Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I would just like to share something here. This won't be for everyone.
I think when it comes to sex, men can sometimes be solely focused on achieving orgasm. Everything a man does in the bedroom will often be aimed at getting himself or his partner to orgasm. This can be fun but I believe too many men focus on the orgasm and do not know how to enjoy the pleasure of just being horny or the intimacy of making slow tender love to that special woman.
I had been sexual relationship with my boyfriend for a year and after that time something didn't feel right anymore. It felt more mechanical than passionate. It was still nice but I no longer considered it a thrill to get down and dirty with my man.
In the hope of introducing a little spice to our sex life I proposed to play a little game with my man. The game was he could have no orgasms for three weeks. At the end of the three weeks I was going to tie him up and tease him like crazy and then untie him so he could ravage me. During his three weeks of orgasm denial we still had sex and I could still cum but he couldn't. I even spent nights giving him long hand jobs that we both knew would never end with him cumming. At times he would be leaking pre-cum everywhere, his erection would be almost purple and his balls would swell like crazy. But I never let him have an orgasm.
After about five days I began to notice changes in his behaviour. He started really making passionate love with me. He knew there was no point in rushing to orgasm so it took all the pressure off. He was more tender and more erotic in his love making and our love making sessions would last for hours on end because there were no orgasms to kill his interest. He also started paying a lot more attention to my pleasure and spent a lot of time giving me back rubs, foot massages and anything else I thought felt nice.
He really started taking more interest in me again, I would often catch him checking out my ass or trying to catch a glimpse up my skirt.
He started flirting with me again and he was interested in talking to me and getting my attention. He started calling me in his lunch break and asking how my day was going and was in a much better mood overall. It felt so good to have a boyfriend who was genuinely trying to get my attention.
He also became very very responsive to my touch. A simple hug would have him getting a rock hard erection.
After his three weeks of not being allowed to cum it was like we had a whole new relationship. He was so cheerful, talkative and flirty with me. It felt like we were back in that honeymoon period that all couples get in a new relationship. It was like we had found each other all over again. I really think that his time without cumming restored his mojo in a sense. Not just in the bedroom but with life in general.
Once his three weeks were up I fulfilled my promise and we had some great sex that resulted in him having a very intense and very messy orgasm. I really enjoyed the new found control and feminine dominance that I had over him. But I think we have both learned a lot from doing this. It has taught him how to slow down and just enjoy all the things a loving relationship can offer. It has taught him how it feels to be truly horny for someone and it has showed him the difference between just wanting and orgasm and craving intimacy with a person. Our sex life is a lot different now. Yes he does orgasm when he wants to. But I've found he is less interested in orgasm and more interested in making love to me and will often just bask in the joy of being horny rather than trying to cum.
A final word. If my man was really against this he would have simply gone away and jacked off while I wasn't looking. Yes sometimes he did complain about being horny but he went along with it anyway because I think he could see the positives.
If he had not being interested in adding some flame to our relationship or learning how to be a better lover then this would not have worked. So I need to give credit to him for how well he did this and how much I love him for it.
What Girls & Guys Said
23 67This is actually really interesting, good on him and glad it turned out well for you both.
Awesome take very interesting, although my fiancé and I've been together for over a year we haven't had the issue of it just becoming mechanical , but if it does I wll keep this in mind for sure
It's certainly interesting. I know for me, delaying orgasm as long as possible definitely makes sex more intense, and when you finally do cum it is an extreme sensation.
Women often say guys are only focused on reaching the O at the end, and I'm not really sure about that. I think what happens is that once guys start feeling the twinges of climax it makes you feel closer to it and incomplete if you feel yourself cumming but try to stop it from happening.
That;s not the same man. And delayed orgasm is disappointing. She's talking weeks with no ejaculation.
@HyperNova No, delayed orgasm feels very good. It builds intensity. What IS disappointing is when women are sure they know how it works for us and trying to explain it away.
Hmmm It's a fine line. If you get too close to orgasm and stop short, it ruins it for me.
@HyperNova Well, delayed just means that you start slowing down when you feel those first twinges of climax. What also helps is doing PC muscle exercises (kegels) so that when you feel those twinges, you stop, and clench the PC muscle tight for a moment. It delays ejaculation and when done several times it makes it feel extremely intense when you finally do cum
I have never dated or kissed or had sex ever. But I never once had the thought that I would use sex just for myself. I would love to make a girl orgasm and squirm.
If your guy is more focused on making himself cum than making you cum, you're with a selfish lover.
Additionally, if I were in his position I'd just cum and not warn you or, as you mentioned, gone and jerked off. It sounds like you talked to him about it before doing it, but if not I wouldn't blame him at all if he had dumped your ass flat.
I totally agree! My first girlfriend already did that with me when we were 17. She loved to see my passion rise with each day without cumming, and with each of her orgasms. But the longest she did was 10 days.
But I also had girlfriends who demanded much longer times. It is incredible how good a girl feels when a guy holds back his orgasm so long just for her. I even went more then a year without a single orgasm. No wet dreams, no health issues. Just 10 times bigger libido permanently and an obsession for making my girlfriend cum :)
Nope. I am not waiting three weeks. I am not waiting three days. Great it worked for you, but with three weeks worth ready to go, you're lucky he didn't explode in 30 seconds and drown you.
It took skill. I gad to use a very light touch. It wouldn't have been nice if he waited 3 weeks and then i made him cum in 30 seconds. I built him up to orgasm over about 45min. His sperm went EVERYWHERE
Annnnnnd troll post.
I'd have liked this take much more if it were written by your boyfriend.
bitch please he probably was fucking other girls.
Haha alright...
That sounds like hell for him. The moment you saw his erection get PURPLE you should have realized that this was a bad idea. You do realize he was only making more gentle love to you, and calling you, and all that shit because he didn't want you to ban orgasms from him again, right? I just get the feeling that this entire thing was a bit selfish, especially considering you let YOURSELF still have orgasms. There were no positives for anybody but you, and he only went along with that bullshit because he loves you. That should be what you take away from that expirience, not that he can be trained like a dog to give you better sex.
Meanwhile he just made a tinder and is looking for a good side hoe
I doubt that. Maybe you would cheat but each person is different in what they want and what they are willing to do. My boyfriend wanted to re-ignite the sexual spark between rather than find someone else. So we sat down and talked about it and this is what came of it. Yes after 2 weeks times got tough for him but I had to keep in mind this what what he asked for and I had to help him along
Miss Anonymous is headed toward the male chastity fetish. It sounds as though both of them would get off on it.
Male chastity devices can be purchased from most on-line retailers.
Yeah, I could see how this would work.
Good Job!
Your man is gonna get backed up and that can't be good for anyone.
thats great... and what u did was really good for guys who only think of their orgasm. I am different and in bed i always wants to passionately fulfil the girls desire most of the time..
you're getting dumped soon you delusional prick
Then ill be single and I you can give me your no. And ill show you what having no control is all about little man.
no thanks. not interested in your bullshit.
Ill break you :)
you won't get near me.
This was awesome.
I know many won't like my opinion given all the other approving comments, but this sounds like an incredibly shallow demand from you.
You weren't getting enough honeymoon phase AFTER the honeymoon phase, so you decided it was time to take control and deny him pleasure till he hounded after you again and gave you the egotistical thrill of having all the dominance and attention you wanted.
i know he agreed to do this, but by god do you sound like a shallow bitch in this mytake. At the very least you should agree to go through the same scenario in reverse for him.
Sounds amazing but 3 weeks is unacceptable for me. Just 2-3 days of this is good torture enough for me ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) I'd like it.
Hahaha at those, who believe this is a troll take. Once again: Hahaha!
i guess some guys would be into that. but id never do that shit. sounds like torture to me. if a girls says i can't cum in her for 3 weeks im out of there lol..