How is it possible for a man to only be with 1 woman his whole life?

Well I knew my aunty (aunt by marriage) was the virgin and my uncle is her one an only love. Both of them are in their early 50's by now.

However, just days ago I accidentally overheard my uncle briefly talking to a family mutual friend. He was a virgin too (she liked that in him too) and has never been with any other woman in his whole life. He feels their love is very unique.

Needless to say, wow. I understand about the virgin girl only being with her husband but he was also a virgin himself. Men by nature have higher sex drive and would likely want to experience maybe 2-3 more relationships during their lifetime. How is it possible for a man to remain with 1 woman during his whole life, all the way to his 50's+?

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  • When you are a man of discipline, faith, loyalty, self control, and not driven by lust, to do something like that would be easy. This society has been so busy over sexulising everything, programming and brainwashing everyone into lust, sin and fear of missing out, that many have forgotten contentment and the joy that comes from having a simple life. I do not date and have no plans of getting into a relationship in this culture, but I have absolutely zero doubt that I could very easily be with just one woman for the rest of my life if I chose and with 100% loyalty on all levels, even under the influence of alcohol (I don't really drink anymore though).

    • Indeed. It's sad what modern dating has become. Nowadays, more people of both genders think they need to experience worthless lustful moment with strangers to feel great. It's sad.

  • My wife and I have done that so far. We've been together over 20 years at this point, and we were both virgins when we met. We are very compatible in and out of the bedroom. It doesn't mean I find other women unattractive. I just have no desire to be intimate with anyone else. I probably have a higher sex drive than she does, but I'm satisfied with our sex life. In the words of Roger Staubach, "I enjoy sex as much as anyone, only I do it with one girl."

    • That's so sweet. Sadly, that's very rare nowadays. You're both lucky to have each other all these years.

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  • You must be from a Muslim community where there is a double standard where a man can screw everything that walks and yet its Haram for a woman to do the same.

    My husband and I are exactly like your Aunty. We have only ever had eyes for each other. We have been married for 23 years and with each other for 30. My husband taught me how to drive. We grew up with each other. We have both been there for each other through the best and the worst of times. We also attribute our success by not having kids. That is the single most important decision we ever made. It is one that we have said over and over we did not conform to what society expects us to do. Another thing is we got married privately without any family present. There is a correlation between how much money you spend on a wedding and whether or not your marriage will last.

    • Nope, we're all from Florida. While there are still people with that double standard, men naturally (well generally) tend to have a higher sex drive than even a woman with a high sex drive. It takes a lot of commitment, self-discipline and self-control, which fewer men have. Thank you for sharing your story too; that's so sweet.

  • Yes we made it together as virgins and somehow waited to our special day!

    So possible

    • That's so sweet; true love indeed.

    • Thanks hoping you meet yours someday!

  • Because some men aren't trash and have self control. It's a total myth that men have higher sex drives. a lot of of them just lack self control and have poor judgement at choosing partners so they end up having multiple sex partners

  • I always remain 100% faithful and exclusive to the woman I'm serving, while she enjoys the freedom to date other guys whenever she wants.

  • yea but some men can control it 😐

    • So in his case fidelity and love can be powerful to overcome his sexual urges I guess?

    • oh yea for sure but this feature isn't active for people that dont have morals, if a man has morals they can actually lose sexual attraction to other women when they are deeply in love with one, i know from experience cause when i was in love with a woman i had women try to seduce me and i was like 😷 and then when i thought of the girl i was in love with i was like 😀

    • my point is that guys like this definitely exist.

  • I don't see anything wrong with that. Just means they were very compatible and respect each other.

  • It's called COMMITMENT, not easy to do, but with love and understanding, it can be done.

    • True nowadays, very few people have commitment.

  • Rare in the West but it can still happen in Catholic and more often in Muslim communities.

    • Yes as the years go by, it'll become even more rarer and one day it'll sadly extinct.

    • I doubt that, seriously.

  • I've been w over 200 women so it's not for me... But on the flip side I deal w issues of depression from sex addiction... So in the end maybe the one man one woman is happier.

  • he found a good women the first time and stay with her all his life.

    I wish I do not think I am ever going have sex agin.

    the women I was with was with a lot of guy I don't know how many.

    I not sure if I love here but I care about her a bit.

    • yes and she found a good man too. So it's a won for both of them.

    • Even though like him, she lost her youth too... he still refers to her as his beautiful gem.

    • ok cool good for them.

  • It happens, if both of those in the relationship get everything they need/are looking for from it.

  • I'm still a virgin and I'm "Hypersexual".

    Sex drive has nothing to do with promiscuity, poor risk assessment, or settling for less than what you want (which is the real reason body counts for sex stack up).

    I'm not having sex until I find the one I'm staying with for good, its not worth the risks involved, it could potentially ruin my entire life if I have sex with the wrong woman.

    • It's sad that men like my uncle and you are rare breeds. It requires lots of devotion, loyalty and self-control, which very few have nowadays in this hook-up culture.

    • It actually doesn't require anthing way of self control, it's mostly fear driven. The risk of stds, accidental children, and ending up alone, is simply too terrifying. . I view being offered hookups as her threatening me. So to say it requires "self control" to not do hookups, is a bit like saying it requires self control to not cut my dick off (as in why the hell would I ever even want to do that?) I also need an emotional bond to enjoy sex, and I hate the idea of sharing, and I'm picky, so I can't bond with just anyone, and if I'm horny, porn does the job just fine, so it's not like I'm deprived of orgasms or anything.

    • anything*

  • Only he would know and there some guys that sex is not as important as maybe a average guy would. He just must really love her and might just gain pleasure just being married to the love of his life.

  • It's possible but it isn't the norm both being virgins unless they both got married early typically late teens or early 20's.

    • yeah they met when they were 17 year-olds in HS and got married at age 21.

    • There you have it. Virgins are typically virgins til around that age as the average age to lose virginity is late teens.

  • yes it is

  • It's possible, she needs to be the person that completes him

    • True. It's so interesting how he still refers to her as his beautiful gem after all those years. Like him, she lost her youth too.

  • He is extremely loyal devoted and has incredible self control he must truly love that one person
    I would say he's a keeper

    • yeah, he's a rare breed.

  • he doesn’t know any better 🤣

    • It doesn't sound like he wants anything more. Base on the conversation I heard, he really loves her.

    • that’s good then

    • yet I'm sure it must have taken lots of self-control to not act on his sexual urges of wanting others. He must be a rare breed.

  • almost impossible!

  • Maybe sexuality is completely misunderstood now. Instead of increasing sexual intimacy by having more experience, maybe it just dilutes the experience with every relationship in the future.