Girls, How long could you date a guy with ED that won't seek help?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating my boyfriend since late December and we still haven't had sex. He has ED and hasn't gone to the doctor about it. Intimacy is important to me and it's really starting to put a strain on our relationship from my POV while he says he feels that everything is fine. I do love him. But I also don't want to stay in a relationship like this. It feels like I've been married for years to him.

[Rosexøxø]

I mean I got hands don’t I? 😂

Lol I’m sorry probs not the best timing to joke.

Seems like he’s in denial. Tell him his body plays a directly important role into satisfying your physical needs, and while emotionally, you both are bonded and you long to be with him, it’s not fair that he denies himself and you pleasure, when something can be done about this situation.

If things don’t budge just tell him your logic- not as a threat but if you don’t see each other being compatible and working together much- regardless of the area (s)!

Then you’d be COMPELLED to move on, which you wouldn’t want to do, and would find that difficult, and taken with hesitation, but if it’s what’s best, then it’s what’s best.

Telling him that gives him insight into your train of thought.

He has to remember it’s not all about him. This issue is for both of you as a couple and he has to be on your side and that is vice versa as well.

if you both can’t be on each other’s side, and work as a team, then?….

[Rosexøxø]

I hope this gets resolved because if the relationship is valued by both members, it would be such a shame it went to waste to something avoidable, and resolvable…

[Rosexøxø]

I would recommend being gentle and explanatory about your side and willing to hear his. Can be a real tough time for men in that area, and in this situation, tough for you both, and so both have to realize this and empathize while discussing the next step (s).

[Asker]

I really want it to. The last thing I want to do is break up over something that is easily manageable. I know it's not easy for men to deal with something like this. But no woman will stay with him if he doesn't

[Asker]

He is already aware it's an issue. But has yet to seek help for it. That is upsetting me even more.

[Rosexøxø]

Yes, that is tough. I think he knows a bit what the consequences are of leaving his organ dysfunctional. Surely he still finds sexuality interesting to just put in the towel now? He may solve it but if he feels his manlihood has been taken away somehow and he’s too embarrassed to talk to a doctor about it (especially if it were male or female- both seem tough), he may not solve this problem ever 👀. Best not to push him to internally collapse, but just show him your train of thoughts and asking him if he PLANS to do anything about it, seems good. Could mention also that if may think things are fine, but you don’t think things are too fine and they could be better but he doesn’t seems to want to grow and better the relationship. If he can’t do it for himself, the last thing he must consider is, if it it’s worth doing it for his companion. Crossing my fingers for you both and wishing it turns out alright 🤞🤧

[Rosexøxø]

You’re both troopers. ✨💯✨💯

[Asker]

He has a male doctor and is going to see him in the morning over BP issues which he's had for a long time now before his son was born, so the BP isn't the issue. I'm going to ask him to talk about it tomorrow. If not then I don't know.

[Anonymous]

"Help" is not covered by insurance and costs around $1,000 before you know whether there will be any results or not.

[Asker]

He has Medicaide

[PetiteMisSmooth546]

Is it ed or does he have a small on

[Nikki1989]

I will give him a month to get his problem fixed.

[Asker]

I agree because I'm feeling really disconnected from him right now. He says he doesn't feel it and his biggest fear is losing me. But I'm not going to stay and become more and more unhappy. He is 44 and 33. The age gap didn't bother me until now.