How does a guy determine what is “good” sex?

[bobalife]

I always have good comments from all the guys I’ve slept with, but for some reason the last guy I hooked up with last year told me it was “okay”... I was so shocked because we literally had sex from the whole evening (6pm) to the next morning (9am), he even woke up on and off to still sex me, and we kept at it until he just couldn’t do it anymore Lol. He only said it was good when I asked him if I performed it well and he had to thinkkk about it saying he normally define it good if the girl also put work into it, which I did. So I actually don’t even know if he meant that or just saying that 🤦🏻‍♀️
So I am just curious how does a guy determine is “good” sex?

[TantraSerge]

I think that is you need to ask... it probably was just ok. Sorry to say.
Sex is not just a mechanical function of putting one's genital into another's. Sex is the entire experience. It's how you feel with each other. It's how the chemistries takes over and you loose each other in the moment.
It is not about timelines. Sex all night is not necessarily better then a 20 min fulfilling experience.

[4eyes2mouths]

He was probably just lying for god know why. I like a lot of oral play so if that's involved I would say it's been a good time. I also like when she is great on top, kinda takes control of the situation.

[bobalife]

Lying that it was good? Hmm interesting. Thank you for being honest.

[marc575]

I think the balance between lust and intimacy will make the beast go out between two people. Its the 2 types of gentlemen and 2 types of lady to eachother. Principe of you two look to eachother and see the lady and gentleman together holding hands and see them smile, that is the start of intimacy. But in bed she will be the most slutty person her husband will see and the man will be dominant, rough but so passionate. The best part of this sex... nobody knows but you two alone

[boggboss]

As long as he came and kept coming back I think you looking at okey like it means it was bad

[bobalife]

Lol but isn’t “okay” more in a unsatisfying response? Well that’s what I thought too... because we had sex on and off repeatedly the whole night til morning. But he said this to me lol. 🙄

[boggboss]

On okey is just that not amazing but not a hit what did u expect hun for him to sing your praises lol

[boggboss]

Not shit*

[bobalife]

Lol damn. Well I never had a guy say that to me before, but I also don’t know how someone can have sex that long with someone and didn’t think it was that great... Kinda hurt my ego I admit esp when I thought it was one of the best for me.

[boggboss]

This is the thing though you shouldn't rely on his validation towards how good you was as it was clearly good enough for him to keep going so be happy in that itself plus u say it was great for you so that's enough

[Dargil]

My "standard" is not overly high.
If she is cheerful, eager, uninhibited and makes me cum in some manner, it's good sex.

[bobalife]

Interesting. Thank you for being honest :)

[curioussheikh]

Why are you so worried about this?

[bobalife]

Not “so worried” it is just a curiosity and information is at the above.

[curioussheikh]

Well, try something new with him next time and maybe he will really compliment you 🤷

[bobalife]

I mean that was last year... 🙄 LOL. It’s not like he never complimented me during sex... but he initially said it was “okay” and we did a lot of kinky things yet that was his initial response. 😐 it’s okay I’m not into the hook up life anymore. I just did it for a phase bc of my break up.

[curioussheikh]

Hooking up isn't a lifestyle, it's just something you enjoy and I hope you are not letting other people's judgement affect how you live your life. I would just shrug it off as a bad day, maybe he had something worrying on his mind and didn't think it through before saying the sex was just okay

[bobalife]

Oh no I didn’t mean like literally Lol. Thank you for saying that I appreciate it. I actually was doing it at the time to just forget my ex and move on faster while enjoying it. But I stopped because I just wanted to just focus on me and my passion. I didn't want anymore distractions that’s all. (: Well now you mentioned it... haha I don't know there could potentially be something... he would on and off asked me how was it with the guy I hooked up with the night before 😅 so I wouldn’t know if that would come to play. I didn’t think it mattered that he knew and he told me he doesn’t get jealous, but I realized after that it did seemed to have affected him bc he would bring it up and his reactions.

[curioussheikh]

Well, did it work well and help you really move on from your ex? Oh, that's interesting! Maybe he really just said "okay" because he was jealous, his ego was hurt 😂, what did you say how the sex was with the guy before him?

[bobalife]

At first, not so much... but eventually it did helped a lot with moving on and trying not to think of my ex. Then when I was almost over him... my ex kinda came back in my life to try things again. I ended falling back... but yet I ended it again anyways. So now I’m trying to move on again, but in a healthier way. LOOOL well... I can’t recall the details... it all began when he asked me why I didn’t text him the night before and if it’s bc I slept with someone else. He told me he’s opened and don’t get jealous, so I thought everything was cool. But he will continuously asked if the other guy did this and that to me just as what he did. He will asked if it was good. I told him the sex wasn’t that great, but the little things he asked me I told him it was pretty good though 😂😅 his reaction was like “what? Really?” Like he was shocked or something but it was really dark and I was just confused why he was reacting that way at the time. I’m sure I hurted his ego tons of times w/o meaning to 😅 but that’s when I asked him how was the sex with me bc he kept asking me about that other guy. So when he said “okay” at first... I was pretty shocked and a little upset because of the long rough sex we just had. And then he changed his answer when I asked why. So I don't know what’s the truth 🤷🏻‍♀️ Cuz the first time we had sex, he offered we can do it some other time if I hit him up lol. But yeah... ugh he’s confusing af lol. 😒🙄😅

[curioussheikh]

Seems like your ex is really regretting breaking up with you :D I think he really enjoys having sex with you but just wants to come off as if he is better at sex than all the other guy's before him :D. However, there could be more to this, like him getting a bit attached and that's why he is worried how you see him

[bobalife]

Actually I broke up with my ex 🙊 And I knew he would regret messing up our relationship the moment I ended it. He’s still regretting it. He was trying to make it up, but I think somethings that are broken are unable to be pieced back up together. We are still friends though. I care and respect enough to still hope he will be happy. Aws, you really think so? 🥺😐 he was super confusing. Tbh he sent me so many missignals during our hook up... cuz initially he even told me he was looking for a relationship > hook up in general while I was just looking for a hook up and I dumbfounding told him about doing it to get over my ex. I wouldn’t tell him why we ended it & I don't know why he seemed so strong on wanting to know why. But I also knew he also broked up with his ex like monthssss before we hooked up too. Anyways we got to know ea other a lot better afterwards where I think I slowlyyy started liking him but didn’t feel like he’s what I’m looking for in a s/o though. He even walked me to my car, kinda hold me and lightly put his lips on my forehead.. like resting but not an actual kiss. I was so confuse. Days after I texted him I think I started liking him but he suddenly told me he’s not the serious type and he mentioned my ex all of a sudden sayin it’s cool I’m still tryna get over him... and that was it... so I don't know one min it seem like just a hook up one night stand, then he seemed jealous and abit attach, but then kept his distance... so I don't know if he ever was interested.. it seemed like he did except his text response didn’t seem so much but I will never get it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[curioussheikh]

That is very caring of you to still worry about your ex-boyfriend like that, you don't have to do it! I think he was scared of being rejected and that's why he was acting so detached at times, but the fact that he did little things that only someone who would care about you would do says a lot about how he sees you. If he is someone you really couldn't see yourself dating, then telling him that would've done him some good!

[bobalife]

I know I don’t have to, but I do care for my ex as a person and friend. I know he messed up our relationship, but I would still hope he can be happy by himself or with the next girl. And I hope he can learn from our relationship to treat the next girl a lot better. I’m sure he can because after I broke up with him, it seemed like he finally grew up from it. But it was just too late to make things work anymore... and I’ve changed. Sighs maybe you’re right. I don’t know... but I knew I messed up big time by telling him about the other guy I hooked up with and about my ex. I tried to tell him on text I actually wanna get to know him for him and not bc I’m trying to move on. He never replied. I’m sure he didn’t believe me... and I don’t blame him bc if I was him, I wouldn’t go for me either 😐🙄😭😂😅 it’s just hard to go for someone who isn’t completely over their ex and even told them. It just kinda sucks that I ONLY realized I really love his company, not just from sex, but when we are just talking cuz he made me laughed a lot and he had such a fun, adorable personality. It’s just something I had to learn the hard way from hooking up 😅 He eventually removed me from social media months after. I guess he was no longer into hooking up with me or anything from it. maybe he was tryna move on... or has moved on. He def was my best hook up outside of relationships though.

[curioussheikh]

Well, I guess something good came out of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend, even if that was only really good for him Don't worry about it though, more enjoyable people can come your way too, it's not like life is about end, right. However, it was cold of him to remove your from all of his social media. On him no longer wanting to hooking up with you, I doubt that, it was probably just him scared of getting so attached that he might not be able to pull himself back, happens!

[bobalife]

I think all relationships are learning experiences and it is up to us to use what kind of knowledge we have gained from it whether it might have been bad or good. LOL nuuu the world wouldn't end just over this hahaha. I guess it was just one of those things where you just didn't expect someone to be what you thought, and then you ended up crushing on them. I think if anything I'd like to go on a date with him to see where it could have gone because he was really fun and I liked being with him. But I really didn't think he was the kind of guy I would normally go for romantically. Haha yeah, I decided to go on dates after what happened since it kind of opened my mind to start dating again. But right now, I just wanna focus on me and my goals. If someone amazing come along and I am ready, I will take a shot at it. Well I hope you're right because then I will feel a little better about it haha. But I still have my doubts because of how things ended...

[curioussheikh]

My last relationship taught me a lot, basically that relationships all over are not for me 😅. How do you think your relationship with your ex has changed your personality? Going on a few dates with him would've really been good for the both of you, even if it wouldn't have worked afterwards, you both would've probably learned what was the reason it wouldn't work and grow as a person because of that, right! Well, I hope the experience isn't slowly making you go into a shell, because there are definitely lots of guys out there that might be just the right fit for you, who know! What was different about him though? I mean why wasn't he your usual type?

[bobalife]

LOL oh man, I just realized all of this is getting too personal with the public knowing. I am going to message you instead for a response! haha.

[curioussheikh]

I wonder those who are reading our conversation think about all this, haha!

[zant_eli]

It depends too much on what gives you pleasure. It's very personal

[Browneye57]

It means he likes it and gets off. You?
Don't make it too complicated honey. Just be happy and thankful.

[Thatsamazing]

Whether she's hot or not is the main thing. After that, enthusiasm, no faking her emotions or actions, no dirty talk, and basically doing whatever he wants.

[ksaid01]

Daym, he really got to your head

[outside_Toronto]

good is a subjective term

[bklynbadboy1]

How tight you are how wet you get how you move and how eager you are to please

[Snickermarstwix]

If I like the girl, I'll put more work into it so I'll say if she wants to pleasure me as much as I want to pleasure her it's good sex.
Her ass is a matter too... How good a kisser she is, if she's kinky.

[Katools]

I rate the sex based on the intensity of m own orgasm. If I have an intense ejaculation, I would consider the sex great. In short, when I cum buckets the sex was obviously great.

[rockrewls]

If she is actively involved and not laying there like board, if she gives good head, is sexually aggressive, if she is enjoying it which would be evident through pleasurable (not fake) sounds, faking any part of the act would be a huge turn off, if she cums a lot (hopefully she does), if her pussy is clean when he eats her out.
Visual attractiveness would play a role.
Is she an aggressive dirty talk woman.
There are a lot of factors to good sex.

[BeReal20]

Not sure never had any lol

[Anonymous]

If a girl puts effort in and makes me cum I'm more than happy 😌