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Guys, How often do you look at porn & how often do you masterbate?

Here's my deal.
My boyfriend and I have only been together for about 3 months. I'm wondering how often guys that have only been with their girl this long need/ want to look at porn & masterbate?

My boyfriend is looking at pictures or videos almost every time he gets on his computer. It bothers me that he's almost always looking at it.

I don't understand and it bothers me.
We live together and he can have it any time. And i don't even have to get off. I've fucked him before just to get him off then served him dinner.
I think part of what also bugs me is I haven't been able go get him off by giving him a blow job or hand job. I've asked for tips and what would help and he says nothing that he loves it but still doesn't come.

Is it just me?
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So today I used his computer and it looks like he's saved stuff every time he's on it. It's all pretty normal. I thought I'd watch some and see if there was anything I might like it could try for him. Anyone got any advice on how to approach it. The normal isn't working. He told me he has been avoiding getting on his computer because of our talks. I don't want him to feel shamed by me. And he can watch it but everytime is w bit much to me. What do y'all say.
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  • Been married almost 15 years. Yes once a day but in my privacy and I need the release. It’s because my drive is too high and I don’t get it enough. It doesn’t replace her though when she’s in the mood. If I’m getting something and frequently I don’t have those needs and desires though. You sound very giving and I would be satisfied and not need or want to do those things.

    • That's what I guess gets me. I am ready all the time. So it isn't like he isn't getting it when he wants.

  • That sounds weird.. I never look at porn because it's so fake and unrealistic. I've never hear of a guy that couldn't get off from a HJ or BJ I know I certainly can. Vaginal sex is the very best thou! I often masturbate if she's not available it helps with going to sleep of when I wake up with morning wood!

    • Hahaha! Your image ;)

    • Me not being available is not a problem. I'm there and ready & willing.

    • True. I would always prefer having the real experience.

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  • Sorry my friend that's called porn addiction and it's the reason he's not getting off go look it up.

    It's not you it's his problem and he needs to deal with it. He's not going to get turned on by any real girl until he stops focusing all guys energy masterbating.

  • Talk to him about it. I know you have, but maybe not enough? Let him know it bothers you and why it bothers you. Find out his thoughts and feelings specifically and why he does it. Guys are visual and this often means nothing (as far as how he feels about you, it's just a visual aid to us), however you have a right to your feelings and he should respect them if he cares about you. Also you say he can have it anytime (you) and you don't even have to get off... have you told him this specifically? Don't assume he knows this. And as far as him not orgasming, this would really bother me. I'd ask him more questions, like "if everything is good, why aren't you orgasming?" (although sometimes it just doesn't happen and there's no reason behind it) lol. Would he like you to do or try anything differently? Sometimes it can be the slightest "adjustment" even. Like I've had hj's, and they've been great, but I might need her to ease up on the pressure just slightly for me to orgasm, maybe it's something like that? The last girl I was with was like this, it seemed to take forever for me to get her off, so I'd ask her if she liked what I was doing, and all she'd say is "yeah", lol. So I don't know if she didn't want to say, or if she was telling the truth?

    • I've told him that he can just use me. I've actually fucked him one day just to get him off and walked away and got him dinner. But we talked about it again last night and he said that he feels as long as it doesn't interfere with us them he doesn't see a problem. But I tried to explain that it does and I kinda felt like because he doesn't them it doesn't matter. I've offered to watch it with him. But still hasn't happened. I've watched a bit of what he watches and is nothing special. Dick sucking, from behind, missionary. So I'm at a loss. Because I won't tell him to give it up because I don't want him to resent me for it. But I also don't know how to make my self accept it.

  • He's not into you/what you're doing
    He is into what he watches tho and frequency and preference differs from guy to guy, so I don't watch porn at all but usually do the deed once a day IF I NEED TO

  • I use porn 2-3 times a week, and I masturbate twice a day, every day for as long as I can remember.

    • Were u from Ill need further inspection

    • That's it dude just 2or3 a week pff I do that a day and u gotta smack ur penis against a wall and choke a it a bit cause u have to let it know who's boss

    • I don't need or want porn every time. I've had some incredible sexual experiences that I can reflect on as well as an expansive fantasy library. I think people who need porn are defective.

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  • It's NOT you- no, no, no. Maybe he's too tired after looking at the boob tube (pun intended) all day. He certainly could have a problem there. Not having a caring girlfriend is certainly not his problem. Good luck, Maria.

    • Thanks. Making him happy is my goal. I just don't know what to do.

    • Perhaps some counseling would be in order, here. He might need to work on compulsions or addictions. You might want to check to be sure that you aren't a "people pleaser" who sacrifices their own well-being for others. He will have to accept the happiness that you offer. If he doesn't accept it, that's his loss. You did what you could. I'll pray for you both.

    • Thank you. Trust me I'm not a people pleased. I once was but not anymore. I've been burned to many times.

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  • There was a time where I could spend hours and hours on porn, or looking for sex online. But after repetition you just learn that it's pointless and untasteful.

    So basically today I would spend just the needed time to get off. Likely once or twice a day, three times on the best days. Four rarely but still possible.

  • Let him watch it trust me he loves u and would go crazy without u but try this is u must accept that then see if he accepts ur kinky side and say u want another guy for dp and see if he accepts and if he don't then say why the double standards and if he accepts let me know I'll drop by and we will double team u till u get enough lol

  • I have an idea opinion? Masterbaders beware this question is to get you to a hook there is something about that word that girls absolute hate and that's when their man is masterbsding especially to porn flicks they absolute hate it and will be warned will take it against you if the opportunity arises she will ctitizise and ridicule how stupid you really are.

    • I don't mind him masturbating sometimes. I just am bothered by how often he looks at porn.

    • Yeah you know how many boyfriend's end up getting the Messege when you know he's up to no good. Did you know professional doctor recommend masterbation? Many man who do not masterbsding 21 times a month risk the chance for prostate cancer? I bet you didn't know that one and before you wet your wellies think of this if your girlfriend doesn't mind it she's lying. I masterminded the rule so goodbye prostate cancer sucker!

    • I maturbate often my girl loves to see me cum on her she will swallow it if I asked she just cums to soon I might have to leave cause I want more and she's always shaking and getting goose bumps and her legs and arms are out of control and she scratch Ed me really bad once I bleed and had to put a Spiderman band aid on it was brutal sex that day I should have been a bit more calm but she provokes it u know so I ran it in deep and boom she's all over the place like a seizure

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  • A. He nees porn to get off. Just a mental thing. B. Porn is fine to a point.. to a point.. and ypu may need more practice trying different methods

    • What kind of different methods. I've done some research. I've tried them on him and nothing.

    • Hm every guy likes it a little different so I can't answer for him to be honest. What I like hr may not

  • Check what kind of porn he watches. What are the things done in it and try it next time. I think he wants to experiment something.

    • I have. Its nothing I don't already do. I mean there are some things we can't do because he has a bad knee but I just don't understand.

    • Solution: Do cowgirl, reverse cowgirl and Blowjob.

    • Done those

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