Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’m not a virgin but I’m quite emotionally innocent. I never have known how long you make a man wait for sex so he doesn’t label you as easy and on with everyone so that he talks about you and no longer likes/loves you or whatever. Can someone tell me how long I should wait? I can’t read social cues and I kept getting used in my youth as a result. I want to avoid repeating my mistakes in my thirties.
How many dates should you go out on before you sleep with a man?
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This isn’t a joke question or trolling. I really don’t know. It’s annoying and embarrassing not to know at my age, so I’m asking. Anonymously.
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23 38Do you what you feel like. If he labels you like easy or shut is his problem. And if he gossips around and people listen to him, they are not your friend. So it's a very easy and useful way of filtering the people you can trust
I have gone anywhere from a couple of hours to a couple of months. It all depends on the chemistry itself.
Whenever you want to. That's all I can say. Social cues are meaningless. If you want to then go ahead. If you don't want to then don't. If you say no and respects that, then good for him. That means he respects you. He'll wait till your ready.
I dated somebody for three months and nothing: No sex, No kissing, no hugs - nothing. So I dumped her. She suddenly became immediately ready, but no. If I have to cobfront you to even get the slightest affection out of you after three months of dating -it's over. I dated a female, Asian incel.
10 dates most probably
hopefully the final date engagement propsal night
I fuck on the first
On the fourth date maybe. But he must snuggle with my penis with his penis. 💞
As many as it takes for you to be ready. If he pushes you before you are ready, you can be pretty sure that sex is his primary goal.
Well it what you ultimately if you feel your ready but I think a good size to 8 weeks is good as long there is no problems. If your not sure you wait as long you want. I had to wait a year one time till she decided to have sex with me
I'd rather consider it based on time you've been together than the number of dates. I personally take 5-6 months before opening up sexually
I would like to tell you my answer to but I am still a virgin and I have never did it before but I would like to talk and learn and talk about it
What did you feel towards person in question?
You care for the person or have feel for the person.
Some I have. Usually those I loved, I never slept with.
Don’t cheat yourself or think 🤔 you worthless
Until you’re married lol….
Up to you who says it’s got to be a time….
It’s how you feel
I’m still confused though.
Only you know when …. How it feels Why are you putting time on it for…?
My mum told me you have to make a guy wait 3 months for sex.
Lol…. Mothers lie….. So how old are you …?
34 and have Asperger’s
Why you asking your mother for… It’s how you feel you know when the time is right that’s all I can say…. Hope that helps you out
I never know when the time is right so I do it too soon or too late.
I don’t know …. Like I said it’s up to you… Only you know how you feel inside and when the time is right… That’s all I can say… No set times nothing it’s down to you… Lol hope you sort it out… He seems like a nice person
I don’t know. I’m not thinking of sleeping with anyone. I just don’t know the social cues.
But isn’t that what you’re asking to sleep with a man…?
In my opinion and experience it genuinely doesn’t matter. I’ve known women to wait months and he just dips after and women who had him on the first date and married him
You have sex whenever both of you feel like it. Can be on the first date or much later. Making someone wait just because person x said so is stupid
Hubby and I slept together on our first date.
Too little too late. If you've been used sexually in your youth that's basically all that matters. The end. Sit down and think hard about how low you are willing to go and how little commitment you can live with. When those two points meet, you will find a suitable man. Otherwise, you won't.
Thats a morbid approach to a womans life.
@mobiusforniner being realistic over delusional seems like the best way to approach life. If one isn't that desirable one must choose someone less desirable. Seems pretty obvious.
That’s offensive and spoken like a true woman hater
Clearly someone here doesn't like to be realistic. Try sleeping. Living in dreamland is normal while catching some 💤 not so much awake.
Having a previous partner makes one less desirable? I had three girlfriends prior to getting married. Does that make me "used" and thus less desirable? Or does that philosophy not apply to men?
@mobiusforniner I'm assuming you live in this place called earth and that you're older than 10. You already know the answer to your question. You also know the answer to your question is off topic. What does a man's desirability have to do with giving an advice to women? She's not a man so clearly that is irrelevant to the topic.
Seems you are avoiding my point and quite obviously have nothing better to contribute to your misogynistic perspective than to label others as immature which, from my experience, is a technique used by the immature to project their feeble insecurities upon someone else. You know where im going with this and your quick defense suggests you feel your perspective is being attacked. Im not attacking you. Im just calling bullshit when i smell it. But good day!
@mobiusforniner what is your point? It's clearly off topic. She is a woman. The topic is about her. Not a man.
You are basing a womans worth on her sexual experience. Having sex before makes her "used goods" and thus deserving of a lower quality partner. This assesssment completely dismisses everything about her as a person and breaks her value down to the barbarian idea that if she's been stuffed with someones dick, she's undeserving of anything good. In some circumstances, this may not even be her fault. Evidently that do not matter to you. There are of course people who are open with their sex lives and have many partners. For those wanting committed partners, these people will obviously not make for a stable relationship. But this is true for men as well as women and those same people likely demonstrate other inpulsive habits that would indicate such. so sex experience alone shouldn't be an indicator of a persons value. A woman having a few prior relationships does not make her "used" nor does it suggest she's impulsive or trashy, and in that manner is no different than a man having a few prior relationships. Bottom line your philosophy bases a womans value on sex alone. Which is archaic, barbarian, short sighted and stupid.
@mobiusforniner as archaic and barbarian as it is, it's a viewpoint held by many many. So if she had been "stuffed with dick" as you put it, many men will be less interested. Right or wrong that is fact. A fact she must live with the results of.
You should sleep with your date when both of you want to.
I've done it on the first date.