How do you tell a guy you want sex without sounding desperate?

He said he wanted to get to know me and not focus primarily on sex. But after 5 dates we finally slept together.
I know he's shy and worried he's not big enough etc. But I really enjoyed myself. Anyways I feel like he's worried about doing it again and out dates have been in the day and far from either of our houses. I'm horny all the time and touch him a lot, whilst he remains quite composed and tries not to touch me too much.
For me being physical is important especially in the beginning stages.
I find I feel more connected and calmer, since it's a language i can happily use to convey myself.
But I don't want to come across leechy or desperate.

What do I do?
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  • Okay so this is how you do it next time you go out on a date you invite him over to your house make sure you wear a dress or skirt have casual communication somehow get him in your room have him sit down on the bed just to keep talking to him push him backwards get up on top of him

    Sit on his lap it would be better if you didn't have any panties on but at the same time panties would still be good raise your screwed up a little bit and then slow motion slide your hips up forward and in slow slow motion slide them back look deep into his eyes if his hands are down by the sides pick them up put them on your hips gently slide your hips forward and back forward and back

    Lean Forward kiss him kiss his lips his cheek his neck in slow slow motion very sensual soft and deep when your lips are by his ear moan a little bit he's a little bit heavy sit back up and just slow motion barely even touches pants if you have to just glad your hips your panties right over the top of his pants but do it in slow slow motion you do that a few times and just watch and see what happens

    If nothing happens say time out jump off pull off your panties pull off his pants and get back on and do it again come on you have to use your imagination you can do this I can tell you a hundred different ways to do it

Most Helpful Guy

  • If you already know each other and are comfortable with each other then it should not be a problem for you. If you don't want to say it then do it by your actions. Go to his place, watch a romantic movie and seduce him. Takeoff your clothes or open your legs. He will take it from there.

    • Thanks for MHO!

Most Helpful Girl

  • Well already sounds like his love language is not touch which sucks hate those dates.

    Also he is not sexual nearly as much as you!

    Honestly just talk and enjoy the 6 months this lasts before he gets annoyed you are wanting sex so much!

    My sister and I both have his issue to high of a drive and relationships don't last to long!

    We need it but the guys die out!

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  • He sounds like a nice guy in that he says he wants to get to know you and not just focus on sex. Anyway, maybe with time he will get more into the sex part? Just thinking.

  • Let him know that you enjoyed the sex with him. It is also ok to tell him you have a high sex drive and like touching. Is he around your age?

    • He's a year older. But he has just got the all clear from long covid. He has gained a little weight and isn't as confident about his performance abilities since he's been unwell for so long. I have told him that I don't mind his weight gain which is true since I've dated bigger guys in the past. As for his stamina if he needs to I'm happy to take the reigns until he feels better able to take control

    • You have the right attitude and he is a lucky guy

    • Thank you

  • Don’t worry about sounding desperate. He wants to have sex with you. Give him permission. He won’t think less of you. I promise

    • I told him but he is focused on getting to know me rather than have sex with me. Which is a nice change but a little one extreme to the next

  • Just ask for what you want. Invite him to your place and take his clothes off.

  • Ask if he wants to come over to your place and then let nature take its course or just ask him to go to bed with you.

  • Why not invite him to your house for dinner, be proactive in arranging a date

  • Don't overthink this stuff. If you want to have sex, just snuggle in close and start escalating things.

  • While I'm young I was always taught the importance of conveying love languages to your partner. Me and my partner work hard to make sure we are meeting each other's needs and that means understanding each other's love languages. I would ask him where he ranks physical touch on his love languages, and if it's low that may be why he's not too physical. I don't think that's a bad thing as long as he can meet your needs and be happy doing that. Otherwise there may be issues...

  • Oh wow I hope I don’t run into this problem but it sounds like a good problem too

  • Send nudes

  • You can always tell a fake question when they use the word "whilst."

  • Drop casual hints and let him know how much you enjoyed the sex.

    • He said he enjoyed himself and it felt good but everytime we engage in things like things he stops responding to my messages

    • Ask him why he does that?

    • OK I feel like I'm being so silly

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