How Not to be Mom-Girlfriend?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

I notice that I care so much about my boyfriend I start acting like a mom:making him food, make sure he eats, makes sure if he goes out doesn't drink too much, randmly ask him for a cheek kiss, make sure he has warm clothes on, etc
Like... Im afraid my care for him is turning me i nto his mom and i do nt want to give this energy.
I want to give energy of a woman he wants to care for and protect and make love to.
What im doing wrong and is there a real danger in falling into this too " much care" turn off point? How to fin d balance?

[MaazHussain]

It's great that you care for your boyfriend, but it's important to find a balance between nurturing and being overbearing. It's normal to want to take care of your partner, but you don't want to cross the line and start treating him like a child. Here are some tips for finding that balance:

• Communicate: Talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling and ask for his input. Ask him if he feels like you're treating him like a child, and if there's anything you can do to change that.
• Focus on yourself: Remember that you're an individual with your own interests and needs. Don't neglect your own life or interests in favor of taking care of your boyfriend.
• Trust him: Give your boyfriend the space to make his own decisions and mistakes. Trust that he's capable of taking care of himself and making good choices.
• Show affection in different ways: Instead of always asking for a cheek kiss or making sure he has warm clothes on, try expressing your affection in different ways. Hold hands, give hugs, or plan a special date night.
• Recognize boundaries: It's important to respect your boyfriend's boundaries and not push him too hard. If he wants to go out and have a few drinks, let him do so responsibly.

Remember, finding a balance in a relationship takes time and effort from both partners. Keep the lines of communication open, be respectful of each other's boundaries, and focus on nurturing a healthy, equal relationship.

[ShiftingMonke]

My wife does most of those things, and I love her so much more for it. I don't see her as my mother, that's just one of the many ways she shows her love. I do protect and provide for her and my family too; if you think showing love like this is bad, maybe you're in the wrong relationship. Perhaps you'd be more comfortable with a man who doesn't want you showing that you care, or won't allow you to make his life better.

[Anonymous]

I do the same. I start trying to take care of him, feeding him, washing his clothes, worrying about him, caring for him when he’s sick, etc I think it’s just in our nature as women. I only had one boyfriend who was annoyed by it. The rest have never complained. I think most men enjoy the attention. I wouldn’t overthink it. Just make sure he’s worth it and you’re being fulfilled by the relationship too. You can be a caregiver and the object of his desire. They aren’t mutually exclusive.

[Vázquez613]

that is what he loves about you so keep doing it. it would be bad if you didn't care about him. he appreciates it.

[soe11]

You building relationships marvellous way, so keep it up.

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe you need to have a baby. Or a pet. So you can have a positive outlet for your mom instincts.

[Alex8736]

with this whole woke thing that guy's are being influenced by us giving them this false sense of entitlement where instead of appreciating things they just expect it