How do you tell a man you want more in bed?

[Anonymous]

He loves sex. Sometimes I think a little too much. He watches a lot of porn. But he’s pretty basic in bed. He’s a grown man that is still just playing with my clit long enough to get it wet so he can stick it in or to go ahead and get me off because he knows i won’t with just penetration alone. And lord knows he can’t wait 5 minutes before he has to insert his dick. There is little to no foreplay every single time. Then he penetrates me for about 5-6 minutes, cums, and we’re done.
It’s never a long ordeal…ever. I often go to the bathroom to clean up feeling unsatisfied.. Since I mostly orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

if he has been drinking, it lasts longer and he will be more sensual and try to rock my world. Maybe liquid courage? We’ve been together for 8 years. But it never really goes outside the eating me, penetrating me, then done. It’s just feels like he doesn’t really want to do all the foreplay for very long and I feel like the porn has done that to him.

How do I bring this up without completely destroying his ego and further damaging my sex life? Or better yet…what can I do to make it better without saying a word? Is that possible? I want more. I want a more connected sex life.

[FilmGuy93]

The thing about sex stuff is that you really DO just have to feel comfortable using your words and actions to tell the other person what you want. If what you want is to have your hair pulled, get spat on, and be told that you're a set of warm holes for him to enjoy; you have to communicate that fact to him directly. Conversely, if what you need is to be lovingly caressed and made to feel like you're the only girl in the world; you also have to feel comfortable telling him that.

The reality is that if you aren't comfortable speaking up with him, you need to take a hard look at exactly why that is and work to resolve that

[Asker]

Really appreciate that!

[FilmGuy93]

Happy to help! Best of luck

[RobT312]

how have u done this for 8 years without doing something? Talk more. My girlfriend and I talk about that stuff…you don’t need to talk about the bad things, just talk about how you want more foreplay. I think you can also work at it and be the initiator…. get a little more wild and frisky with foreplay and see how he likes it…it may provoke him. He may not know you want more

[Guy13]

Too much porn as that rewire one’s brain.
Try pictures and images but not Porn

[slatyb]

It's simple. You don't tell him what he's doing wrong. You ask him to do things that work better for you.

[Asker]

Thank you. Great answer.

[Summeroflove]

The relationship is purely about sex on both ends. He’s emotionally cheating on you with porn. You seem to deserve each other

[RealMarek]

The porn can be a real problem for a lot of men. No porn is necessary and sexual energy is sapped. It’s totally okay for you to tell him you think sex has seemed perfunctory and disconnected lately, and to ask him to refrain from porn and turn to you for his sexual needs. If he agrees, make sure to be sexually available enough to make up for his porn sessions.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Staximus]

Grab his head and shove his face back into your pussy when he starts pulling his face away from it and say "don't stop", or stop being a chicken and say "you better eat this pussy right if you want some more tomorrow"

[Caliguy88]

I’d probably love if a girl was like, do more to me. Lol. I’m not sure what you are looking for but I love just doing everything….. I feel I holdback a lot so my partners don’t think I’m a perv. I’d love if a girl was like, go crazy on me.

[In_Trance]

say it to him, straight up