How does watching pornography affect romantic relationships?

How does watching pornography affect romantic relationships?
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  • I think in some instances it can be really unhealthy.
    In others it can add a little inspiration and spice.
    I don't like to watch porn but if the moans are sounding pleasurable and not painful they can be a real turn on.
    I think the content we see a lot is top hardcore. And they're saying that it is getting into the hands of younger boys and girls. Which is warping their perception of consent and "love making".

    I personally don't like a lot of the material found on the "hub" and highly agree that it can lead to a more extreme preference.

    But that's just me.
    I think anyone spending days and months isolated, not really interacting with others watching porn can develop a really warped perception of what's acceptable.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Good and interesting question I'd say, and difficult to answer. Everything depends on the trust partners have about each other. Porn can spice up their sex life in making them having more fun with each other. Now, if one of the partners doesn't like porn, there's a big problem because the other will anyway watch porn, but then secretly, which leads to lying and distrust, and that's the worst situation ever in a relationship. Concerning single persons watching porn, a good female friend (no sex partner I mean) told me that if singles find satisfaction through porn, it often means they aren't able anymore to have feelings for another person. I'm not sure if this is true, but this opinion is still worth meditating about. By the way, I'm widower since a few years, and although watching porn since a long time (mostly masturbating ladies), I'm still looking for a woman (friends with benefits one would call it) to share all good moments of life, including porn and sex of course...

  • If both partners are into it and watch together it can inspire them to try new things or simply be a way to get turned on. If just one partner enjoys it can lead to them becoming addicted or a replacement for sex with the other partner. It can also lead to unreal expectations or feelings of inadequacy.

    • Thank you for the MHO. 😊

Most Helpful Girl

  • Its a good question. In my experiences, its been an tool. No different than a lingerie set or a spreader bar. Something you use to enhance the experience. I think where people get into trouble, as a couple, is when the porn becomes the point, to one of the parties, or both.

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  • It's cited in divorce proceedings as being a significant factor in divorce.

    • I'm a family law attorney. Usually when a marriage is on the rocks then sex is an early indicator (or actually, lack of sex). Denied sex, many husbands turn to masturbation and since men are visually stimulated use porn for "inspiration". Its an effect of the breakdown of the relationship, not usually the cause. Inevitably the woman cites it in divorces, most often to get sole custody of the kids or to deny him visitation because he is a "pervert". Judges and lawyers roll their eyes at these allegations because its so commonly used.

    • @dmgstarfleet Thank you for writing this. I suspected something like this but did not know. It certainly makes sense.

  • When he would rather watch porn and jerk off to that than have sex, is when it is bad. Usually though I've found it entertaining for idea's of new things to try.

  • In most cases it doesn't effect it all, probably creates issues in extreme cases.

  • I too think it enhances the love life..

    never seen love life getting less due to it!!!

  • if we watch together, it makes love making more intense.

    if like in the past, i caught him looking at porn and hiding it, it made me mad, filled me with resentment, and doubt.

  • For some relationships watching porn can help, for some relationships watching porn can hurt.

  • It depends on the kind of partner one might have. For me, enjoying pornography together with my SO turned out to be healthy & enjoyable.

  • It shouldn't. It's just entertainment -like movies or video games.

    Problem is, some people read into movies and video games far too much.

  • It can be if someone is doing it without their partner.

  • I personally think it enhances it.

  • unrealistic expectations of sex

  • I think there are some cases where it doesn’t have much effect, but I believe most often the effect is negative. For some men, it reduces their chances of having any romantic relationship at all by reducing their motivation to find a girlfriend and in some cases making them fail to perform sexually with real women. In many relationships, it is distressing to the woman.

  • Yes, if one or even two of the couple are addicted to porn it can ruin relationships and even ruin their sex life too

  • It may help try new things.

    Maybe you end up watching DP, one person expresses they may like it. Could open doors for another person in the relationship, casually, or fun play.

  • Depends on the relationship.

  • Yes for the worse.

  • It's highly toxic and destructive. There have been a great many psychological studies on this. Really fascinating stuff

  • If you can't differentiate p*rn from real life you are a moron..

  • Not at all.

  • Depends on how both the people like it

    If one likes and other doesn't usually a female more often than men definetly you are gonna hear complaints

    If both enjoy it , it's a time pass and watch and learn.

    Porn was always there , earlier it was in form of pictorial erotic novels now it is in visual High definition 🤣.

    But somehow reading raises temprrature more than the visual

    Everybody learns from somewhere so it's on how you use it how much you use it

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