How long is a good time length to wait before having sex with someone for the first time when you are a lady?

[Anonymous]

[quaranta]

I voted for 5 dates thinking this could be an average, but actually my answer would be:"Any time!", even during the very first date. You're totally free to wait months, or hours. If there is chemistry, any time is okay.
Probably you're afraid you'd be called a slut if you do it too early, or maybe you give it a high importance, so you want to be sure you trust this guy to access your body and deserve it. This isn't a wrong worry/mentality either, it's just how you set the rules. So, by that, you will need a guy who plays inside those rules, too. That means a guy who is looking for a serious relationship and is in the mindset to know you better as a priority, rather than getting sexual interactions. So, if you are looking for that, if you wait more you will simply filter out those who put priority on sex than in knowing you as a person. But that doesn't mean you can't get a serious relationship after a sudden passionate night, too. A guy might not look actively for sex, but might also not refuse good sex while getting to know you better. And sex is good in general so it's not like you're giving a gift "for them", but also to yourself.
Also, dates and contacts with guys could have many shades: there could be fixed dates, but there could be also situations where you meet them more often because of other reasons (job, neighbourhood, courses, friends of friends...), yet you get to know them better anyway. Sometimes you simply endlessly text with a guy with a high chemistry and that will be worth the equivalent of 10 dates in a week. It's never too defined, so in the end you will end up having sex with those you feel safer with, at any time you feel it...
But one rule should stay: if you sense something is off, just don't.

[Screenwriter]

This is a, "it depends." I would extend this to men OR women. Jumping into sex can screw up your radar. There are loads of cocksmen and women who are wonderful in bed and not much else. They're called "players," and that's how they've gotten on, in and around.

I'd say take your time and not rush anything. Shouldn't be a hard number of dates or weeks or anything. Should be about time, the person's actions toward you, and trust. And then there are people who are consummate actors and who put on an incredible front for months, maybe even years before they let their hair down.

Someone on here was with a boyfriend for 2 or 3 years, had moved in with him recently, he was graduating college and then left her for someone else. She was blindsided! Means he would've had to have been carrying on with this person while LIVING WITH HER!!! Egads!! She was the parking lot while he kept going to dealerships looking at new cars!

[Anonymous]

Depends. What was the quickest you’ve ever fucked someone...

If you have fucked a stranger before... you have to put out on the first date. A guy who knows you fucked another dude without effort will be pissed you are making him wait.

If you have only ever waited before having sex, you can make the call as long as it’s shorter than you made other men wait.

[20yearsolder]

I would guess it depends on how well you get along on your dates. When you feel comfortable enough to move to the next step

[SecretsofKB]

That honestly depends on you as the person and your partner. If the both of you are ready, then there is no specific amount of time.

And no length of time should determine if you are a "lady" or not.

[Bee-Hatch]

A lady knows her own mind and decides for herself.

[AviatorTom]

There is no specific number. When the guy and girl are both ready, that's when they should have sex. That could be anywhere from first date to more than a year. Best to refrain from trying to quantify human sexuality.

[Wise4myage]

I say two months.

[Wise4myage]

But it really depends on how you feel about it.

[Keepitreal007]

Marriage

[swettannie]

depends

[In_Trance]

How can you not know this at your age?

[Anonymous]

If you think that society cares, you are sadly mistaken. Whenever you want.