How many dates do you have before having sex with someone?

How many dates would you say is fine before having sex with someone?
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  • I don't have a timeframe or set an amount of dates before sleeping with a guy. It happens when I feel comfortable, ready, and most importantly, trust said guy.

    For me, that doesn't happen until I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship with said guy. Meaning it might be weeks, months, even years (yes, years) before I sleep with a guy!!!

    And if he doesn't respect that or want to wait? He can move on! If a guy gets impatient or has a "set date" he expects a girl to put out? I am NOT the right woman for him!

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't follow a set rule such as the three date rule. I am ready to have sex when I feel that a girl is a potential candidate for a long term relationship and I feel some attraction that is more than just lust, and that is usually before she arrives at that same point. When she is ready to be intimate, then. . . gentlemen, start your engines!

    In the past 36 years, I have had one casual encounter that did not follow the above description. Otherwise, I Have had sex as early as the third or fourth date, usually by two months into a relationship, and in one case, it was about five months after we started dating.

  • I believe in something I coined as the "10-date rule". 10 planned public dates he pays for and optionally provides transportation. During that time, sexual intimacy can advance from making out through to mutual oral/69 but then, she and only she decides whether or not to take the next step.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It’s not dependent on number of dates it’s dependent on chemistry and how the other person and I jive.

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  • At least 6 months worth

  • Despite being an engineer, I don't like arbitrary numbers. I've had numerous dates where we had sex on the first night. I've also dated a woman several times before we had sex, which, by the way, was NOT worth the wait- she was among the worst ever in bed.

  • sometimes months and sometimes the first date

  • Sometimes it has been only one other times it has been 10 or more. When the time is right the time is right.

  • Whenever you're sure about it. Could be the first date too, if all you care for is fun.
    If you want a stable relationship, figure out the guy you're being with. Depending on what the answer to such interrogative is, sex on the first date could still be viable, or creating a romantic environment before doing it could be necessary. It's not a matter of you, end line, but of what gives the best chances for a couple to be formed.

  • Just one. The wedding date.

    BOOOOOOM!

    C'mon, gimme some!

    How many dates do you have before having sex with someone?
  • doesn't matter how many, not happening till marriage

  • As many as it takes to get to the honeymoon.

  • In my experience after three dates women want to take you home.

  • Usually first or second. It depends on what we're getting together at.

  • A lot.
    I can't even relate to jumping straight into sex with someone I barely know.

  • I try to have at least 1.

  • I've never slept with a women that I hadn't known for years before, but I stopped dating at 30 as I hated the game.

  • I think the fewest dates I've had before we had sex was 5

  • I am the not until I say "I do" type of gal. For sex I wait till marriage.

  • 3 good dates, sometimes even longer if I'm not yet 100% sure about their intentions.

  • I think so 3 releationship before having sex. And 3 were having crush on me

  • I don't know. I would wait until we both felt ready. Love runs on it's own timetable.

  • 2 or 3. Probably 3.

  • My last first date was first night. Tension can build up before you even start to see each other.

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