being a dead fish
- Don't just lie there

Okay... but as someone who has not had sex before... please explain to me how one does not "just lie there" during sex.

In typical missionary (which is most likely the most popular/common sexual position for first time/inexperienced sexual people) please explain how the girl does not "just lie there". Like for real.

So they go to bed, and he's on top. And please explain how she is supposed to move 'cause the way I see it, you can't move much with another human being on top of you.

And while you're at it, explain to me what's "enthusiasm" 'cause you can be like, "OMG sex!"

and he'll be like, "OMG you're a freak GTFO!" lol

So explain.

[ichot]

I don't know about your hip mobility, flexibility, and core strength but when I'm laying down I can thrust my hips up and down. There's a lot of ways i can move while still laying down. Sex positions have a lot of varieties, missionary isn't just having the weight of the guy on top. Creativity makes room for fun.

Additionally sex without emotional expression makes sex an unsatisfying experience. It's worse than being physically still. Sex for us social beasts is beyond procuring a baby to carry on our species. It's an act of intimacy that exposes our emotions down to our core. Having a sexual partner that expresses nothing is essentially masturbating with a human body and it happens for both men and women.

If you aren't sure about what "emotional expression" is, then I'd keep that term in mind throughout your daily life and observe people.

You are taking the "Don't just lie there" too literally. Also "and he'll be like" is just an assumption, some guys love over-the-top enthusiastic sex and some guys do not. You can't know what your hypothetical partner will like.

[Asker]

I mean... my core/flexibility is pretty good. I workout a lot. I consider myself fairly fit and athletic lol

[thorthorley]

Ok by saying 'dont just lie there' we dont mean u hav to f**k us back or anything. We just mean that u hav to express that u r enjoying it rather than just lie there sleeping or emotionless. U hav to moan and look sexy, have a sexy face that says 'OMG this is good'. Maybe play with your boobs, your haird, your clit or whatever. Show that u r enjoying it and maybe grind a little or something. Dont just lie there and do nothing bc it takes all the enjoyment out of it. We might as well be fucking a sex doll. But i will back girls up in that if u aren't enjoying then dont fake it for the guy who is doin a terrible job. Girls will naturally be expressive and show their enjoyment if the sex is good. If the guy isn't doin a good job then i dont blame the girl for being a dead starfish. So yea it goes both ways, Hope this explains it for u.

[RansomDraven]

You can definitely still move from the bottom. You can thrust up to meet him, sometimes you can get going to where he can just stay over you and you're actually doing all of the thrusting. Or grab his hips and pull him in deeper. Pull his hair, bite him. Get into it