Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I would just like to share something here. This won't be for everyone.
I think when it comes to sex, men can sometimes be solely focused on achieving orgasm. Everything a man does in the bedroom will often be aimed at getting himself or his partner to orgasm. This can be fun but I believe too many men focus on the orgasm and do not know how to enjoy the pleasure of just being horny or the intimacy of making slow tender love to that special woman.
I had been sexual relationship with my boyfriend for a year and after that time something didn't feel right anymore. It felt more mechanical than passionate. It was still nice but I no longer considered it a thrill to get down and dirty with my man.
In the hope of introducing a little spice to our sex life I proposed to play a little game with my man. The game was he could have no orgasms for three weeks. At the end of the three weeks I was going to tie him up and tease him like crazy and then untie him so he could ravage me. During his three weeks of orgasm denial we still had sex and I could still cum but he couldn't. I even spent nights giving him long hand jobs that we both knew would never end with him cumming. At times he would be leaking pre-cum everywhere, his erection would be almost purple and his balls would swell like crazy. But I never let him have an orgasm.
After about five days I began to notice changes in his behaviour. He started really making passionate love with me. He knew there was no point in rushing to orgasm so it took all the pressure off. He was more tender and more erotic in his love making and our love making sessions would last for hours on end because there were no orgasms to kill his interest. He also started paying a lot more attention to my pleasure and spent a lot of time giving me back rubs, foot massages and anything else I thought felt nice.
He really started taking more interest in me again, I would often catch him checking out my ass or trying to catch a glimpse up my skirt.
He started flirting with me again and he was interested in talking to me and getting my attention. He started calling me in his lunch break and asking how my day was going and was in a much better mood overall. It felt so good to have a boyfriend who was genuinely trying to get my attention.
He also became very very responsive to my touch. A simple hug would have him getting a rock hard erection.
After his three weeks of not being allowed to cum it was like we had a whole new relationship. He was so cheerful, talkative and flirty with me. It felt like we were back in that honeymoon period that all couples get in a new relationship. It was like we had found each other all over again. I really think that his time without cumming restored his mojo in a sense. Not just in the bedroom but with life in general.
Once his three weeks were up I fulfilled my promise and we had some great sex that resulted in him having a very intense and very messy orgasm. I really enjoyed the new found control and feminine dominance that I had over him. But I think we have both learned a lot from doing this. It has taught him how to slow down and just enjoy all the things a loving relationship can offer. It has taught him how it feels to be truly horny for someone and it has showed him the difference between just wanting and orgasm and craving intimacy with a person. Our sex life is a lot different now. Yes he does orgasm when he wants to. But I've found he is less interested in orgasm and more interested in making love to me and will often just bask in the joy of being horny rather than trying to cum.
A final word. If my man was really against this he would have simply gone away and jacked off while I wasn't looking. Yes sometimes he did complain about being horny but he went along with it anyway because I think he could see the positives.
If he had not being interested in adding some flame to our relationship or learning how to be a better lover then this would not have worked. So I need to give credit to him for how well he did this and how much I love him for it.
What Girls & Guys Said
23 68i guess some guys would be into that. but id never do that shit. sounds like torture to me. if a girls says i can't cum in her for 3 weeks im out of there lol..
So you're with a man who is a bad lover and you decided to put a stop to his orgasms in order to improve his skills. Stupid.
wow thats really amazing, your boyfriend has SO much control. And its so cool how passionate & romantic he became when he couldnt cum!! LOL
Id love to try it but every guy I know would just jack-off or get it from another girl:(
One thing (Im sorry if this isn't the right place to post) I like is limited-movement sex, like if your in a public place like a movie theater. You basically just sit on his lap with him inside you and his finger on your clit. Since its public you can't move hard or fast. He can't cum cos your not really moving enough but he stays hard cos he is inside you. Do that for 45 mins or an hour and when he finally cums GOSH!!! its like a heart attack!! :)
most guys dont have the self control to not cum for more then 2 days ;) No matter if they are 13 or 70. But it is so true that boys get much more passionate and romantic without cum. Cumming is a very destructive thing for guys. M< girlfriend once went to movie theater with me, and stroked my cock nonstop all the time, so I was hard for 2 hours. That was our first date! She hasn't let me cum since that day, thats why i still think about that night in the theater :)
@vampireelf your such a pussy and she's pribably swalloeing other guys cum too
@slimstiffy Ok mate ok. Because your not a virgin and know everything about relationships
yep. i know more than enough. she stroked him for two hours on first date> definite sloot. didn't make HIM cum since then. well, sinve she's a sloot, im 99% sure she got cum somewhere else. have a better theory?
@slimstiffy you are cute ;) still much to learn
@vampireelf nah im good. id much rather stay like this.
what a splendid idea. is it not unhealthy though?
I dont believe so. Men are able to have wet dreams so if his body really needed to get rid of some sperm he would have just done it in his sleep.
It can be.
Basicly the longer its been the quicker and easyer we blow to the point where wet dreams happen. If it dose happen It's very messy and not as good for your health for me i think wet dreams may happen if I went 4-5 days but for some maybe with a lower sex drive its longer and going a long time with out orgasm could increase the risk of infection as your not keeping it all fresh.
I have gone many month without orgasm at all. No wet dreams and no health problems. Many say there can be health issues if a man doesn't cum regulary. But they never really tried to not cum for a long time ;)
Quite the opposite that it's indeed healthy one could agrue. Too many dudes jack off or have sex too much. Yes you can have to much of a good thing lol.
does the semen get recycled and sent back?
some have wet dreams, and the sperm is just flowing out. But most, y the sperm is jsut recycled and dies. Its not like the balls are getting fuller ;) I dont even remember the last time I saw my semen
@vampireelf interesting
You're a cock tease and he's cheating on you right now.
I doubt that. Maybe you would cheat but each person is different in what they want and what they are willing to do. My boyfriend wanted to re-ignite the sexual spark between rather than find someone else. So we sat down and talked about it and this is what came of it. Yes after 2 weeks times got tough for him but I had to keep in mind this what what he asked for and I had to help him along.
He's cheating with a fat hair dresser.
Haha ok mate Ok
I'm going to not be allowed to take a shit for 3 weeks and see if it has the same effect.
Let me know how that works out for you lol
I think that's an amazing relationship. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy and so do you.
Yeah... No.
Very interesting!
Cuming or orgasm... Two separate things that guys can do?
I call bull shit.
I used to have a Mistress who did this to me
it was very beneficial
Why lol
@Shottagyal she wanted be to earn the right, and it be as a reward After, i can control when i cum
Well I agree with some of what you said but 3 weeks sounds to long and can't blue balls be painful or even harmful?
Anyways learning how to last longer is a good thing but I have no problems with that so yea.
I work away from home so i only see my wife one week a month. I can tell you everytime I come home it's like honeymoon phase again for those 7 days. The flirting, the looks she gives me, the need I have just to touch her, the sexual tension, and the reconnect is amazing. Almost makes it worth being away.
this was actually quite nice.
your what we men in the men department like to call a really big evil tease lol
My balls hurt just by thinking about this.
I would dry the girl up and squeeze all the juice out of that girl after 3 weeks :D
Clearly a guy posting as a girl
if you have to control your boyfriends orgasms like that to make him flirt with you again you have serious problem.