How many of you have/had a secret relationship even when you have/had boyfriend/husband?

How many of you have/had a secret relationship even when you have/had boyfriend/husband?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't know if this counts. But my boyfriend was mad, and he said he wanted a break. A few days later, i had a little moment with someone, and i think my boyfriend saw something but im not sure. I didn’t have sex with the other guy, just some kissing, and stuff. But when my boyfriend and I made up, i threw the other guy in the trash.. feels kind of bad tho cuz he likes me, and sometimes texts me but i stopped responding

    • It does count and that’s the only type of thing I would do if I was in the same situation. I don’t think a lot of guys understand that, besides if I was on a break with my boyfriend and we weren’t talking I’d only want to talk with someone else cuz if you really think about it, your hearts set for a different person

  • When I was younger one of my ex's an I had a "don't ask, don't tell" rule. We could do as we wanted outside of our relationship as ling as it was never brought up. If it was we called it auits with either whoever we were seeing or we would break up. Needless to say, it didn't work too well and we split.

    • Wow @beachbabe96, so you had an open relationship but couldn’t talk about it... Was it his idea, and how old were you guys?

    • We were 19 and 20, it was kind of mutually agreed upon to not discuss whatever else we did with whoever.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I currently have a don't ask don't tell policy with my wife.

    I keep it discreet and she's supportive of my actual social life so it makes it easy to mask the truth about what I'm out doing on the occasions that I'm not with social friends.

    • That’s disgusting Guess you’re not really In Love with your wife then You want her around and the family life but good to be off Too bad you don’t actually love her You should split up

    • @girlzruleboyzdrool You're fairly judgmental for not having much info to go on. It's not disgusting, that's your opinion I love her very much, this has nothing to do with love More like she wants me to stick around and provide a comfortable life for her and our kid Splitting up would devastate her way of life, and our child's. She's frigid, and we haven't had sex since 2015, and that was the first time we did in over a year. Don't judge me until you've walked a day in my shoes... I'm a caring husband and father, and support my family. I do not get anything back, not even sex, ever. So I date on the side AND SHE'S OKAY WITH THAT because she realizes that she's not giving me something I need. She knew I was a high libido when she married me, and understands that I have needs. I didn't sign up for a sexless marriage. You should drop the righteous snowflake attitude, the world doesn't work the way you want to believe it does.

    • You’re cheating on your wife The one you chose To be your one and only Make all the excuses you want Adultry is adultry If it’s going to hurt your child so much Stop doing your behaviour then and stop being so selfish

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  • never because I never had a girlfriend and also not pos.

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  • Once in an abusive relationship in which I was in the middle of planning my escape... Still to this day I ask myself if that counts. That was the only time though.

  • No, though it didn't stop him from having one.

    I don't enjoy keeping big secrets from my partners. It feeds into the worst parts of me and often makes my anxiety worse.

    The pleasure of a secret is far outweighed by the negatives for me.

  • Personally I have not. Buuuut I did start liking someone else. Which once I realized I ended the relationship

  • Umm... how do I say this... hell no. Loyalty is everything and I don't share the cooch or kitty with anyone but my significant other. Just my moral values.

  • I've never

  • I've mostly been in sexual flings so never

  • Nope. Still under that gray umbrella of 'what is a relationship?' so I don't have the chance of having a 'secret relationship' with anyone

  • I'm a loyal person.

  • Nop. That’s disrespectful to my partner and myself. If I don’t want to be with him and am interested in someone else than I’d break up first. Not my thing.

  • Never had any relationship yet, not planning to have a secret relationship, I don't respect people who had these and would call them out on it

  • I'm rather be loyal in a relationship. If I decide to commit with someone, I will give them my heart and soul, I'd be loyal and respect what we have. I never cheated and I believe I never will.

    • 100% agree with you on all accounts.

  • My first same-sex relationship was secretive. It was back when I was still stripping and going to college, and I was engaged to a colossal blowhard at the time. He never found out.

    • Wow u look amazing 😍😍

  • There was a boyfriend I never seemed to be able to stay faithful to. But I've been faithful for every other boyfriend and my (now ex) husband with no problem

    • @ellkell Why was it so hard to be faithful to that one boyfriend?

  • I never had and never will!

  • None. Thats not respectful to my guy who i am with and i know i wouldn't like it if he would do it to me too.

  • I don't, I hate cheating

  • Um no, when I date a guy I only have eyes for him.

    Not because I'm a good girlfriend but my system won't allow me to.

  • Never, and never would. I am and always will be 100%. I love my boyfriend so why would I hurt him?

  • can't say that i have 🤷

  • Everyone has... let's be transparent.

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