How do you think about sex, and how seriously do you take it?

[Boppy]

I've been thinking that I care too much about sex because I've watched a ton of porn since hitting puberty and am still a virgin at 25.
I feel like I've grown up surrounded by stories about sex, but, as I've seen from TVTropes, it's an exciting and popular topic.
Therefore, it's quite possible that 90% of what I've seen/learned is BS.

In my head I'm debating between a lot of mindsets I've seen:

• Getting laid to become an adult.
• Having casual sex to maximize my enjoyment of life.
• Courting often and having lots of sex to better please/date a future dream woman.
• Avoiding sex until marriage because it seems to result in less reported cheating/divorce and in greater marital happiness (on average).
• Avoiding sex until marriage because it seems to result in less reported cheating/divorce and in greater marital happiness (on average).
• Enjoying sex but not seeing it as very important in the grand scheme of things.

What are your thoughts, and how much does it actually matter to you? Are people who don't see things your way going to lead worse lives?

[SueShe]

Sex is way on the bottom of my prioritylist because I prioritize my education over my hormones.

To me, sex has nothing but disadvantages:

1. It is stinky
2. It is messy
3. It is disgusting
4. It does not bring anything constructive
5. Most of the time the woman is objectified/sexualized
6. Most acts are unnatural
7. There is a lot of coercion towards one of the partners

As for watching porn, my browser security settings are set in such a way that pornographic content is unavailable and I am proud to say that I have never seen any pornography and thus my brain has not yet been fried.

[Boppy]

Neat perspective. Out of curiosity, how may a relationship factor in? It seems that lots of people enjoy love, as well as having families and the like. Sex is often but not always involved in that romance/children stuff. Also, agreed on the avoiding porn. I don't think it's a nightmare to see some by accident, but using it to unwind daily was pretty unhealthy for me, and I've since stopped cold turkey.

[SueShe]

Intercourse for the sake of procreation and to have children is ok

[Yoyoyok]

@sueshe Sounds like you are asexual it’s ok as long as you respect couples and people who choose to have sex before marriage.

[Boppy]

@Yoyoyok personally I wouldn't suggest asexual because I knew an asexual person in college who was just neural. No sexual drive, but also fine with doing it with a romantic partner for that partner's satisfaction/the cuddles afterwards. I figured asexuals lack drive rather than having an aversion.

[Yoyoyok]

Everyone is different if you hate sex and find it gross you are definitely an asexual.

[SueShe]

@Yoyoyok So, tell me, what do you find so special about sweaty and stinking bodies? You know that bodies only smell slightly better because of the extensive use of chemicals. If you did not use them, you would also frown upon the stench. Furthermore, why would you rate a person asexual because he/she favors education over copulation and fornication?

[Yoyoyok]

@sueshe I’m an atheist and very progressive which is a rarity on gag, I’m not judging you because I have no problem with LGBTQIA people like yourself, and you are the last letter.

[SueShe]

@Yoyoyok At the rate the letters of the alphabet are added to this group of people, we will soon need additional letter. A few weeks ago it was just LBT and now, the number of letters has more than just doubled. I am sure you must have forgotten at least a dozen other letters of the alphabet in your listing :-)

[SueShe]

@yoyoyok oops! I have been told that the letters were LGB and not LBT. My bad!

[Yoyoyok]

I don’t know, I’m heterosexual unlike you.

[Boppy]

The good ol' BLT.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[PrettyPriya]

Complex question. I take sex seriously. By that I mean safety. Whatever you do is your choice, but I don’t sleep with someone unless I am sure it is turning into a long term relationship.

[Boppy]

Care to elaborate on safety? I don't quite follow how that connects to a long-term relationship.

[PrettyPriya]

Well, do you want long term STDs? Safety means both partners check their health, practice safe sex with contraception unless otherwise attempting to conceive. @chrismaster69 could probably be valuable to add his own opinion below.

[Boppy]

Ah, I gotcha. Awareness of physical risks and how to mitigate them... I was thinking maybe some kind of emotional safety, if it's only for potential long-term partners. Thanks, and maybe he will.

[PrettyPriya]

Well, honored to get mhg for the first time with SueShe. Not sure that will ever happen again but 🙏 to the both of us.