How far will a man go for one night of passion?

[Anonymous]

How often do you lie and say you're single in order to have sex from another woman?

He lied for a year and half! Flirted, helped every time I asked, answering my calls and spent hours with me every week. Since he dropped everything and helped me move in Sept 2019 he was there for me.

He had broken up with his ex, baby mama, after a four year relationship. I had just come out of a relationship that lasted all year and was cheated and manipulated. Ghosted for the first time in my life.

He said the same day he broke up with her, finished, through with her! Mind made up forever! Then she found out she was pregnant. Same story. Consistent answers. She was never willing to compromise and felt she never did anything wrong. She's crazy. She's selfish. He didn't even enjoy sex with her anymore. She's a whore! But still in love with him. Jealous!

They were co-parenting. They weren't living together, then she moved in. I questioned it. He said they slept in separate bedrooms. Still, I kept my distance. I asked questions and he always gave the same responses that indicated it was strictly a living arrangement that allowed them both to be with their daughter. I met her a few times. There wasn't any indication they were together.

His interaction with his daughter was something that drew me to him. Being with her revealed his patient and caring side. I enjoyed spending time with both of them a few times a month. I’m telling you this so you understand that, it was a slow progression with clear intent and thought involved. We were there for each others. We'd been friends for five years. I felt his past experiences and relationships had hardened him up and caused him to be guarded, like me.

He started making advances and continued to let go of the Mr. Tough Guy and let his guard down. He was a giver, attentive, and passionate. He gave the best back rubs! Did my laundry. Exercised together. Discussed and confided everything with each other. Long hugs where I had to acknowledge being close to him felt soulfully right.

He picked on me and teased me. We irritated each other at times. Both competitive and attractive people, we both wanted to win. I wouldn't give in. He told me he’d rather argue with me than anybody. That made me smile. We had a lot of banter and quick wit easily keeping each other on their toes.

I decided to break my 17 month abstinence after we both revealed our feelings one night after he cooked me dinner. After conversations we both said we weren't into casual sex and wanted something more meaningful. Within the hour I made my decision to sleep with him, he calls, almost as if he knew. He was excited when he told me she moved out! He wanted to cook me dinner. We met up when later when I arrived back in town. He was extra sweet. He always sat right next to me and showed interests. He asked me out, over to watch a movie, and continued to touch me more. Leaning his leg against mine. Staring at me. Long hugs. He had started giving me short back rubs that excited us both. It felt great! The magnetic energy flowed highly between us. Still I always had an instinct to pause. So, following that pattern I stood up and stopped any progression.

"What's that look mean?" He asked. “What look?” I said.

“That look you given me before, like you're attracted to me. I think I know that’s what it means, but then you pull away. I can’t figure you out.”

This is typically when I would reject him, not say anything, and he would leave after a while.

But, as you know, I had made up my mind, so I walked back, sat down and said “You're right! It is a look of attraction.”

"I like you, too!"

After discussion and revealing all my instincts we're right. He was shy and nervous around me. He admitted trying to kiss me and backing off giving a stupid explanation!

Still neither of us made a move.

Let’s play one game! I broke out the poker chips right under the coffee table.

He said what are we betting?

If I win, I get anything I want.

He said if I win I get anything I want!

One hand of Texas Holdem. He had three eights. I had two kings and two fives. He won. His excitement immediately evident. He did a victory dance like a receiver in the end zone catching an astonishing pass! He couldn't stop smiling. Then he asked for a blowjob?

A blowjob! Really! Why not sex I said?

He said he hoped it would be sex! Said he'd asked women for this multiple times before and they gave him a blowjob! Because of this he figured his chances of me saying yes were more likely than if he asked for sex.

I was gonna ask for an hour back massage.

Still frozen. Silent. Then I explained I thought it was disrespectful. Grounds for ending our friendship.

No disrespect intended. I know you're not easy. I want to reciprocate. I was just being honest. It's what I want. I won the game. I think you'd be good at it. He said I always win! I didn't think so. He was used to my rejections though, and asked if I wanted to go to the casino.

"A bet’s, a bet. Gotta own up to it." After all, if it didn't go well, could always say it was a one time deal, a bet. Continue on the friendship if that's what I wanted.

We ended up in the bedroom enjoyed exploring each other. He reciprocated equally and I climaxed! It was great. After four or five hours of sex we agreed to have sex daily. Let the other know if there was an interest in sleeping with someone else. Safe sex practice.

I was excited for the much needed physical release. The cuddling was nice. Just touching each other was thoroughly satisfying. He left happy. We saw each other the next day. Hugging, picking up were we left off.

Then it was over. He turned it off just like that. Said you thought we were gonna have a relationship. I said I thought we were gonna honor our "sex agreement"! I told him to fuck off. We'll go our separate ways. Don't ever contact me again!

He never revealed any of the truths I found out from our mutual friend, his closest friend. Turns out he and his so-called "ex", mother of his only daughter, had been together almost five years now and we're expecting a boy in May!

She found out about us and contacted me after a week. Only answering her questions without any mean intentions. Apologizing. She believed I never would have been the woman involved in this conversation, if I'd known the truth. I didn't have anymore thoughts that they could make it work and have a chance to be a family. She said he lost any chance he had to have a family.

Mind blown!

Did he really just lie to me for a year and a half for one night of sex?