How much do sex hurts for the first time?

[Anonymous]

U never Masturbated and touched urself.. everything is just too new for u.. will it hurt too bad? Guys tell how u can make ur partner pain less and girls share ur first experience please

[tilmyheadblows]

This is tough for me to gauge because my partner was a little rougher with me first time without really realizing it lol... but even then it didn't hurt as much as there was discomfort until I eased into it.

there's nothing wrong with exploring your body though, if its something you were worried about. There's also nothing wrong with not exploring on your own if you aren't comfortable; masturbation isn't comfortable for me and I had never considered it until I had sex for the first time.

It will be easy if you're comfortable though. Make sure you don't let him penetrate until you are comfortable, feel turned on/wet enough for insertion. Maybe have him try a couple of fingers first for stretching, and make sure he's down for enough foreplay to relax you. If he's not willing to bring you comfortable enough for your first time, he's not worth spending your first time with.

Remember, consent between both parties is the most important. Talk about things, discuss what you want etc. Discussion about consent can easily be turned into dirty talk as well, if you're worried about ruining the mood.

Lastly, not everyone bleeds! The hymen doesn't always break; not every afab is born with a hymen and they break very easily without sex at all. If you're worried about blood or mess though, lay down a towel.

[tilmyheadblows]

If you want to talk about anything or have any questions please feel free to lmk here or message me!! Advocating safe and healthy sex is very important to me.

[tilmyheadblows]

ALSO CONDOMS!!! please use condoms!!! Both for pregnancy and STD reasons, and never believe a dude that tells you that condoms don't fit them or are uncomfortable. They're trying to manipulate you into rawdogging it, its not worth it. And please remember that people can be born with STDs; they don't need to sleep around to acquire them etc. Protect yourself first and foremost, any worthwhile partner will understand and be doing the same.

[tilmyheadblows]

oh, I wanted to add in the condom bit: there is not a penis that a condom won't fit. I used to stretch those motherfuckers over my entire arm. I can assure you you will not meet a monster cock larger than my arm. Condoms fit.

[jess2022]

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[loves2learn]

For me it did hurt some, but not unbearable and it also felt good. Though I had been fingered and used tampons. I recommend exploring your body yourself first.
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Some things he can do to reduce the pain are to gently rub your clitoris, finger your vagina and lick your clitoris to get you very wet and aroused. This will make penetration easier. If he can keep one thumb on your clitoris as he enters you that will also help.
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For me it took about 1 month of sex (8 times or so) before it didn’t hurt anymore. Every girl is different.
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Do you have any other questions?

[Asker]

Can a man lost his control and end up hurting u even he loves u but his desire taken him he was too lost? Is it possible or natural?

[loves2learn]

It is possible but not natural. Did that happen to you? Communication is very important and he needs to be very slow and gentle with you at first, making sure you are ok, wet enough, not in too much pain. If you have too much pain he needs to stop, maybe lubricant would help, and manual and oral stimulation.

[Asker]

No it did not happened with me but actually I m affraid what if he hurt me.. not intentionally but I won't be able to bear it (gets traumasized) I m too sensitive

[loves2learn]

Have you had sexual trauma in the past hun? Is this your boyfriend? Talk to him about going slow, lots of foreplay, having lubricant on hand. Would you feel more comfortable if you were on top at first and in control of the penetration?

[Asker]

Ok thanks... no I dont have trauma but really uncomfortable about things.. I need time to get comfortable so I can't be on top.. and I don't know much (no experience) cherry on the top

[loves2learn]

I felt very uncomfortable at your age too. How long have you been with your boyfriend? Are you able to openly talk about sexual things? When I was your age I had been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months when we first had sex. They key was relaxing and taking it slow. I’ll send you a PM in case you want to talk in a non-public place. :)

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Thank you for the mho :)

[Anonymous]

After deflowering 7 girls, (3gfs and 4ONS).

It depends on many factors.

The foreplay he does and how you react to it will be a major factor. If it's a long and relaxing type foreplay, then it generally would hurt less. The ideal ones are unplanned and that leads up to it.
His penis size will be a big factor. If his is thicker then it would hurt more.
His inserting style can be a factor as well and how much of his he inserts.
The position used.

[DmMeNow]

Yes it may hurt a lot
If u are new
You shouldn't be in a hurry:)

[DmMeNow]

Dont do it unless u really like and trust i think

[rachel776]

well first you should masturbate for a few months because you'll learn a lot from that