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How Long Do Guys Normally Last?

Every guy I've been with has lasted maybe 4-5 minutes tops. My current guy can last 15-20 and it kind of scares me. I have low self esteem and I automatically assume it's because he's not into it, even though he stays hard the whole time, but I don't want to suck at it and have him just not want to tell me. The only thing telling me otherwise was once when I told him I was getting tired and he asked if I wanted him to hurry up and finish (I told him no), which gave me the impression that he was just going at a slower pace so it would last longer or something. Is it normal to last as long as he does, or were the previous guys I was with more "normal" with how long they lasted?
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  • Every guy has his own "normal". For some guys, their "normal" is 30 seconds. For others, it is 30 minutes.

    Several studies have said that the average length of intercourse is about 7-7.5 minutes, but obviously, there are going to be people on each end of the bell curve who take significantly more or significantly less time.

    I've always been on the longer end of the scale - "normal" for me is 20-40 minutes, and it doesn't matter who I'm with. It sounds like your guy is pretty consistent, which means that's HIS "normal", and that won't have anything to do with you or you "being good" or not.

  • On average I last about 30 minutes bc I have stuff to do... If I'm doing the whole foreplay thing then it will be over an hour. The longest I lasted was over 2 hours (pure sex)- it would have continue but the female couldn't last (never got to cum that day), and the other time the condom broke after 2 hours of sex so I stopped when I realized I was hitting it raw (never got to bust that day either... hahaha). I can make myself last as long as I need to... it just depends on the female I'm hitting at the time.

    It seems like you want a minute man...

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  • My guy can last forever if he really wants to. I think it's a lot to do with self control and conditioning on his part.

  • Most guys don't last longer then 5 minutes after penetration.

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  • I feel that the longer he lasts doesn't translate to the one that's the most into you necessarily but it is certainly a good indication of his enjoyment and stamina, although not necessarily. If he remains fully erect and is able to "finish" more quickly to accomodate you, he likely has a big crush on you. The average is probably more in the earlier group at 4 to 5 minutes.

  • Wait a minute I don't get it 4 to 5 minute guys I would think that would totally suck 15 to 20 minute guys I would think that would totally suck but really what blows me away is that you seem like you're bored through the whole thing is that the case I need these guys should be making it all about you and a half an hour to 45 minutes you should still be wanting more so are you seeing these guys suck it what they do are you saying that you're bored or both

  • Oh boy, first of all you are way over thinking this aspect. Truth is there is no "normal" when it comes to stamina. Some guys have much better control than others (usually the ones who whack off frequently are better)

  • The one poll I've seen says 5<7 min is the avg. But it varies as much as how easily girls orgasm.

    Speed, positions and how tight she is/thick he is can affect how long a guy lasts.

    If he learned/taught himself to control it he could last hrs. I can cum and stay hard/keep going, cum again and keep going. I usually lose it/go soft, after the 3rd time when masturbating. I never had a girl last past 2.

  • Probably stronger pc muscles.

  • It varies, not only from guy to guy, but time to time as well. Never take this personally and assume it's you or he's not into it, I pretty much guarantee that's NOT it (and don't be afraid to ask him if you think this, just ask if he's enjoying it or does he want you to do anything differently? Communicate. It's how you get to know him and the sex becomes great). He's holding off by the sounds of it on purpose to last longer and to make sure you're happy. Some guys are better at this than others. It varies so much I don't know if there's a "normal" time honestly?

  • The avg is about 4 to 6 minutes. Let him know that once you cum, he can unload as well. Guys think they are ding the women a good deed the longer they last. That's not always the case.

    • I don't have orgasms. It's nothing to do with him or any other guy I've been with, it's just nearly impossible for me due to mental blockades so when I'm having sex I usually just enjoy the closeness and how it feels to be with them until they get theirs.

    • A lot of women can't orgasm vaginally. Do you rub your clit while he's inside you? If you aren't turned on and not self lubricated you won't cum.

    • I was severely abused, so I have a hard time relaxing enough to get to that point. I'm hoping in time I'll get there. I did manage to by doing what you suggested but it took about twenty minutes and in the end it didn't feel like it was worth the exhaustion we both felt.

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  • There is no problem with you. Some guys are slow or on the opposite to fast ejaculators... if he stays hard it's a proof that he feels attracted by you. Maybe you talk about it on a non-dramatic mode. If you have an orgasm, maybe you can ask him to stop and finsh him an other way... (hj or bj).

    Plus for some guys havinf sex without finishing by an ejaculation is not a big deal...

  • I have never been a guy to cum in 5 minutes or less. There have been times when I did, and it really did not feel very pleasurable and I think it's because your body wasn't really ready or prepped to cum yet. So for me I usually last about maybe 15 minutes, yeah. Delaying ejaculation and using Kegels can also make it last longer, which I've done in the past and it makes orgasm feel even better and stronger.

  • Every guy lasts a different time. Some more than others. Women usually complain men don't last long enuf.

  • It's not you. You failed to give important information like your boyfriend's age, any medications he may be on, any physical issues he may have, etc. But the point to that is every guy is different, and each guy's time can vary depending on many factors.

    When I was in my 20's, I could last 4-5 minutes, but I was ready to go again rather quickly. As I've gotten older, my time has stretched to as long as 45 minutes, but I may need an hour or more to after cumming to be ready to go again. So in a way, they all are normal.

    If he maintains his erection and he wants to have sex with you, just enjoy the extra time.

    • He's 31 and I'm not aware of any medications or health issues that may affect that area.

    • Ask him if he's always been like this. But again, he's still within the range of normal. The time to worry health-wise is when there is a relatively sudden change in his ability to remain hard.

  • Longer when smoked, salted or tinned

  • Do you normally prefer 5 minutes? Or was it just related to being tired at the moment.

    A guy can go 15 minutes or more if they have some control, but most of the time you don't want to, because you feel the pleasure coming and want it then. Control is almost like starting over to actually cum just you don't go limp.

    • I would prefer 5-10, 10 at the most. I'm not a very big person and he's around 10" so after a while it becomes physically exhausting for me.

    • That makes sense, exhausting and soreness. He probably doesn't know then, I usually like to find out what they feel is the perfect time.

  • From the words of an experienced expert on sex, sex can last just an minute just as long as both parties are satisfied. The long hours of marathon sex from porn can Lead to tearing and soreness in a woman. I personally think it actually comes from women not being satisfied with how short a man’s performance is, leaving the woman unsatisfied. If you’re being satisfied why worry? You see him cumming it’s all good.

  • The penatration part is the last bit what about foreplay ,, you should have enjoyed at least one orgasm before he dips his wick.

  • I can last for close to an hour if the girl is really into it so it depends from guy to guy. On average I can last around 25mijs though so it isn't that he's not attracted to you :)

  • I go anywhere from 5 minutes to 2 hours. For me, the longer it goes the more fun I'm having, but a willing participant is always hard to find. Also, marathons get harder on both the older the participants. I'm happy with a half hour at this point. Anything over an hour and I feel like my heart will detonate.

    • 2 hours? is that possible? teach me how to do it, tell me your secret.

    • Keegal exercises. Start by cutting off your own stream a few times a day, kinda like a workout. Also most likely when I first meet someone and the attraction is strong and fairly equal

    • Is it stopping and starting to pee?

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  • 5. min is a let down...15 to30 is more. common

  • What's normal? The question doesn't contain the info that he makes you satisfied or not!

  • Your previous guys were just below average and most likely Not very ecperienced. It depends on experience and on the man in question. ... everyone is different. Also Not every sexuality fits every Partner.. some enjoy long sessions and lasting as long as possible to heighten the experience others like shorter sessions.

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