How important is it that your partner is good at sex?

Do you expect or require your partner to be great at sex?
How important is it that your partner is good at sex?
Very important. if they aren't good then it won't work
Vote A
Important but not that important that ill stop seeing someone over it
Vote B
Medium. i would like good sex, but its not important
Vote C
Not important- idgaf if they are good at sex or not
Vote D
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  • A mix between A and B.

    It's pretty important. And if the sex doesn't work, it goes into other aspects of the relationship.
    Sex isn't everything, but it's so important if it doesn't work.

    Also the better it is the more I want to have it. So if the guy wants sex regularly, and wants an enthusiastic partner, then it's in his best interest to do well - be compatible and so.

    Of course, I'm giving him a chance and I give pointers, etc.
    But sometimes you can also feel if there's sexual chemistry or not.

    I'm not saying I'm a sex God myself - cause I'm not. A lot of it is just about compatibility than anything else, and whether or not you actually care about your partner's pleasure. And to give it the time, effort, and energy it can require.

    • So would you leave if the sex wasn’t good? Assuming everything else about the relationship was perfect?

    • Haven't been in that situation so hard to say. At very least the sex frequency would decline drastically..

    • Youd try to tell him though right? Communication?

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  • wow, im not even having sex w/ anyone atm, but yeah, sure, while sex is important, if I met the perfect guy; cute, great sense of humor, slightly muscular, work ethic, devoted to me, but he wasn’t “great” at sex, so what, he’s just got it together in so many other ways, gurrl, you can always teach your man how to be better in the sack, you can’t teach him to be better looking!

Most Helpful Guys

  • no, I've never had these expectations for anyone to be great... they just happened to be, well actually... it's a matter of two, so the sex was great or absolutely great, because we're two and both into it

    it wasn't about them or me, in particular, what made it great... although, they happened to be great, that's also true

    I just don't even think of people being "bad at it" I don't see how people can be bad at it, lol, I guess this is something you see when you have more and more partners and casual partners? maybe when you've been with that many people and people you don't know that well, not all of them or that is going to be good or great, it's about chances, but I've been more exclusive and selective, and perhaps that's what it is

  • It's important that she makes an effort, communicates openly and honestly, and makes progress at improving. I'm fine if she knows nothing about sex at the beginning, as long as she makes progress towards improving. And I'm happy to teach, and I'm a patient teacher with reasonable and realistic expectations.

    What would be a deal-breaker is if she made no effort, or had no enthusiasm for sex or for improving.

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  • Not important much at all if we're talking about skill since that can be improved on. It is important to me that we are compatible in terms of our interests and communicate in and out of the bedroom, and that's usually what makes sex great for me much more than skill is compatibility.

    • * [...] important to me that we are compatible in terms of our interests and [the way we] communicate in and out of the bedroom [...]

  • Sex is a very important form of intimacy for me. If they can’t satisfy my needs, then it’s not going to work long term, unless it’s an open/poly relationship.

    • Nothing wrong with being bad at sex in the beginning - but if no improvements are made after months, even with me guiding them and telling them what I like, then yeah… I break it off.

    • well at least you found someone...

    • That I did ☺️

  • I would say medium. There are other things in a relationship that are much more important to me than sex.

  • It’s important but never left anyone because they weren’t my favorite in bed... sometimes it takes time to get to know each other in the sack.

  • That was one reason I married my husband!

  • It's not a deal breaker if they're not an expert or something, as long as they are open minded, and prepared to learn I am prepared to teach them.

  • Kind of important but I’m not experienced. If I see a guy who has some experience then he can teach me.

  • Very important

  • Just like any other skill, it is something that can be improved upon. There seems to be an obsession with virgins, who at best may have studied or talked about potentially incorrect information, but by definition have no hands on experience. Given a choice I’d rather help someone learn body positive good ways of making love that is enjoyable to both partners than have to break down bad experience barriers and hang ups. Good sex is also the most subjective experience on earth.

  • Doesn't even cross my mind

  • if they aren't good, having a willingness to learn is just fine.

  • I have no sex life at the time LMFAO

  • We need to be compatible, and a good sex drive is important. My OH dosent seem to want much these days since the kids. It does cause a strain

    • What is "OH"?

    • Other half...

    • Ah, thanks!

  • If I'm having sex with someone I'm already really invested in them, so I really don't care much at all. Of course I would like good sex, only someone asexual wouldn't want that, but sex can be improved on, so it's really not important.

  • Very important. Dealbreaker important. I don’t expect him to be sexually compatible with me straight away but at least be attentive and take the time and practice.

    • mmm you got it babe ;) jk

  • Not important- idgaf if they are good at sex or not.

  • I've experience the far opposite of having a partner confident in sexual matters (it was horrible). Therefore, option A.

  • For me it is so important that my partner should be good at sex so we can enjoy our sex life. and if we good at sex for eachother then we can understand eachother in every situation of life.

  • i prefer they're good at it, but it's not a dealbreaker if they aren't

  • A whole planet waiting to be conquered and dominated

    • Seriously though, I don’t think it’s too important. It would be nice but it’s not essential

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