How messed up am i?

[Anonymous]

Lately I've been talking to this guy. It is very clear that he's using me for sex. I never done it with anybody or anything for that matter. I know what he wants, but I'm so insecure and hate myself SO MUCH, that I don't care if he's using me. I just want to feel wanted, and secure even if it's temporary and I'm just a conquest. Even if it's only for 30 minutes. I doubt another guy will ever want me anyways. I just want to experience some form of living life, and I'm so lonely. So tell me, how messed up am I?

[slatyb]

It sounds like you have a very poor self-image. Perhaps you have not had much support while growing up. There is nothing wrong with you, but you need some supportive people in your life to help you see that you are valuable and deserve love.

I was once as you are now, with an extremely negative self-image. I did not feel worthy of love and kept people away. Some years later a therapist helped me a lot but it still took time to accept myself and I still work on it. I hope that you can find some support sooner rather than later.

[Asker]

You mean like a father figure? No, I have had an excellent father figure. My dad has actually taught me to stay away from those types of guys. This is my fault actually. I have always felt that I was ugly even throughout my childhood.

[Ar13mis]

You are confessed up that badly. This is something called the Cinderella complex. You like him because he makes you feel wanted and needed. And he only does that during sexual encounters. A good alternative, if you don't want to have sex, is to try to find someone who really cares about your well being.

[Ar13mis]

*you are not messed up that badly. Stupid auto correct

[Asker]

I need to and I would try finding someone, but I give up. Its not gonna happen for me. Thanks for the encouragement tho.

[JSmith925]

Actually, you are not messed up at all. It is normal to feel awkward and unattractive in your teens. Say no to this boy and give yourself some time for self acceptance. Sex will be a much better experience with the right person for the right reasons.

[GrayWolf]

Your not messed up your human and we all want to feel wanted and loved and most get it anyway they can. be patient the right man for you will come along eventually look at me im 46 and im still waiting but im patient God will send her my way eventually but iv been alone so long it dont bother me anymore.

[thefastcomer]

You are not messed, you love having sex with him and belonging to him just for 30 minutes so there is nothing wrong, this can happen but just an advide dont make it last long or else he probably make you his sex slave

[FistSlaminElite]

You're under 20, at our ave everyone is messed up, just please dont do anything with him, one day you'll meet a really nice guy and really regret what you're doing now.

[Anonymous]

Not messed up at all your perfect you are loved and DO NOT LET HIM

[Anonymous]

Ill just say, you're messed up.

[Asker]

I'm a little aware of that, smartass.

[Opinion Owner]

Woahhh there! I was trying to put it lightly without having to really say but.. You're definitely not normal or right in your mind. You have a real messed up life ahead of you.

[Asker]

I know. I have a gain better control of it right.

[Anonymous]

Those are natural feelings at your age. Don't be used. It's called toughening up. No one wants to but you have to. Someone will. We all have this feeling at some point, especially as teens and young adults. Men and women get them too. Just don't be manipulated by the situation, otherwise you are making yourself a victim.

[Asker]

I know I'm making myself a victim, I don't know what's wrong with me.