How many sexual partners would you perfer your partner had?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Voted "Option F - Don't care." People change and what they did in their past matters less to me than what we share now.

My girlfriend and I have lived together for 12 years and have three children. They are the center of my universe and make me happier than I ever thought I could be.

Before we met, I had sex with 11 other women - and got two pregnant. One had a miscarriage and I actually did not find out till years later. The other aborted our baby without telling me and it remains to this day the most shattering heartbreaking thing I have even been through. I miss so much the little baby I never got to hold in my arms.

Had my girlfriend judged me by the numbers, I look pretty bad. Instead she saw things in me that I did not see in myself. She judged the whole man and not the body count - and the costs in my case ended up being pretty severe when you think of that little baby who never got to be held and loved.

By the way, before me, my girlfriend had sex with three other guys. One of whom she had a pregnancy scare with but it turned out to be a false alarm.

Bottom line, my preference is the person my partner became and what I became. Not the sum of the people with whom I have been with. Sex is healthy and natural for two human beings to want to share and what matters is not how much you have had, but how you handle it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As long as they know what they are doing more or less, and I won't just be another nameless number to them, I don't really care.
And as long as they won't cheat, though I know that won't have anything to do with number of previous partners.