How often do you have sex when you don’t want to?

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  • If you aren’t in the mood to have sex with your partner then that’s fine you don’t have to,, but you shouldn’t constantly deny them either , if you aren’t in the mood you are best to please them in other ways, to let them know that you still love and care and value them. Trust me I been in relationships with girls that only thought of themselves and that’s when fire enters a relationship, when you only think of yourself that makes you a selfish person , for love to grow it’s about give and take , and removing selfishness for each other , you can’t expect someone to constantly give to you without them receiving in return , so it’s always best to compromise , if I am not in the mood to have sex but she is, I will finger her , eat her get her off in other ways to let her know that I still value her and love her , if I am in the mood and she isn’t , she is best to please me in other ways as well to let me know she values me loves me and appreciates me instead of just making it about herself , give me a hand job , blow me , let me tittle fuck you. Kiss me hold me etc. I’m sorry to sound perverted but that’s honestly the best way to let your partner know that you still love and appreciate them , When you constantly tell your partner you aren’t in the mood , you have a headache , you are too tired , making excuses you are damaging that relationship because you are only thinking of yourself , Most relationships end because of this selfish behavior it turns into a one sided relationship and resentments set in, leaving one partner feeling like they aren’t valued or appreciated or that you are up to no good when you only make things about yourself , why intimacy and affection is important in a relationship, if you honestly can’t do things to please your partner then you re best to let them go and let them go find someone that wants to please them , if you honestly can’t do so , You are a selfish person if you only think what is best for you Selfishness destroys so many relationships because we lol have selfishness in us , if you can’t learn to remove that selfishness from inside you? You will continue having failed relationships , It should be you and your partner vS the world , making such other your top priority over everyone else , if you can’t do that for
    Your partner they will not be able to do that for you

    • Did you answer the question in here🤔🤷‍♀️

    • LOL yes , all I am saying you shouldn’t force yourself to have sex if you aren’t in the mood , , if you are doing it just to appease your partner then honestly that’s going to make them feel worse , I rather her just be honest with me and please me in other ways , if she doesn’t feel like getting penetrated I don’t want her just spreading her legs to appease me , that’s where you girls don’t understand us men , most You girls just assume we want to stick are dicks in you thinking that’s all we want from you and that’s not true at Al , yes we love sex but when we love a girl we want her to want us as well , we want her to come into our arms we want her to look us in the eyes and tell us she loves us and that we make her feel safe , we want her to only have eyes for us not just be a blow up doll for us for us to get off on. When a guy feels his partner is just trying to appease him , we feel she doesn’t really value us that she is just doing her wifely duties and that’s not what we want , We want a girl that is going to look up to us , stand by our side love us , respect us the same way we want to do for her and love her , a girl that becomes blind to other men a girl that doesn’t allow another man to interfere , when we receive that from a girl she has nothing to worry about , we aren’t going to cheat on her , we feel we have a girl that we wouldn’t trade in at all we value and appreciate her like no other , you girls need to stop assuming we just want You to spread your legs for us , me personally doesn’t get off if I don’t Get her off and if she is faking it? Even worse

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  • Don't want to is a difficult to define concept since at some point I want to even if I've been dragged kicking and screaming. I realize that it's pretty insensitive to cop that as an attitude as a man because there are plenty of situations where women are forced to have sex- for lack of a better term- when they don't want to. Though I have been seduced when I has said no a few times but the difference is that if zi truly didn't want to, none of the situations when I've been ravished have been such that it was only persistence and persuasion - not force- that was being imposed upon me.

    Given that then, 3 times that I can think of I've had sex without my consent for the initiation.

    • Good insight

Most Helpful Girls

  • There are two different levels, one is I don't really want sex but it is OK, the other is if sex would upset me or be a problem for some reason physical or emotional. For example, if I felt ill, or if I was in the middle of something or in a hurry to get somewhere, or in a weird mood.

    I have sex in the first situation a lot, where I don't really want to but I don't have any big objection. Sex in the second situation would be a pretty serious warning sign or problem for a relationship. JMO!

  • I don’t have sex outside of a relationship.

    • That would mean this scenario must happen to you often?

    • Nope. I can’t date someone I don’t find interesting enough just because of sex.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Or maybe instead, it's how often do you want sex when you don't get it?

    How often do you have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Why would I not want to?

  • If that ever happens, I'll get back to you.

  • I'm almost always in the mood for sex but there rare moments when I'm not but I still went through with it.

    No regrets.

  • Don't want to? Wth are you talking crazy about? 😁

  • I think a fairer question to ask is:

    "How often do you NOT have sex when you want to?"

    Most of the time.

  • Very very rarely. Most of the time we're in sync but sometimes she needs sex but I'm not feeling it and we start anyway. I end up in the mood, she feels great so it's win win.

  • My rule is if I’m not in the mood and you feel like having sec, get me in the mood

    • Perfect

    • @SarahP080102 it works we’ve had days, and it’s not that uncommon, we’ll have sex 3 or 4 times a day. He’ll just get me excited and I’m like let’s go

  • It hasn't been 100% initiated by me but I am always excited by a girl wanting it. I don't see how a guy can have sex without wanting to at the time. I could see that subsequently a guy might think it was a bad idea.

    To have sex you have to have an erection and if you have an erection you are aroused so I just don't get the concept of a guy having sex without wanting to.

  • Think it's usually for girls?

  • I always want sex.

    • @Degenerate you’re supposed to be a degenerate 🤔

    • I'm a commie

    • Dw she just deletes everything

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  • I'm a virgin still, but, assuming I were married, I'd never not want it.

  • @wittymilf you'd have me in the mood because I find you very attractive 😉

  • Start to differentiate between penetration and mutual orgasm. Penetration's already sex - but itself isn't consumation of marriage.
    Most people assume that by sex you mean whatever it means to them - you need to be more specific.

  • I actually read an article that suggested the best cure for a woman who is worried about having a low sex drive is to just go through with sex even if you aren’t necessarily craving it. Usually your body will start responding and you will reach your goal

  • I want sex all the time

  • I usually want to but a few times I did have sex when I wasn’t in the mood to please my partner.

  • My boyfriend is often in the mood while I am not.

  • I can't even remember the last time I didn't want to and someone else did !! LOL

  • I might still have sex if she really horny and needs to orgasm but I might not be able to bring my A game if I am not in the mood or just tired. Also the sex will not be as good both for the guy and the girl need to bring the mood for great sex.

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