How long do menstrual periods last if they are extended?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has been on her period for more than 2 months, maybe past 3. It’s seriously effecting my desire and sex. I’ve had this happen before where she got the implant for contraception and she basically spotted for a year. I’ve never seen someone have this kind of reaction to contraceptions. Most people I know completely stop having periods. For my girlfriend, it eliminates the cramps but she still has her monthly period or nonstop period. She likes the contraceptions just for that. Any advice?

[whirled_up_girl]

Hi I'm a registered nurse and I can't diagnose or treat your girlfriend but I can pass along some advice from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynocologists (ACOG) about breakthrough bleeding. It would be best for her to see an Ob/gyn as there are some different choices. https://www.acog.org/womens-health/experts-and-stories/the-latest/what-you-should-know-about-breakthrough-bleeding-with-birth-control

In the link the last section labled "Your ob-gyn can help" talks about some medications that can be prescribed with implants , IUDs etcs that are causing breakthrough bleeding, that can possilby even things out.

[Asker]

She did IUD which caused her to have spotting for a full year before it was removed. The depo shot caused her to skip some periods and then bleed for months straight. I haven’t heard of any medications to prevent bleeding and I keep hearing every girl is different.

[Apple1996]

I think that is normal for some birth controls but maybe she should see her doctors if it's bothering her

[Mac-One]

She should see a gynecologist concerning the problem.

[Subarugirl]

My advice would be to get a vasectomy. Spotting is a very common side effect for the implant and it happened to me…. I was constantly bleeding for about a year and a half when I got the implant, then I had it removed.

[Asker]

She likes contraception because it removes her cramps.

[Subarugirl]

I doubt constantly bleeding is preferable for a year is preferable to a few days of cramps once a month… I guess the real question is do you want to be with her because of who she is or because you get to fuck her?

[Asker]

Honestly I don’t want to be with her. She cheated on me in the past and begged me to take her back. I’ve been trying to get rid of her for over a year.

[Subarugirl]

…. Okay… well there is a very simple solution to that problem… break up with her instead of lying to every one around you including to yourself by staying in a relationship you aren’t even really in. You’re not married, there is no legal entanglement so leave, you obviously don’t want the be there so why are you still there?

[Asker]

Unfortunately we live together. Hard to leave when can’t separate literally.

[Subarugirl]

It’s been going on a year, you’re publicly complaining about it but use the fact that you’re living together as an excuse…. You’re still sexually active but refuse to leave, you just want to complain about it

[Asker]

Anonymously, but yes. I found a way to escape. I just have to leave my place. Unfortunately it’s like a divorce where the guy has to give up his own home to the woman.

[Subarugirl]

A breaking up with your girlfriend and moving out of what ever place you’re renting, is nothing like losing a house in a divorce…

[Asker]

What’s different?

[Subarugirl]

Marriage is a legally binding contract, dating is not. You can leave at any point…. You chose to stay.

[Asker]

There’s something called common law marriage even if you aren’t legally married. And in certain states if you’ve been living in a house for more than a month you can’t remove them. I’m sure you know something about that.

[Subarugirl]

what state do you live in?

[Asker]

California

[Subarugirl]

You may be able to kick someone out of your house in California, but if that person paid you rent, or performed any services around the home in lieu of rent, you may be required to follow the legal eviction procedures for California, including providing written notice.

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