How has your libido changed as you have gotten older?

[OlderAndWiser]

Bonus points for anyone who has a plausible explanation for this photo!

When I was a yong man, I wanted sex every day of the week, but that rarely happened unless I was living with a girlfriend and, even then, it didn't happen THAT often. By the time I was in my late 20's and married, having sex two or three times per week was sufficient to keep me happy and satisfied. Now that I am 67, I still want to have sex two or three times per week. It hasn't diminished at all over the past 40 years.

There are medical conditions which can affect libido or sexal performance, and the two most noteable of those conditions are diabetes and hypertension (high blood pressure.) And some medications will affect libido. The most common examples are medications used to treat anxiety, depression, and seizure disorders.

For women, menopause has a potentially big impact. If a woman has a history of breast caner in her family, hormone replacement therapy will greatly increase her risk of developing breast cancer, so it is not prescribed in such circumstances. And for many of those women, sex is something they remember fondly but do now only to please their partner.

If none of those afflictions are with you (I have been spared,) then your libido may still be quite strong at age 70 or even later. So, anyway, if you hear strange bumps and thuds coming from your grandparents' bedroom later tonight, it doesn't necessarily mean that one of them has fallen out of bed!

[Exterminatore]

14 years old - about 27-30 years old. I wanted it everyday, and almost always twice a day most days. Horny ALL the time. Sex or masturbation at this age was of paramount importance and center stage in my life. Would clear my schedule to get laid if need be. Significant amounts of time each week were spent either masturbating or having sex or dating or looking for new potential partners. Was almost always single at this time. Had a bull pen of girls from around 20 - 35 who were fine with casual periodic sex. “F*ck buddies” as it’s colloquially called. Had many because the need was great as was the desire for new partners. So many girls, so little time was the general thought pattern summing up this period. One night stands occurred with frequent regularity as well.



30- until about 42 slowed down a little. Still wanted it every other day and 3x a week at a bear minimum. Not too much changed. The need and desire toned down slightly but not significantly. Still intentionally single much of the time in this age bracket as to intentionally not limit my options.


42-now 2 to 3 times a week is sufficient. Almost always I don’t desire or need more than that. During stressful weeks even just once that week is all I require or desire. Noticeable difference. I’m very thankful for the change. Being horny all the time sucks, even with plenty of willing partners to satiate the desire. It becomes a burden to constantly have to meet the need. Noticed that periodically my brain and body are not coordinated on this. I figure the need and desire for sex was so great for so long that I find when I see a hottie or a nice set of tits coming my way or a gorgeous ass walking away from me at first my immediate impulse is: “I gotta sample that” and roughly a second later I realize I’m not even horny. When I was younger just seeing Nice tits and asses in public was enough to get me fired up. Now it’s mostly like: “been there done that” type of mentality. Married now. Would never even consider cheating anyway. Content with one woman. Sex is not a priority or near the top of my priority list.


Damn older and wiser look at you go! Still laying it down in your 60’s! I salute you sir!

[Massageman]

Libido is strong. Blood pooling ability needs some work - maybe more practice.

[Massageman]

Your grandpa and his wife/girlfriend must be in the midst of being abducted by aliens from the planet Lustulon with the intent of bringing more breeding stock in order to help crossbreed their planet to prevent another cataclysmic population drop due to over-inbreeding.

[OlderAndWiser]

My paternal grandfather was bor 1895, died 1967. Maternal grandfather was born 1911, died 1974. Now I'm "grandpa" (but only to the young men who I mentor, as I never had any children.)

[Massageman]

[. This was a reply for explanation of the picture. :- ) ]

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, I get it now. But the caption does say "Bonus points for anyone who has a PLAUSIBLE explanation for this photo!" :) :) :)

[Massageman]

(as George Gobel would say ) "- - - -picky, picky, picky. - - - - " :- ). - loved that guy's humor. Of course, you need a three- minute attention span to get to the punch line- not so likely now!

[TrueConfection]

I voted C. I haven't started menopause yet and my libido is out of control. It was great, having kids took a lot of my daily energy and made me exhausted, so I slowed down. Now they are pretty independent and my husband is having difficulty keeping up. 😂😂😂

[TrueConfection]

Oh, and I don't take anything other than a B complex and vitamin C.

[Massageman]

poor guy. ;- )

[TrueConfection]

Thank you for the MHO ❤

[TransAm85]

After I got my tubes tied in '19, I stopped the birth control, and also started CBD oil. Everything changed. I nvr had a problem with my libido, but now it's just 100x better. My 44 yr old husband is the problem. He'd rather make love to his Miller Lite lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Too bad he won't take care of his marital responsibilities!

[rebeliouse]

@transam85 do u have a friends with benefits to step in then?

[HighlyVolatile]

It's a strange mix because I don't have the strongest primal libido anymore. Physiologically I don't think I can match my teenage years able to climax 14 times in one day until I was in pain down there and there was nothing left to come out.

But I have built more of an idea of beauty and poetry to sex which somewhat compensates for the diminishing primal urge with aging. I want sex more on an abstract level these days and less on a primal level while I wanted it more the other way around in my youth while clueless to the deeper meaning of it back then.

I still have a relatively strong one, I think, along with a youthful look to me that makes people confuse me for 20s when I'm actually 40s. I still get morning wood almost every morning even if I had sex the night before. It's just not crazy like in my teens or 20s.

[HighlyVolatile]

I also have a mild case of Priapism. It wasn't uncommon in my teens to have an erection that lasted for hours until it was so painful, and even after climax (wouldn't get soft after). That's become less as I grow older. I become softer sooner after climaxing, say 10 minutes after or so.

[Exterminatore]

Damn! 14x in 1 day! My record was 9. I thought I was insanely off the charts at that level. Now I feel like maybe this is more common.

[HighlyVolatile]

@Exterminatore To be fair, that was masturbation and also in response to the first few times that I ever saw not only a porno but a woman's naked body in clinical detail. :-D I'm not sure it was so much an aspect of a physiological libido as just going crazy with psychological excitement.

[Exterminatore]

Understandable. I remember the first time I had an orgasm. I was masturbating and I came so hard and was so blown away with how good it felt that it got me ramped up and I did it 6 more times that day. For years that was my record until about 5 years ago. I seriously don’t know what got into me that day. All I know is I couldn’t get enough.

[HighlyVolatile]

@Exterminatore These days I think I'm limited to 2 times per day comfortably, and also fine even going one or two days without it. At least the basic physical side isn't what it used to be. I might be able to push it and go for 3 to 4 on a great day but I'd have to be so smitten. I occasionally have that with my wife on vacations. I find the vacation sort of resurrects the honeymoon phase; it's not completely dead but just comes and goes. I also came to see sex in a more ritualistic way as I grew older. I like to draw out the foreplay and I think I'm more into romantic types of sex (although my fave position is doggy, there's a romantic mindset even then) so it's no longer like I'm aiming to climax as often as possible like when I was young. I love the "poetry" of sex more now as cheesy as that hands. If it's just a release, I have a hand and some lube. :-D

[HighlyVolatile]

* [...] as cheesy as that [sounds] [...]

[Exterminatore]

I totally get where you’re coming from. I have come to appreciate those aspects a little bit, but when I was younger didn’t appreciate those aspects at all. I’m content with having an orgasm maybe twice a week. As I’ve gotten older I’ve also started to experiment with new things. When I was younger I would never in a million years have considered it but In the last year or so I’ve experimented with prostate play. I’m 100 percent straight. I don’t do pegging or anything like that either. I am able to have an orgasm without any touching of the penis. What I’ve found is that I cum so hard and with so much fluid or that I have a dry orgasm that is insanely intense and feels completely different from a normal orgasm so much so that I don’t need more than that. Sex/masturbation doesn’t even enter my mind for days because I’m so completely content and satisfied that’s all I desire. When I do have sex, I also find my orgasms are much stronger than normal. I think that’s a result of the prostate play. I’d recommend trying it. For years something like that was a big no no for me. Now I regret not trying that earlier in life.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Not that old but I'm definitely more into now than I was 5 years ago, I wonder if it will keep going up.

[SweetFyter]

Mine went from zero to whatever it is now. I couldn't answer your question because, yes, I'm young, but HAVE seen changes - definitely!

[swettannie]

well, that's normal ahah, that's puberty

[MTC29]

For me at age 61, three or four times a week would be ample. For my SO, who is age 54, that's not nearly enough. She's going through menopause, so her hormones are raging.

[Gigi2019]

Crepey skin, liver spots, fat rolls, and wrinkled dicks. Can't wait to get oooold to continue knocking the big Os out... not.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, every single one of us is like that. . . to people who are prejudiced against older people.

[Gigi2019]

Not dragging old people to "just" to be a a troll. By age fifty, most people are museums of sexually transmitted diseases. The idea of having sex into the 70s and beyond is highly complicated.

[OlderAndWiser]

"By age fifty, most people are museums of sexually transmitted diseases." Where do you get THAT idea? Again, it seems like a very prejudiced idea. As for me, I have never had an STD but I get tested before I begin a relationship with a new partner. "The idea of having sex into the 70s and beyond is highly complicated." What is so complicated about it? If you still want sex and your partner is willing, you do it and you enjoy it. And many people are having sex in their seventies and eighties.

[Gigi2019]

Do you... I was discussing my opinion on this issue... not how people should conduct themselves. And, I was referring to the majority of old people. If you and your partner are in pristine condition by age 70, 80, 90,100, 200, etc, kudos to you. You beat Father Time and the odds. If you are being intellectually honest, however, you are aware that "most" people these days have (or will have) health challenges due to their youthful promiscuity.

[Gigi2019]

FYI: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2426743/

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I was kind of expecting some sort of a drop but it’s about the same along with my stamina. Perhaps in another ten I’ll notice it but I doubt it

[DonkeyDan]

Well I'm 45 and yes ny libido is a bit lower than it was in my 20s although it was exceptionally high back then, I'll still happily have sex 5-7 times a week when available.

[sissyalexa]

Definitely getting more sexually active with age!

[Avicenna]

It seems about the same now as when I was younger.

[AviatorTom]

My libido is just as strong as when I was younger, don't have the energy I once had, so sex is less frequent... still very nice.

[mstbooblover]

Basically my libido is about the same. Nevertheless there are some important changes. Orgasms are sometimes much more intense than when I was young, but on the other hand erections become less predictable...

[Mac-One]

My wife lost her desire for sex when it became painful for her as her vagina became dry due to menopause. I was rather difficult for me to adjust to the change.

[OlderAndWiser]

And artificial lubrication did not help?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm age 50 or older and my libido is not as strong now as when I was younger. Sometimes my libido goes higher or lower, I have low T so that answers many
things I take hormone replacement therapy but not guarantee for it to go level up

[exitseven]

i am 50and I can feel myself slowing down. I used to be able to have sex for a whole weekend but not anymore.

[douride2]

Mine hasn't changed much in the last 25 -30 years.

[Chattyguy44]

I have to say that I am having trouble keeping it up, I have a stay hard cream and pills for erectile dysfunction but if I have that I'm like superman.

[AndrésC64]

It looks like that weird couple, Irene and her partner, from the movie Mulholland Drive. I think they're watching the movie Betty / Diane was making.

[DiegoO]

Not as strong, specially with all the stress in my life. I honestly think I have it 10 times more complicated. Can't say to myself:"I'll move out, find a girlfriend, have kids; a family by my own". That would be "the normal" from what is expected, but my life "is not the normal". It means I have more chances to be successful in other areas, just not in the sexual sphere and romantic relationships.

[OlderAndWiser]

"It means I have more chances to be successful in other areas, just not in the sexual sphere and romantic relationships." Because of where you live?

[DiegoO]

No, because priorities I should have achieved long ago, haven't materialize. Things like having a job, savings, my own place (an apartment, a house). My financial future has been compromised by my own "father". He committed financial violence and patrimonial violence, against my mother, brothers and I. He wanted to leave us on the street. Now my mom divorced him, recently; and he should be looking where to live (no one wants him around), but refuse to do so and acts like he's inocent of everything.

[DiegoO]

Unfortunately I need to priorize my financial future and health, over any other aspect of life.

[OlderAndWiser]

Understand.

[sp33d]

Haven't noticed much change. Still going strong.

[jahaims]

So far it hasn't