How long should you wait to have sex with your boyfriend so that a he will respect you without making him lose interest?

After dating 1 month
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After dating 2 months
Vote B
After dating 3 months
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After dating 4-5 months
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After dating more than 5 months
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I was wondering how long could guys hold it?
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So is the answer whenever we’re ready?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • This notion of "holding out" for respect is absolutely asinine.

    You and your partner should have sex whenever you two feel comfortable doing it, whether that be on the first date, or a year in. That's completely up to you guys. There's no rules, or guidelines, or anything similar that you should follow.

    Second point: any man who loses respect for you, simply because you "had sex too quickly" into the relationship, well, he's not a real man. He's a fucking boy, and you shouldn't be dating him in the first place.

  • The answer is when you are ready, you can propose it or attempt it.

    But dont follow an internet norm invented for no other reason but to put rules on people.

    When you are ready, thats when you should or could do it. If you do it according to a rule of how long then you may end up doing it because you feel forced.

    Good luck!

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is a complicated question. Nobody should be trying to get you to do something you aren't ready to do. So if that is happening, time to break up. Some people have very high libido's and sex in general as well as knowing if both people are sexually compatible within the relationship is very important to them. So they aren't wrong for deciding to end the relationship if you wait a long time. It doesn't make you a tease and it doesn't necessarily make him a jerk either, it just means you weren't right for each other

  • Months? How often are you dating? Every 6-7 weeks?

    Don't be waiting months. You just know when you're ready, go from there. If he's a good guy he'll respect you regardless of how long you wait. So don't wait too long.

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  • It's not about time. It's about forming a significant emotional bond. I'd never wait over a month.

  • If you have to worry about games like that, then the guy isn't worth dating! Whenever you want to is fine.

  • IMHO, there is no rule and people that markup these rules are full of you know what.
    You should have an intimate encounter when you feel comfortable and have feelings for him. And don't forget, the feelings and the interest must be mutual, don't get fooled by things he might be saying to simply get you undressed.
    A good hustler can say exactly what you want to hear in order to get what he wants, so simply be aware.
    Other than that, have fun and do what comes naturally

  • Hold up... Months?

    • Is that too long?

    • What are you doing in that time, holding hands and sharing milkshakes? I’m not the type of person to tell someone else when they are ready to go get laid, but that’s a long ass time to wait. Especially when you already have a partner right there.

  • Around a month or two

  • I think women should set the pace for sexualizing a relationship. Giving it up too early will prevent it from developing properly. One approach might be to walk the bases to mutual oral and then decide on date #10

  • Ugh. Stop using sex as a bait. If you even have to ask this question you shouldn't be seeing him.

    • Hold what? If you mean how long I'm going to put up with your waiting game, 0 months, 0 weeks, 0 days, 0 hours, 0 minutes and 0 seconds. If I feel like a girl is doing this I'll just find someone else.

    • But i don’t want to come off as easy :(

    • Easy doesn't exist. It's literally a term for 15 year olds to throw around because they're indecisive. If you know what you want then go for it. Playing games doesn't benefit anyone.

  • Yeah, if the foundation of the relationship is based off sex in the first place that's definite red flags.

  • 5 maximum 6 minutes

  • You should wait until after marriage

  • 3rd date

  • This question suggests a relationship based on sex. True love waits.

  • It depends on how you two interact. Personal I would say don't rush it let her set the pace...

  • I'll wait no more than 2 years. I won't before 3 months either.

  • Why would he lose respect for a choice you make

    • Question why are you going on a date once a mouth the dates should be close to gether in the beginning of the relationship

    • Ine more questions why do you say 4—5 then say 5 on the next there are bigger problems here then you having sex

    • I have never had sex or a real relationship

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  • How do you know he's your boyfriend, if you haven't had sex yet

    Generally, after the 3rd date. However long that is, is of course, up to the daters, right?

    How long it takes to go on the 3rd date, right?

    And what exactly defines a "date", right?

  • Who would wait months? You might be waiting but he'll be banging chicks on the side.

  • Make him wait a year. Then have sex, and when he realizes you suck in bed, he will leave you.

    • That sounds sad

    • It's no sadder than your question.

    • What is your true opinion?

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