How does a guy feel about you if they tell you they don’t want to have sex with you because they care about your feelings?

[Anonymous]

I have hung out with a guy at his house and he made it clear he was against the idea of having sex with me because he felt differently towards me - like he didn’t care much that much about the girls he hooked up with previously whether they got home or not. I think he was able to tell I wasn’t sexually actively for a while. But clarified that the way we would have met was not natural and so a relationship was probably not possible. We haven’t really talked since, I think he has been hooking with other girls. Or he has plans to return to his ex? I’m not sure. He said he’s having conflicting thoughts about the situation. I have been trying to move on but still kind of curious to where his head is at.

[Reece12345]

So I have a question. Is a serious relationship / love important to you? Because you won't find it with this guy.

I'm not even talking about sex right now. How much time does this guy actually spend with you?

If a guy is interested in a serious relationship with you, he'll take the time to get to know you and find out more about you, and like you for who you are.

If he doesn't spend time with you then there's no way he could know you and have any true feelings for you. If a guy likes you for true unique things that make you special, he'll want to be with you all the time because there's nowhere else in the world he'll be as happy as he is with you.

All this talk about feelings for you is just a lie. He doesn't spend time with you, so how could he really know you? And if he doesn't know you, how could he have any real feelings for you?

This guy is a waste of your time. Move on and find a guy who is willing to spend time with you so he can really know you, and give you the relationship you deserve.

[Guy13]

It sounds like to me that he thought you may be to much emotional trouble to deal with after sex. Possibly, he wants you to have a higher moral view than he deserves. there's another thing too... if we're not sleeping with you we are free chemical agents that may combust within another at any time.- So, the thing about no sex and liking you is a way to interact with you without obligation of "being good".

Given, he is getting laid elsewhere, I am inclined to believe that the sex was not worth the attachment and emotional complications that may emanate from you. Hope that's somewhat helpful.

[Anonymous]

Do you think it was a subtle way to friendzone you because he thought you would get too clingy if you had sex.

[Asker]

Hmm but I wasn’t desperate for sex either. I never had sex on the first few dates anyway so I knew I didn’t give off such a vibe. But I think he thought I wasn’t really the hookup type

[Asker]

He just kept saying he never met someone as pure as me - and I guess didn’t want to hurt my feelings because he had done it to someone before

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it sounds like he likes you but knows you aren’t his type sexually.

[Asker]

As in he wants to bang and leave? And doesn’t think that sits well with me? I guess that makes sense. Because he said he wanted to but feels too much affection at the same time

[Opinion Owner]

Guys that are players don’t have much Interest in purity in bed. Of course this is a value men looking for something serious might have.

[Asker]

So you think not being pure it is a positive or a negative thing? I heard some people get into relationships that way but rarely I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s definitely a positive thing to some but more sexually motivated people want a freak.

[Asker]

I see. Well not a big loss then. It sounded like I wasn’t gonna get anything out of it

[Opinion Owner]

Not saying you can’t love a freak or have good sex with a more pure person but you try to look for someone equally on your level sexually for the best relationship chances.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I’m sure he likes and respects you just feels you aren’t compatible.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. Just curious though do u think people can go from sex to relationships? Like the opposite of what usually happens.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes definitely.

[Agape93]

That makes no sense to me

[Asker]

LOL I don't know

[Twalli]

If sex is just to cum for him, he actually cares enough about you that he doesn't want to see you in the same way he does other girls he fucks, because they're not really that important to him and you are.

[Asker]

I hope so? I don’t think he talks to them that much after it is done. And I guess thats not the way he used to get gfs before

[In_Trance]

Line of shit.
Make no mistake; he'll rail you given the chance

[Asker]

Well we had no no contact since so I don’t see it happening

[In_Trance]

Tell him you want to and see what he says

[Asker]

I wouldn’t. Just would seem like I’m dying to be with him or something. And then I’m going to be one looking dumb at the end