How long would you wait to have unprotected sex with someone?

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  • I'm almost 70yo and I've had over 100 sexual partners over my lifetime and I have only ever been asked to wear a condom once and once I was told that it might be a good idea for my safety. That was about 6 months ago. I've never been asked to wear one before by a new partner and I've never offered to do so and the only times I have ever used them was when I was a teenager and my girlfriend hadn't gone on the pill yet. Because I've never been asked to wear one the last time I bought any condoms was when I was 17yo.
    When I was asked to wear one 6 months ao I didn't have any and neither did she. I suppose I could have gone out to get some but I said that we could just fool around and enjoy ourselves without penile pentration - and we did - but I think she got upset wth me for not having one and we went out only one more time - with no sex at all at the end of that evening.
    If you know that other persons sexual history and you know that they arem only having sex with you and if both of you have a test for STDs and both come back negative and if you believe that both you and your partner are only having sex together and not with other partners and they trust you and you trust them then you can stop once you've gone through this process.
    Personally, I have never had a STD and I have never had sex with anyone who has had one (or they lied to me). But I guess that is always the risk that you take. Most STDs are trewatable with antibiotics and they're gone for good - except genital herpes. I have had a partner who had herpes but the last time she had symptoms was 5 years ago so she told me about it and we discussed it and she said that she had no symptoms so I elected to not use a condom with her. I trust her to tell me if she does get symptoms and, as I understand it, you are only infectious when it's active and you have physical symptoms (tingling) that tell you it's active.

    So, both get tested and test negative, discuss whether you are going to both be exclusive and then don't bother with them. (obviously you need to use SOME form of contraception so you don't get pregnant).

Most Helpful Guy

  • You wait till you're sure this is a committed relationship and the possibility of pregnancy and STIs have fully been explored and addressed to both people's satisfaction. Don't gamble unreasonably, just to have a short-term sensation. I understand many people feel entitled, yet unprotected sex will never be an entitlement.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Now that I’m off birth control, it’s never going to happen unless if I am sure of having a kid with someone

    • @kylee2437 is there any particular reason why ur off birth control?

    • @thirsty4more23 birth control was making me feel like complete crap and I was being inconsistent with it anyways. I haven’t had unprotected sex in over a year and a half , so I don’t see a point

    • @kylee2437 ahh yeah that makes sense. Sorry about that for u. Do u at least take care of yourself if the urge comes along?

  • Not long. Every boyfriend I’ve ever had, we just did it bare.

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  • A LONG time.

  • 1. until i was ready to have a baby

    or

    2. until we are in a monogamous relationship and she was on the pill

    or

    3. until i was in a monogamous relationship and i had a vasectomy

  • After they've been tested.

  • i’d wait until after dinner. I’ll buy you ice cream, even. I am a patient man.

  • Once we're in a committed monogamous relationship, both have been tested and shared results, and we've had a conversation for what happens if something goes wrong.

  • Depends on how close we are to each other and the chemistry and connection we share on whether we are both in it for the long haul , if I feel she isn’t in it for the long haul, then I wear protection even though I am not a big fan of condoms it’s better safe than sorry

  • I just hope she's trusting of my pull out game

  • I have never waited, and have almost always had unprotected sex, even on a first date

  • I got married fairly young and we were married for 20+ years, we never used protection.

    After my divorce, women (including my SO) are older and pregnancy is not a consideration, and we often went/go unprotected.

  • When I was prepared to marry her, if it "took".

  • As long as it took for them to meet me and say, "Let's fuck!"

  • Eh... a month or so. Depends on how the vibe is with her.

  • It depends. In some cases it would be 15 minutes

  • All depends but ideally they could get tested first. It happens tho still

  • Firstly I'd be wanting to know the STI status of the woman 👩 I'm about to sleep 😴 💤 with.

  • About 5 mins or as long as it takes to get nice and hard 😂

  • Marriage

  • I never had protected sex!

  • Have to trust them before doing it. So that take a while

  • Well I gotta trust the pull out ability of the guy... Testing definitely

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