How much should you judge a girl on her sexual past?

What is "slut shaming," versus telling the truth versus judging human nature? Probably any guy would want to bang 5 girls at once, so is it bad if a girl does such a thing? What if she does it on a regular basis?
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  • I don't think you should judge a girl based on her sexual past. It's very possible that she used to be kind of promiscuous before but isn't anymore, or she used to date guys and realized that she's gay, or maybe she just used to sleep around, but the past is in the past. I believe that this stuff doesn't define a person. However, sadly, society looks at women's sexuality different than at men's. If a key opens a lot of locks, it's a master key, but a lock that's opened by a lot of keys is a shit lock. Ultimately, it's really nobody's concern if a girl has casual sex with a different guy every night. You might not want to date her, sure, but it's really not a reason to look down on her.

  • Thats gross... I wouldn't respect any woman or man in such a scenario.
    As long as someones safe I don't judge. I mean, why do guys even care who woman sleep with... all I hear is you don't like it... but WHY... we have to accept you guys sleep around. And then get upset how we didn't save our virginity for YOU but he'll I didn't even know you existed then... Lol do you see what I mean?

    • Hell *

  • You should be worried about STDs and such. Paternity maybe. Can't think of anything else to worry about.

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  • Whatever you feel comfortable. If you're turned off by the fact a girl has had a certain amount of partners then you're turned off.

    However I don't think its right to insult the girl for her past but realistically you will get accused of slut-shaming either way even if you respectfully turn them down.

    Another thing to consider is most girls lie about their past so there's not much point in asking. I think its best to just use your gut instincts and assign a sexual past to her based on the vibe she gives off.

  • Not sure I'd say I'd judge her. If she's had about as many guys as I've had girls, then I wouldn't think much of it, but if she's had substantially more than me, then we may not click. Although some say it's not true, women who have had many, many sex partners in their past can still size you up in comparison to a guy/guys she thought were the best. I guess it would be the same way with a girl who's man has had many more sexual encounters than she has too.

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  • 1. Your question assumes that a guy can't be called a slut. Bad assumption.

    2. If her past is 20 years ago, that is different than if her past was 4 weeks ago.

  • I wouldn't want her... I hold her to the same standards as I do myself.

  • Only weird guys care. guys irl have nvr asked me my #.

  • i think none.

    an individual shouldn't be judged for who they are based on sexual history. they could have changed so much since then, it's "history" you know.

    judge them for their character and actions, not their history.

  • Who cares? Unless you are thinking about possible STDs and STIs, there is no reason to ever ask this question.

  • I'm a virgin by choice. I would date only a virgin women.

  • I wouldn't judge

  • No judging ot shaming, but also no wifing.
    If she has had sex with number of guys in double digits= not mom material.
    Uf she has sex involving morr than a guy at a time = not mom material.
    If she recorder a video -= not mom material.
    If where she is from ( country, community) women preserve their virginity, but she had sex before marriage = probably not mom material.
    And lastly if all her friends are hoes, she's not mom material ( and likely a ho).
    If she's not mom material then she sure as hell isn't wife material.

  • There's no point in it. Everybody judges, if it doesn't tick my boxes I am simply gonna move on, no shaming required.

  • That depends. I'm virgin and where i live virgins outnumber none-virgins with ratio of like 30 virgins for one girl with sexual past. It would be a huge turn off for me to find out that girl i'm talking to had a sexual past, but still i'll try to overlook it if i really liked the girl. If i lived somewhere where virgins are not that much and i wasn't virgin myself, i don't think i would care.

  • I don't really care about her past as long as she's clean and loyal

  • Not much. People change.

  • You have a right to judge only to the extent that you can decide if she's someone you want to date. Shaming is never ok.

  • No i wouldn't judge her. But i may be a little cautious, not suspicious, but aware.

  • It's really difficult for insecure men to get past this. I know... I was one of them. I dated a girl that had slept with many people. If she has lots of guy "friends" you'll begin to think, even if she didn't, that she slept with all of them.

  • I think if you ask yourself 'do i want a girl with a similar sex drive to me' and 'what kind of history would she then have?' you may get some interesting answers.

    I think i don't judge on her history, assuming she's treated people well.

    I would judge her attraction to me based on her behavior towards me relative to her history.

  • It's the most important aspect of her character.
    Women hold sexual power and have the option of choice so when a female is a skank, she doesn't hold herself to very high standards and therefore neither should you.
    You will find the females who argue against this the most are the ones who have the highest numbers.

  • I only judge if I'm going into a serious relationship with her. Otherwise I don't care.